28/11/2025
Your fatigue is not always born from the present – your body holds memories of the past. If you had to be constantly on standby as a child – because the environment was uncertain, your parents were critical, or you had to adapt often – your body learned that rest is a threat. This constant readiness is part of your survival pattern and is also activated as an adult when you are overwhelmed.
The moment of “collapse” is not always spectacular: it can be crying, depression, physical symptoms, illness, or simply when you can no longer carry the burdens. As a child, these moments often took place without support, so they are fixed like trauma. As an adult, when you experience overload again, your body reacts in the same way as if you were in the childhood situation again.
The nervous system holds the feeling of uncertainty and threat, the body remembers and automatically switches to standby mode. Recognizing and allowing yourself to be exhausted is not a weakness, but the first step to healing: when you listen to your body’s signals, you can learn a new rhythm where rest is not a threat, but an indulgence.
Take a few minutes to ask yourself the following questions:
-What situations make you feel exhausted, as if you are reliving the past?
-What bodily signs indicate that your body is “overworked” before it actually collapses?
-What is one small thing you could do today to listen to your body’s signals and allow yourself to rest?
-How could you gradually teach your body that rest is not a threat, but a safety and indulgence?
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Krisztina Csete