06/11/2025
💬 Men & Mental Health: Breaking the Silence
Mental health isn’t gender-neutral. In the UK, men face a uniquely severe risk when it comes to su***de and mental distress — and the impact is wide ranging.
📊 By the numbers
Around three-quarters of su***de deaths in England & Wales are by men — 4,179 male deaths in 2022, representing a rate of 16.4 per 100,000 for men versus 5.4 per 100,000 for women.
Su***de is the leading cause of death for men under 50 in the UK.
Men aged 45-49 and 50-54 have some of the highest age-specific su***de rates (for example 23 per 100,000 for males aged 45-49 in 2022).
Men are significantly less likely to access talking therapies: in one survey only 33-36% of referrals to NHS psychological services were men.
🔍 What’s behind the risk?
Cultural expectations of masculinity: many men feel that vulnerability, emotional expression or asking for help is a weakness.
Under-diagnosis and under-treatment: though men might appear to have fewer commonly reported mental health conditions than women, many men’s distress goes unreported or untreated.
Life-stage pressures and isolation: relationship breakdown, job loss, health issues or social isolation can all heighten risk, especially for middle-aged men.
Escape behaviours: Men may be more likely to use alcohol, drugs or risk-taking as a way of coping instead of talking about what they’re going through.
🛠 What can we do — and what I offer
If you’re reading this and thinking “I’m not sure how much longer I can carry this”, know: you do not have to carry it alone. 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 — 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗮 𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗴𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲.🤍
Here’s how we can work together:
A safe space specifically for men or with a clinician attuned to men’s mental-health issues.
Exploring what “being strong” or “manhood” means for you, and whether that definition is working for you.
Building resilience: recognising emotional pain, stress, trauma or loss and learning how to address it rather than ignore it.
Tools for connection: strengthening relationships, building support networks, understanding how isolation or disconnection might be affecting you.
Recognising crisis signs + planning for safety: if thoughts of su***de or self-harm are present, having a plan, knowing support contacts, and committing to reach out before things become unmanageable.
📞 If you’re in crisis right now
You are not alone. Here are some UK resources:
Samaritans free-phone 116 123 – available 24/7.
If you feel you might act on suicidal thoughts today, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E.
If you’re considering therapy: you can message me for a confidential conversation – no pressure, no judgment.
🔗 If you’re worried about someone else
Sometimes men in distress don’t show what we expect. A small change in behaviour, withdrawal, increased substance use, irritability, loss of interest – these can all be signs. Simple things help: ask how they are, make time to listen, share that you’re concerned. You don’t have to “fix” it — you just need to show you care.
Bottom line: men’s mental health matters — in fact, it matters urgently. If you’re struggling, reach out. If you think someone else might be, reach out to them. And if you want a therapy space where you’re understood, heard and supported — I’m here.
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