LucyJayne Counselling

13/08/2025

That's a wrap. I'm off for a summer holiday and I'll be back in September with a new video series on the psychology of Moral Panic and Truth

11/08/2025

Psychological Survival Episode #9
Vulnerability
The final episode in this series talks about vulnerability. We believe that surviving involves being emotionally 'strong' but usually we're just hiding our emotions and our truth. What if strength actually comes from your ability to be vulnerable?

07/08/2025

Psychological Survival Episode #8
Fitting in and Belonging
Ever chosen to go along with the group rather than follow your true feelings? Or found yourself holding in an opinion when everyone else's opinions were different? Welcome to conformity as a survival tactic!

05/08/2025

Psychological Survival Episode #7
Hindsight Bias.
Ahhhhh, hindsight. Such a wonderful thing...if you are aware of your hindsight bias. Don't get caught in the trap of believing you knew more than you did. Perhaps you were doing the best you could at the time with the knowledge and skills you had...

04/08/2025

Exciting news! After being fully booked for a couple of months, new spaces are opening up at LucyJayne Counselling from September 1st! 🥳
On Thursdays, I'll be at Melanoma Me in Washington for sessions from 8.30am to 2pm.
On Fridays, I'll be in Heaton, off the Heaton Road, for sessions from 9am to 2.00pm.
If you know anyone looking for counselling sessions, feel free to share my details!

30/07/2025

"I'd love it if you could be..."

These are some classic conditions of worth we experience as we grow up. What conditions earned you approval, attention and care?

Not all conditions are damaging or dangerous but they can become a trap. Once we are expected to behave in a certain way, it can be hard to break free from those expectations and hear what really brings us peace.

Our mental health struggles can occur when the version of ourselves we have created for acceptance and survival clashes with who we want to be. Loyalty can be excellent trait for strong and loving friendships but damaging in emotionally abusive relationships. Being attractive can bring power and access but leave us feeling hollow and unseen. Achieving academically brings education and choice but can lead to perfectionism and a fear of making mistakes.

29/07/2025

Psychological Survival #6 Conditions of Worth
First described by Carl Rogers, conditions of worth are the conscious and unconscious conditions that we feel we must meet in order to be valued, loved and accepted. Once internalised, we create a false or ideal self and the conflict between who we feel we should be and who we authentically are can lead to psychological turmoil.

23/07/2025

Psychological Survival Episode #5 Anger

We've all felt angry on some level but were you aware that anger sometimes acts as a protective emotion, overshadowing other uncomfortable emotions that feel difficult to acknowledge?

16/07/2025

Psychological survival
Episode #4 Defence Mechanisms. According to the Freuds, you're at the mercy of your unconscious use of defence mechanisms to protect you from psychological turmoil. 'Not me' you may think but have a watch and see if you hear something familiar 😁

14/07/2025

Psychological Survival
Episode #3 Disassociation, otherwise known as freeze or flop.
And no...it's not an 'act'. When your brain decides it's time to disconnect, you don't get much choice and the repercussions can last a lifetime. But your brain and nervous system are just doing their best to help you survive.

11/07/2025

Lots to celebrate this week! 🥳
LucyJayne Counselling is a year old and yesterday I graduated from my BSc in Counselling. Its given me the confidence and enthusiasm to take that leap of faith and move into counselling full time from September. I'll be able to offer counselling sessions on a Thursday and Friday, develop my training and courses and find space for more writing 🙌

23/06/2025

With excellent timing, All In The Mind have a podcast out this week all about stress - what it is, how it impacts us and what we can do about it.

Time and time again, Dr Rangan Chatterjee has seen chronic stress wreak havoc on his patients' lives — contributing to autoimmune disorders, gut problems, low libido and more. But the most devastating blow struck his own family, when his father's punishing work schedule forced him to medically ret...