Laura Hans Therapy

15/04/2026

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07/04/2026

‼️If you snapped at your kids lately, this one’s for you:

Before the guilt spiral starts — that moment doesn’t make you a bad mum. It makes you a human one.

Losing it isn’t a character flaw. It’s information. It’s your nervous system telling you that what you’re carrying right now is more than one person should have to carry alone.

When you compare yourself to the mums who never seem to lose it - it may not be that they’re more patient than you. It may be that they have more support, more rest, or fewer fires to put out.

Your capacity isn’t broken. It’s just full.
And full looks different on different days — different seasons, different circumstances. Some days you’ll handle everything with grace. Other days, grace isn’t available because you’re running on empty.

So instead of asking “what’s wrong with me?” — try asking “what do I need right now?”

🙋🏽‍♀️I’m Laura, a Therapist for New Mum’s. Come follow me if you’re fed up of feeling like you’re getting motherhood all wrong. Let me nurture you while you learn to nurture yourself 🫶🏽

27/02/2026

That moment you lost your temper with your kids?

It probably happened because you had an unmet need. Full stop.

But here’s what most mums don’t realise…
When we beat ourselves up for it, we actually make it more likely to happen again. 💔

Because self-criticism shrinks your capacity to cope. And a smaller capacity to cope means you’re running on empty — which is exactly when those big reactions happen.

But when you meet yourself with grace and compassion after a hard moment?

You widen that capacity. You build more resilience. You become less likely to repeat it.

So the kindest thing you can do for your children is actually to be kind to yourself first.

Not perfect. Not self-punishing. Just… compassionate.

You’re not a bad mum for struggling. You’re a human being with unmet needs, doing the hardest job in the world. 🫶🏽

If this resonated and you want more support like this straight to your inbox, comment NURTURE below and I’ll send you the link to The Nurture Toolkit — my free fortnightly email packed with real, actionable support for mums just like you.

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26/02/2026

Having intrusive thoughts doesn’t make you mad or bad - it makes you human 🥰

If you’re a new mum wanting support and nurture as you navigate motherhood, we’d love to have you on our next course in April. Click the link in bio on .olney page to book.

17/10/2025

https://laurahanstherapy.co.uk/perinatal-mental-health/3-mood-boosting-daily-habits-for-new-mums/

Hi all, I’m sharing my latest blog please read/share with anyone who may benefit 🤗

Caring for a newborn is hard work. Discover 3 mood-boosting daily habits for new mums to improve your mental health…

18/09/2025

Hi, I’m Laura 👋🏽

I’m a Psychotherapist for New Mums and mum of three, and I’m so glad you found me here.

If you’re a new mum feeling like you’re somehow “getting it wrong” or that you’re a bad mum, I want you to know - you’re not alone, and you’re not broken.

For over 11 years, I’ve been supporting mothers through their mental health journeys. I’ve worked in the NHS as a CBT Therapist and Perinatal Champion, and now I work privately with mums who are struggling with that overwhelming feeling that they’re failing at motherhood.

Here’s what I believe: It’s not poor parenting, it’s poor self-view.

Through EMDR therapy, parts work, and self-compassion practices, I help new mothers heal from trauma and transform into the confident parents they already are deep down.

Everyone wants to hold the baby, but who is holding you? 🤱🏽

On this page, you’ll find:
✨ Gentle reminders that you’re doing better than you think
✨ Real talk about the unfiltered side of motherhood
✨ Evidence-based strategies for managing anxiety and mum guilt
✨ Support for healing from childhood and perinatal trauma
✨ Permission to be imperfect and still be a good mum

I’m here to nurture and support you through this journey, because when a mother feels held, heard and emotionally supported, she and her whole family benefit.

You deserve compassion - especially from yourself 🫶🏽

If you’re a new mum craving free, actionable support today, comment NURTURE and I’ll DM you the link to subscribe to The Nurture Toolkit - my bi-weekly email packed with valuable information and gentle prompts to support you on your motherhood journey.
I can’t wait to connect with you 🥰

17/09/2025

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15/07/2025

I’ve heard this twice in the therapy room this week and it’s only Tuesday.

And this was also one of the reasons why I wanted to have my own trauma therapy because my kids were really triggering me (obvs not intentionally) and I wanted to be a better mum for them.

Want to learn more about your triggers and what they may be linking back to?

Comment TRIGGER LOG and I’ll DM you the link to get yours for free 🫶🏽

14/07/2025

As a therapist who works with New mums every day, I see the same patterns over and over. The beliefs that keep you stuck, the expectations that aren’t realistic, and the guilt that serves absolutely no one.

Which one of these hit home for you the most? Drop the number in the comments - I’d love to know which resonates ☁️

And if you’re craving more support like this, comment NURTURE and I’ll DM you the link to The Nurture Toolkit - my bi-weekly email packed with actionable ways to support yourself through motherhood.

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13/07/2025

Can you relate to critical thoughts telling you you’re failing? Or the overwhelming pressure to be perfect? What about the harsh voice in your head telling you that you’re a bad mum?

These are the exact habits keeping you stuck in the “bad mum” cycle.

Every day in my therapy room, I see new mums who believe they’re doing it all wrong—when in reality, it’s not their parenting that needs changing, it’s their self-view.

The truth is, beating yourself up, setting impossible standards, and speaking to yourself unkindly aren’t just making motherhood harder—they’re actively preventing you from seeing what an amazing job you’re already doing💗

What if instead, you treated yourself with the same gentleness you show your little one?

Self-compassion isn’t just a nice idea—it’s the foundation for becoming the confident, present mum you want to be. When we heal our relationship with ourselves, everything shifts—including how we experience motherhood.

Remember, everyone wants to hold the baby, but who is holding you?

If you’re a new mum craving free, actionable support today, comment NURTURE and I’ll DM you the link to subscribe to The Nurture Toolkit, a bi-weekly email packed with valuable information to support and nurture you on your motherhood journey.

I can’t wait to connect with you 🫶🏽

22/06/2025

Even though for so many of us, being in control feels better, it’s just not possible how ever much we try to be in control of everything 100% of the time.

Many new mums who I work with really struggle with pregnancy and postpartum because having a new baby brings lots of uncertainty, unpredictability and lack of control.

There are two ways you can cope: try to remain in control which uses high effort and a short term sense of relief. But in the longer term, the more in control you try and feel, the more dysregulated you’ll get when something happens that is out of your control.

Or… you can do things that in the short term doesn’t feel comfortable but means in the longer term, you’ll feel more comfortable with lack of control and uncertainty. And that thing is setting up little ways that you can let go of control to get used to the feeling that goes with it.

This could be things like leaving your baby with your partner while you do something else so you don’t have control of the situation.

Or letting your partner wash the bottles and not re-washing them in case they haven’t done it right.

Research shows that the more you do this, the less anxious you’ll feel in the longer term because you’re more able to tolerate situations where you don’t have control.

Does this resonate? Let me know in the comments 🫶🏽