22/02/2025
I vividly remember a couple of conversations just after my first baby was born—where people braced themselves as they asked about the birth, almost expecting a horror story.
And when they didn’t get one… when I said, “Well, it was amazing”—they didn’t really believe me.
I could see it in their faces. Like I must be in denial, or I was sugarcoating it, or maybe I was just a bit... delusional🙃 I almost felt like I had to convince them that, no, I really meant it. It really was powerful, beautiful, life-changing.
And I get why. We’ve been conditioned to believe that birth is something to endure—a test of pain tolerance, a loss of control, something to suffer through before we finally meet our babies.
And that belief, it feeds a cycle.
One where fear shapes our births before they even begin. One where we assume birth has to be traumatic because we’ve never been told it can be anything else.
On here, if your algorithm is anything like mine, beautiful birth stories are everywhere, but it's easy to forget this is not the real world 🙃
Because outside these squares, the dominant narrative is still trauma. And it can feel uncomfortable—or even insensitive—to share a story that’s different.
((This is not a post about how or why people have positive experiences (or indeed what that birth looked like) this is just about the fact that they happen.))
Because the truth is...
✨ We are absolutely capable of powerful, positive birth experiences.
✨ We deserve them.
✨ And we need to hear these stories.
So YES, I loved giving birth.
YES, my births were intense and transformative and romantic and wild.
YES, I think about them all the time.
YES, they changed me—for the better.
REALLY, ACTUALLY YES.
Do you share your positive birth stories? Does it feel easy to do so?
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