13/03/2026
I’ve been a carer in one form or another for my entire adult life, and I genuinely love it. I love easing someone’s discomfort, making their day a little lighter, helping them feel held when life feels heavy. It’s something I’ve always been good at.
But the hardest people to care for are the ones closest to you.
When it isn’t your job, you have to carve out the time, and in this busy world, time is the one thing we never seem to have enough of. And when it is someone you love, everything becomes more intense. Every emotion is sharper. Every moment feels heavier.
When I supported my mother‑in‑law through her final years, even with all my experience, it was different. I felt frustration. Sometimes even anger. I felt helpless. I worried constantly that I wasn’t doing enough. I worried that others thought I was doing it for the wrong reasons, and that loneliness cut deeper than I expected. There was sadness, overwhelming sadness, watching someone I cared for fade, and watching my husband carry his own grief.
Caring is always hard.
Caring for someone you love is harder still.
And this is something every guardian will face with their dogs at some point. We hope we never outlive our children, but our dogs… we almost always do. When we bring a dog home, we’re swept up in the excitement of new life, new routines, new joy. We rarely stop to ask:
What if they become sick?
What will their final years look like?
How long will they need us?
Can I carry that weight?
They deserve the same level of care we give our human family, but the reality is that vet bills, medication, good food, supplements, and supportive therapies take a huge financial and emotional toll. And these challenges don’t only arrive in old age. In my work, I see dogs as young as six months already struggling with health issues.
This is the part of guardianship no one advertises.
The heartbreak.
The sleepless nights.
The guilt.
The responsibility.
The fear of getting it wrong.
We talk endlessly about “good dogs” and “good behaviour,” but where does that narrative sit when a dog is in pain, frightened, or unwell? How many dogs suffer quietly because their discomfort is mistaken for naughtiness, or their illness becomes an inconvenience someone can’t cope with?
As I sit here in the early hours of the morning, having just settled Harry after another flare‑up of pain, I don’t regret a single moment of having him in my life. The joy he brings me will always outweigh the stress that caring brings. But that doesn’t make it easy.
So to all the dog carers out there, the ones going the extra mile, the ones who stay up through the night, the ones who rearrange their lives because they know their dogs deserve it, I send you all my love.
We often talk about dogs having unconditional love for us.
It fills me with joy to see humans offering that same unconditional love back.
And when we are bringing more dogs into the world or into our families, take a moment to remember it's not about sits down stays or running through grass happily. Its about being there for ALL of it. Being their family, and taking on all that that means.