Victoria Cumberlege Narcissistic Abuse Specialist

12/03/2026

🌿 The word TRAUMA comes from the Latin word, “wound.” Whilst we often associate trauma with physical injuries, like those from car accidents or war, trauma is much more than that. It’s not just about what happened to you, it’s about what happens INSIDE you during and after that event.

🌿 When we experience something deeply distressing, it leaves a mark not just on our minds but on our bodies as well. Trauma lodges itself in the body, around the fascia of our muscles and the parts of the brain that cannot be reached through talk alone. This is why simply discussing your trauma with a counsellor (who does not do trauma work) or to receive CBT might not lead to the healing you need and deserve. Indeed talking about your trauma can just re-traumatise you!

🌿 You might find yourself stuck, unable to move forward, and end up blaming yourself for not being able to 'just get over it.' The inner critic can then become very loud.

🌿 But here’s the good news: modern trauma therapies go way beyond traditional talk therapy. These approaches are designed to help you process and release the trauma stored in your body AND the deeper parts of your brain.

🌿 I’m trained in many of these innovative methods, and they can help you truly move on - to have a life free of flashbacks, an unregulated nervous system and constant hyper-vigilance.

🌿 Remember, healing from trauma isn’t just about revisiting the past, it’s about transforming it, so you can live fully in the present!

23/10/2025

🌿 Did you know that after trauma and long term anxiety the middle ear can become effected? The middle ears' muscles slacken or 'lose tone'.

🌿 This means that the individual then hears higher and lower tones which can mean 'DANGER ⚠️' to the nervous system!

🌿 The Safe and Sound Protocol is a gentle, evidence-based listening program designed to help calm the nervous system - it was created by Dr. Stephen Porges and based on the Polyvagal Theory.

🌿 SSP uses specially filtered music to help your body feel safe — retraining and re-toning your nervous system to shift out of survival mode and into connection and calm. Over time, this process can help:

Ease symptoms of anxiety and depression
Support recovery from trauma
Improve emotional regulation, focus, and social engagement

🌿 When your nervous system feels calm and supported, true emotional healing becomes possible 😀!

🌿 I incorporate SSP into my therapy programs for clients healing from complex trauma, anxiety, and depression - helping them reconnect to their sense of safety, balance, and resilience.

🌿 If this sounds like something that might support you, I’d love to chat more about how it works.

23/10/2025

🌿 Did you know that after trauma and long term anxiety the middle ear can become effected? The middle ears’ muscles slacken or ‘lose tone’.

🌿 This means that the individual then hears higher and lower tones which can mean ‘DANGER ⚠️’ to the nervous system!

🌿 The Safe and Sound Protocol is a gentle, evidence-based listening program designed to help calm the nervous system - it was created by Dr. Stephen Porges and based on the Polyvagal Theory.

🌿 SSP uses specially filtered music to help your body feel safe — retraining and re-toning your nervous system to shift out of survival mode and into connection and calm. Over time, this process can help:

Ease symptoms of anxiety and depression
Support recovery from trauma
Improve emotional regulation, focus, and social engagement

🌿 When your nervous system feels calm and supported, true emotional healing becomes possible 😀!

🌿 I incorporate SSP into my therapy programs for clients healing from complex trauma, anxiety, and depression - helping them reconnect to their sense of safety, balance, and resilience.

🌿 If this sounds like something that might support you, I’d love to chat more about how it works.

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29/08/2025

🍀 Emotional neglect is a hidden hurt. It doesn’t leave obvious scars—it hides behind what LOOKS like a normal life. You may have had food, shelter, and schooling, yet still missed the emotional care you needed.

🍀Because it’s invisible, emotional neglect often goes unnoticed. It can show up in subtle ways—like always depending on yourself, striving for perfection, or struggling to express feelings, or find it hard to ask for help. Perhaps you get triggered when you are not seen or heard. Our culture’s focus on success and busyness makes it easy to overlook these signs.

🍀Recognising that the emotional neglect we received, through no fault of our own, helps us see that what feels like “just who we are” may actually be old survival patterns. Healing means giving ourselves the love and support we once missed. It’s a chance to reconnect with ourselves, find our values and strengths, who our authentic self is, and build deeper, healthier bonds with others.

🍀Do send a dm if you would like help with this?

28/08/2024

17/04/2023

🍀 When you feel anxious and you look around you and you can see you’re not in any imminent threat to your safety, then your anxiety is most likely an alarm from the younger you!

🍀 Our nervous system is like a recording of our feelings since we were tiny. If we FELT something that was uncomfortable/scary/diminishing or made you feel ‘less than’ when you were young, then the nervous system remembers it. However, it’ll remember it as DANGER because it was unpleasant.

🍀 So whenever you feel that same emotion as an adult the body goes into a trauma vortex to alert you to the danger. All this can be done without you consciously knowing what those old feelings were.

🍀 If you need help to find out what your system perceives as danger, do get in contact!

🍀 Healing from anxiety is absolutely possible!

30/03/2023

If you have ever suffered a mental health problem, a time when you really felt down, being told to ‘get over it’ is one of the worst things you’ll hear. How about a reply of ‘Well you get over your broken leg then’ or ‘you get over your autoimmune disease then’. 🤬 Now that is unthinkable isn’t it? You would be vilified, and quite rightly so,
if you said that to someone. But, it’s all the same, ...... an illness is an illness. .
Let’s all help each other get over our illnesses 😃! Double tap if you agree! 💓 .
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08/12/2022

🌿 Children are unable to blame their parents, they ALWAYS blame themselves.

🌿 During therapy the adult child can then start to heal the little child within them. Inner child work is one of the most important parts of the therapy that I do!

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25/11/2022

🌿 I work with many people who suffer from health anxiety and this on top of general anxiety is a very real issue for them.

🌿 Anxiety causes havoc on the body in fact there are over 250 side effects of anxiety. Over 70% of trips to Accident and Emergency are caused by anxiety!

🌿 Anxiety is treatable. Finding the root cause of the anxiety is so important as you cannot heal from something that you have no idea how it started. Gaining clarity will give you a huge boost to your recovery and then using neuroplasticity, your very own bespoke self-hypnosis audio, re-programming of the mind happens.

For more about Rapid Transformational Therapy, do have a look at my web and book in a Discovery Call with me. Don't put it off, healing is around the corner!