 
                                                                                                    04/07/2025
                                            You can still have a celebration of life after a direct cremation 🩷
On Monday, I was invited to hold a small celebration of life for Paul and his family after he requested a direct cremation, minimum fuss and to be tucked in at . Paul was a quiet fella; a person that kept to himself and his family but had a deep love of socialism, nature, music and good food. Although he wasn't someone that wanted a big funeral, just to be cremated and placed somewhere he loved, his family still wanted to celebrate how important he was to them and to take a moment for those closest to him to be present whilst he was settled into his forever home. 
Before tucking Paul in, we spent time in the Forget Me Not Field's remembrance room where we retold stories of Paul's life, laughed at memories, thanked him for his influence in life and listened to some of his favourite songs, all whilst he sat nicely front and centre in his heart shaped box covered in drawings and messaged from his grandchildren that loved him so. We then walked to Paul's plot in the sun playing You'll Never Walk Alone for this kopite before placing yellow roses with him; a tradition that Paul had with his wife, Nicky, giving her yellow roses every anniversary whilst playing the song Cowboy Junkies  If You Were the Woman and I was The Man. 
The sun was shining and everyone felt calm, at peace and present in the moment provided to hold space for their grief in a very Paul kind of way. It was honestly lovely ❤️
Direct cremation is a way people are finding best to help cut the huge costs of a funeral. But families aren't realising that you can still hold space for a celebration of life once your person's ashes are returned to you in a way that feels more personal, less rushed and more loving than a service at a crematorium. It doesn't have to be a small, grand affair. It can be intimate with no specific set order. It can a free flowing, peaceful time. This is where I hope to help more families in the future that wish to still acknowledge their love and gratitude for the life of their loved ones that are no longer here in a more organic and cost efficient way 💖                                        
 
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                                                                                     
                                         
   
   
   
   
     
   
   
  