23/04/2026
Lately I’ve been saying to a close friend, “are you in the well?”
It’s something we ask each other when life feels heavy, when things feel hard, when we’re in it.
And the other night, I dreamt of it.
I was at the bottom of a well… but it wasn’t dark or tight or suffocating.
It was wide, open, almost like a cave.
There was so much light pouring in from above.
And I wasn’t alone. We were both there.
Two deer, just gently moving, existing, together in that space.
It stayed with me.
Because in waking life, I am in my own version of the well right now. Navigating this ongoing journey with my back, chasing doctors, referals, sitting in debilitating pain that no one else can actually feel but me.
And that part can feel lonely.
But at the same time… I’ve been met with so much care. Messages, calls, people reaching out. Reminding me that even when the experience is personal, I’m not alone in it.
And that’s what the dream felt like.
The deer, for me, carries something really tender.
Sensitivity, intuition, the courage to stay open-hearted.
Not armouring up, even when it would be easier to.
Trusting the body, listening deeply, moving gently with what is.
And maybe that’s the real medicine here.
Not getting out of the well as quickly as possible, but allowing there to be light in it, allowing there to be company in it.
Because support doesn’t always remove the difficulty, but it can soften the way we move through it.
I also know that for many of us, receiving support isn’t straightforward. If it hasn’t always been there, or it’s come with conditions, or expectations, it can feel unfamiliar, even unsafe to lean into.
So we stay in it alone. But what if we didn’t have to?
What if there are people who can sit with us in the well, not to fix, not to rescue, but just to be there.
And what if we allowed ourselves to be seen there too?
I’m still learning that.
Still softening into that.
But I’m feeling the difference it makes.
So maybe this is your gentle nudge,
if you’re in your own version of the well right now…
Who could you reach for?
And if someone is reaching towards you,
can you let them?