Soul TherHappy

11/05/2025

Being single for a long time can shift your entire perspective. At first, the silence may feel unfamiliar, even lonely—but over time, it becomes sacred. You learn to enjoy your own company, to trust your own rhythms, and to build a life that feels whole without needing someone else to complete it. The peace that comes from not compromising yourself, not constantly explaining your heart, becomes something you fiercely protect.

And maybe that’s why the idea of loving again feels more like a threat than a promise. It’s not about bitterness or fear—it’s about finally understanding the value of your own space, your own calm. You've tasted the kind of stillness that doesn’t depend on anyone, and it's made you question whether chaos, even in the name of love, is worth disturbing that. Maybe, just maybe, being only you is not just enough—it’s everything.

07/03/2025

The past version of you—the one who was uncertain, afraid, and full of doubt—would be proud of who you are today. They would see someone who faced their fears head-on, despite the uncertainty. They would remember the nights spent overthinking, the moments of hesitation, and the times they almost gave up. But you didn’t. You pushed through, made the hard choices, and kept moving forward even when it felt impossible. That version of you might not have known how strong they were, but looking at you now, they’d realise just how much courage was in them all along.

You did the things that once scared you. You stepped into the unknown, took risks, and embraced growth, even when it was uncomfortable. You learned, you adapted, and you became someone your past self could only dream of being. And while the journey wasn’t easy, every challenge shaped you into the person you are now—stronger, wiser, and more resilient. So if you ever doubt yourself again, remember this: the past you is cheering for you, and the future you is waiting, proud of what you will become next. Keep going. I am proud of you.

21/01/2025

The hardest thing is to put to bed a friendship you thought was for a lifetime. It's especially hard when it's because someone chooses to believe the worst in you instead of remembering the best.

We can use tropes like "friendships are for a season" or "people change." Sometimes we end friendships because it is the healthy thing to do or a life event changed us in some way.

But be gentle with other people's hearts, kind with your thoughts and words, and optimistic about people's actions when you've been deep and bonded.

Friendship can be hard, and we have to keep learning and growing to make it work.

Friendship isn't about getting invited to events. It's about the people who show up on your doorstep when you need it most without being asked.

Friendship isn't worrying about every word that comes out of your mouth or passive-aggressive comments or believing the bad about you when it comes out of someone else's mouth. It's about believing the best even when you're at your worst.

Good friends show up. Great friends keep bothering you when you've gone silent to make sure you're okay.

Good, strong, messy beautiful friendship is rare. But it's out there. I've seen it. I'm lucky enough to have a few of these people in my life.

But I've also been hurt, so I try to learn from that. I try to grow from these experiences, understand my role, remember how I felt during those times.

Do you want to find good friends, great friends? It's not just about how they treat you. It's how they treat other people.

Look for the woman who always has room at her table for one more. Life isn't an exclusive club.

Listen to the way they talk about people when they're not in the room, because you won't always be in the room.

Watch how they treat someone who needs help, because friend, we all need help sometimes.

Remember how they treat people when they feel wronged, because there will always be misundersandings.

Look for the women who tell their stories from the trenches, the ones willing to admit they've faced problems in their marriage, the ones willing to admit the fears for their kids.

Seek out the ones who invite you into their messy because they have no time for false pretenses.

Find the women who don't cringe when you share you've faced mental health challenges or you struggle with motherhood or your teenager got in trouble again.

Look for the way a woman is openly and brutally honest with another woman because it's the kindest gesture she could offer. Look for the woman who holds a judgmental tongue to let her friend rant. Look for the woman who doesn't share other women's secrets because you probably have some secrets, too. Look for the woman who will tell you that you have spinach in your teeth or a tag on your dress.

And then be this kind of friend, too.

Friendship isn't about what you see on social media. It's about finding someone to share the joy and the sorrow and the beautiful and the messy. It's a place where you can bare your soul without fear or judgment from the outside world.

It's a relationship with someone who makes you better but loves you just the way you are.

