Calm View Counselling

07/05/2026

I felt this was spot on for many of my clients and myself in the past. Rumination is replaying events or conversations; taking up energy, allowing your inner critic to control the narrative and remove you from being in the here and now. Reflection is a positive way to gain a new perspective and allows space for growth.

After 20 years of practicing medicine, I have learned that rumination is not the same as reflection.

A 2008 paper in Perspectives on Psychological Science synthesized decades of research on rumination. Replaying past events without resolution was strongly associated with depression, anxiety, and even worse physical health markers. The mind, given an old wound to revisit, often deepens it instead of healing it.

Memory replay is not analysis. It is residency.

You are allowed to remember without revisiting.

Your present life deserves your presence.

What memory have you been replaying? Set a five minute timer. Think it through. Then close the door, kindly, and go live today.

25/04/2026

This 🫶

You don’t have to be pulled out of the dark to be helped.

Sometimes, the most healing thing
is when someone chooses to sit beside you in it.

14/04/2026

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You control the story in your head 🌿✨

29/03/2026

How many times do you say “I should”…Counselling helps uncover where they come from and challenge the narrative 🫶

'Shoulds' show up in most of us, and we dont always notice the weight that comes along with them.

16/03/2026

Not everything we carry is visible.

From the outside, it can seem like we are fine, even thriving at times. We hold it all together, we smile, show up and just get on with things. Yet beneath the surface, we may be carrying far more than others can see.

But, just because they can't be seen, doesn’t mean they are any less heavy, or that they don’t still impact and eventually take their toll on us.

For many, therapy can become a place, sometimes the only place, where some of that weight can be put down, acknowledged and unpacked.

Just because you are carrying it, doesnt mean it has to be carried alone. And just because you are carrying it now, doesnt mean you have to forever.

12/03/2026

Healing isn't always straightforward. It can feel messy, hard and uncomfortable, at times.

We might set a boundary and struggle to uphold it as the guilt sets in.
We circle back to something we thought we had 'dealt with'.
We return to old patterns we know don't truly serve us.

And that's ok. You're not 'doing' it wrong.

Healing isn’t about becoming perfectly regulated or never struggling again. It’s often about noticing sooner and about having more awareness when we do 🩷

10/03/2026

10/03/2026

For my birthday this year, a good friend gifted me a new set of therapy cards. I’m always struck by how powerful these cards can be in helping clients uncover thoughts and emotions they didn’t realise were there. Sometimes we use them in a first session, especially when a client isn’t sure where to begin. Other times, a client asks for them simply out of curiosity.

I almost always bring them into our final session together. They offer a wonderful way to visualise the counselling journey — from those early moments of uncertainty, through growing self-awareness, to recognising how experiences have shaped them, and finally to the changes they are beginning to embody.

I am looking forward to exploring this new set with my clients.

07/03/2026

Some steps to help if you are experiencing anxiety due to what is happening in the world right now.

06/03/2026

Inspirational women 💕

02/03/2026

This 💜

Safety in therapy doesn’t mean it will always feel calm or 'easy', or that difficult things wont be brought to the surface.
It means that when hard emotions do arise, the relationship remains consistent and steady enough for healing to happen.