Heartsease Consultancy

27/09/2025

Such an honest, vulnerable and heartfelt post by Fearne Cotton highlighting the impact psychotherapy has had on her ability to heal younger parts of herself, soothe the wounded parts and build a stronger internal dialogue which prevents the seeking of validation in external ways… well done Fearne for posting such a powerful and authentic insight into the therapy experience… ❤️‍🩹 healing is a journey ❤️‍🩹

Jumping on the AI band wagon with this one but it brought up a lot.

I have done a lot of therapy over the years looking at how I can help heal younger parts of myself. I have imagined hugging a younger me often. I have welcomed her into my arms and asked her to help me take life less seriously, to look around in awe again, to dream big, to care less what others think in the most childlike way. I've also needed to soothe past versions of myself. The bits that got broken along the way. The parts that are still wounded and go on the defence.

It can feel awkward, self indulgent, maybe even cheesy to suggest looking after your inner child, but its also essential. We all need to go back and metaphorically give that part of ourselves a hug. We need to tell her/him its all going to be alright, and even in moments when its not, that you'll get through it.

I wouldn't warn her of what's to come. Some of it is too horrid, but some of it is utterly, mind blowing in the best possible way and I would want that to be a surprise for her.

Never abandon that part of yourself. She/he always needs you ❤️

25/09/2025

❤️ ✅ emotionally safe people are YOUR people ❤️
Not ❌ those relationships in your life when you feel judged, manipulated, unable to trust, unsupported, criticised and when you feel like walking on eggshells so as not to ‘set the person off’ on a rant or another mood swing…..
Listen to your body reactions when around partners, family and friends and notice who are really your people 🫶🏻

01/09/2025

🍁 Hello September 🍁
How beautiful it is ‘to let go’ 🍂 ❤️
Much easier said than done when working through and processing life experiences… but absolutely possible and natural for renewal and growth … 🫶🏻

29/08/2025

The processing of trauma is about feeling all the emotions that were too overwhelming for you to process during the trauma experience…. Processing is about helping your body and mind to feel safe to feel the emotions and re write your narrative and interpretations of what these feelings are… this journey can feel tough but the emotional and personal growth far outweighs the challenge as does the ability to feel safe being still again and coming out of survival behaviours 🫶🏻

15/08/2025

So many people often minimise or don’t recognise these harmful behaviours and the impact living with same can affect our mental health and self esteem….
🛑 Abuse isn’t always physical … it’s also abuse if ….🛑
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11/08/2025

Hi 👋🏼
I thought I would share the People Pleasing Iceburg from my therapeutic self help package for those who wish to work on this life limiting belief and behaviour, learn to say NO and confidently find their inner voice 🙌🏻
I have taken some personal space and time away from usual working hours over the past couple of months so there has been a “pause” with these packages but I am back on track with developing content and am hoping these will be available on www.heartseaseconsultancy.co.uk website soon 👀
Have a look at this iceberg… I know this will resonate with some of you 🫶🏻

03/07/2025

Heartsease HQ will be closed now until Wednesday 9th July… taking a break for a few days and when out and about exploring my holiday destination I came across my namesake 🤩🥰❣️

25/06/2025

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20/06/2025

The very talented Agatha Kisiel Photography has been taking many pics for me to choose from for Heartsease Consultancy new website… I love this one with my two wee dachshunds 🩵🩵 Jack from InPROJECT is also working in the background on coordinating content and online programmes that will be available and will be pulling it all together in the next couple of months - I will keep you all posted 🤗💫

28/05/2025

Yes 🙌🏻

23/05/2025

I have stepped away from Heartsease HQ to enjoy some solace and a long bank holiday weekend. This was just so lovely today, sitting in stillness and silence by the sea. Here are a couple of quotes to reflect on regarding the sea and its connection with healing ❤️‍🩹

“When I sit here by the sea and listen to the sound of waves, I feel free from all obligations and people of this world.” – Henry Thoreau

"You have been walking the ocean's edge, holding up your robes to keep them dry. You must dive naked under and deeper under, a thousand times deeper." - Rumi

🫶🏻try to find some time for stillness this weekend regardless of agenda - so essential for our mind and soul 🫶🏻 if stillness scares you or feels uncomfortable then become curious as to why this might be ✨

14/05/2025

I have recently supported a special young lady in the final weeks of her life. What I have learned from her has been invaluable ✨ this lady from the outset wanted the ‘human’ such was her negative experiences with professionals - so the human was what she got. It reminded me of the importance of being human first before the professional when building relationships and creating an environment for healing.
Therapy is often a very intimate and personal journey, one which people hold close to their hearts and for that reason references or reviews are something that can be difficult to request.
This young lady left me a poem to be given to me once she passed. I found it so touching and I am confident she would want this to be shared.
In memory of a very special young lady - will always be remembered for teaching me things textbooks never could ✨🫶🏻🤍