Instead of looking at friendship as seasons, be a friend that accepts the tides. Sometimes it's high, touching every aspect of your life, and sometimes it may be low with minimal impact, but it is always there.

Life is short, and you never know what tomorrow will bring.

Be brave with your friendships. Think the best of someone. Don't play games. Talk things out.

I'm lucky to have a few friendships like this.

I hope you do, too.

Love hard.

15/12/2024

28/11/2024

"One of the most difficult goodbyes occurs when we love a person and, at the same time, we see that it is not possible to build a healthy relationship by their side. It is a moment of deep introspection, where the heart and mind are debating between staying or leaving.

Well, staying would imply continuing to wait for changes that do not arrive, tolerating actions that hurt us, accepting the slightest effort, losing ourselves in the attempt not to lose it. Sometimes, hope ties us to unsustainable situations. We cling to the idea that things will improve, but the reality is that it doesn't always happen that way. Courage is in recognizing when it's time to let go and let go.

We know that leaving will hurt; but it will be the route that will lead us to heal. The pain of farewell is inevitable, but it is also the first step towards healing. By moving away from what hurts us, we allow our wounds to heal. It is an act of self-love and self-care.

Instead, staying alone will continue to open the wound more and more. Remaining in a toxic or unsatisfactory relationship prolongs the suffering. Every day we spend in that situation, the wound deepens. It's like we're tearing an open wound over and over again.

Sometimes you choose to leave, not for lack of love for that person, but for your self-love that moves you to take care of yourself. And with love you leave. The decision to leave is not an act of lack of love for the other person, but an act of love for oneself. That is to say: "I love myself enough not to allow myself to continue suffering." And in that self-love, we find the strength to say goodbye, be in PEACE and fall forward.

Remember that every farewell is an opportunity to grow, learn and transform yourself. Sometimes, the greatest act of love is to let go of what no longer nourishes us, to give space to new experiences.

02/10/2024

HELLO OCTOBER
THE SEASON OF LETTING GO

And so begins the season of letting go,
when Mother Nature shows us all,
how it’s done.

Let go,
free yourself,
shake it off,
drop it,
give way for the new.

Create space for new thoughts, new ideas,
new adventures and new connections,
by shedding the dead weight you’ve been carrying around,
for so long.

And whilst you are there, being reborn and renewed,
let go of old anxieties too.

Let go of any doubts, fears or beliefs which no longer serve you well.

Release bitterness or past hurts which feast on your beauty.

Be brave,
Don’t fear the nakedness as your leaves slip away.

Mother Nature doesn’t,
watch and learn and trust in the process.

✍️ Donna Ashworth
🎨 Martin Eager Runique

22/08/2024

It has been one of the greatest and most difficult years of my life. I learned everything is temporary.
Moments. Feelings. People. Flowers. I learned love is about giving- everything- and letting it hurt.
I learned vulnerability is always the right choice because it is easy to be cold in a world that makes it so very difficult to remain soft.

I learned all things come in twos: life and death, pain and joy, sugar and salt, me and you. It is the balance of the universe. It has been the year of hurting so bad but living so good, making friends out of strangers, making strangers out of friends.

We must learn to focus on warm energy, always. Soak our limbs in it and become better lovers to the world, for if we can't learn to be kinder to each other how will we ever learn to be kinder to the most desperate parts of ourselves

05/07/2024

LOVE THIS ANALOGY!

You're holding a cup of coffee and someone accidentally bumps into you, causing it to spill everywhere.

Why did you spill the coffee?

"Because someone bumped into me."

Wrong answer.

You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. If there had been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea.

Whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out.

So, when life shakes you up, whatever is inside you will come out.

It's easy to pretend everything's fine until you're shaken.

So, we have to ask ourselves, "What's in my cup?"

When life gets tough, what spills over? Joy? Gratitude? Peace? Humility? Anger? Bitterness? A victim mentality? A tendency to quit?

Remember LIFE gives you the cup; YOU choose what to fill it with!