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Head and Home Decluttering, Bungay (2026)

19/01/2024

Goodbye here and hello there!

I had never used Instagram until downloading it to set up this business page so came in blind to posting, reels, carousels and generally what made an interesting business page. My business and work has changed and developed vastly over the few years since I started, I’ve learned a lot and changed direction a little. It has taken this long for me to truly work out where I want to go with my work and start steering towards it.

With that in mind I’m having a fresh start on social media and being more specific about what I do. It feels like the first page of a nice new notebook!

If you still want to follow me I can now be found over at beyondtherapy.suffolk 🙂
I hope to see some of you there!

09/01/2024

I was reminded today again about the power of our thoughts and how they can hold us back. We believe all sorts of things about ourselves and situations that get in the way of us doing what we want / need to do and aren’t based on facts.

Thoughts are a funny kind of body sensation, a collection of neurons firing through our brain that we interpreted in a specific way. We aren’t our thoughts, or defined by them. We don’t have to do anything at all with them and continue with our day, or we can choose to listen, or we can actively try to change them sometimes.

So… what would you do if you didn’t believe everything you thought?

28/12/2023

Anyone who knows me knows I’m not the biggest fan of “resolutions” and setting ourselves a load of new rules to live by (live being the important word here! - more on this in a later post).

However, this strange time between Christmas and new year can be a good time to pause and think about our intentions for the coming year. I’ve paused this morning to write and collect the thoughts I’ve been having in recent weeks about this.

If you would like to do the same, I’d encourage you to ask yourself:

🔹What is working for me? What do I want to keep around? What do I want more of that already doing?
🔹 Where do I want to be in 12 months? Where do I want to be beyond 2025? Is my current path taking me towards or away from the life I would like to be leading then?
🔹What brings me joy, meaning, and purpose in life - how can I build more of this into my days/weeks/months?
🔹Is there anything I do that goes against what I value in life? Can I change this in anyway? How can I support myself to do this?

Don’t set yourself up to fail by setting unrealistic targets and goals starting on the 1st of January. Gently set your path for the year, ensuring it’s taking you towards how you would like life to look both in the near and distant future.

Let these intentions be your compass.

If you need a hand one-off sessions are available (or short blocks of sessions) to think about our values, support with a vision of how you would like life to be, and teach how to set goals and steps related to this.
Message on here to set up an online or in person meeting.

30/11/2023

What is dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT)?

DBT is a type of talking therapy. It's designed for people who feel emotions very intensely.

DBT focuses on helping you change unhelpful ways of thinking and behaving. But it also focuses on accepting who you are at the same time. You often have homework to do from the sessions and have to focus on the present and future instead of the past.

You might have DBT on your own, or as part of a group.
You might look at:
- being more mindful
- learning to deal with crisis without harmful behaviours
- learning to ask for things and say no to others
- regulating your emotions.

DBT isn't available everywhere. And in some places you may have to wait a long time for treatment. You can speak to your GP for more information on services in your area.

Got more questions or want to look for help? Tap the link in our bio for more info. Or call us on 0300 123 3393

P.S. Different therapies work for different people. If you’ve tried this before and it doesn’t work for you, there may be something out there that does.

For more about DBT (and the alternatives too): www.mind.org.uk/information-support/drugs-and-treatments/talking-therapy-and-counselling/dialectical-behaviour-therapy-dbt/

05/11/2023

This is a metaphor you’ll often hear me use! We can’t pour from an empty cup and have to ensure we are filling our own cups first before anyone else’s. What fills our cups may look different and it’s so important to take stock of what we find fulfilling as individuals when life is running away with us.

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21/09/2023

New date available!

The next 3 week introduction to Mindfulness course will be starting on the 19th November at H Space Movement , Earsham Hall. Come and learn how to take back control of your focus and attention, move away from judgements about yourself and others, and start navigating life with your eyes open - enjoying the experiences that are on offer to us.

Running for 3 consecutive Sundays for an hour and half these sessions will teach you the foundations of mindfulness and cover lots of different practices.
Refreshments and everything you need for the sessions will be provided, including packs to take away.

Get in touch to reserve your place directly with me or if you have any questions, booking also available through the link below. I will get in touch by phone/email with confirmation. Places are very limited for these sessions!

https://book.stripe.com/fZe7uJekP9Ee3bq3ci

27/07/2023

We need to get the basics right so we can build on the rest. We hear all the time people bang on about eating well, exercising and sleeping from an overall health perspective. I’m going to add that doing these things ➡️everyday⬅️ improves our mental health and well-being. If our body is out of balance our mind will be too.

The challenge is that none of these are quick fixes. Think of them though as putting pennies in a piggy bank… one of these one day will make no difference to your health and well-being… the cumulative impact of doing what we can everyday if great and can’t be underestimated.

If you find it impossible to get those pennies consistently banked then maybe it’s time to get some advice around what the barriers are and what you can do differently. As always, get in touch if you’d like to book an appointment to discuss how I might be able to help you or with any questions 😊

04/07/2023

We are all somewhere on this cycle of behaviour change at any given time, possibly in several places depending on the behaviours we're trying to actively change, thinking about changing or maybe avoiding thinking about changing!

Understanding where we are can help us buffer ourselves against the challenges that we face when trying to change behaviour and also help us give ourselves a push when we relapse to get back on the cycle and towards action / maintenance quickly. Each time we 'fall off' we can learn what the barriers are.

For example, let's say we're trying to eat healthily (just because most of us have been there!) and we always 'relapse' on a Friday evening we can see this pattern and look out for it, asking ourselves what steps do we need to put in place to prevent it happening next time.

Briefly each of the areas:
Pre-Contemplation - we aren't even thinking about changing! We might be unaware we have a problem or might feel so overwhelmed that change feels impossible
Contemplation - We're aware of a behaviour and are considering the possibility of changing
Preparation - we start making plans, perhaps we call in support from other people or do some research
Action - This is when we actually put our plan into action and take steps towards changing
Maintenance - We've achieved a change and are now trying to keep it up. We can stay here...
Or we can relapse - this is when we return to an earlier stage in the cycle. It isn't unusual at all for people to relapse several times when trying to change behaviours - it's completely normal and we don't need to shame ourselves for it. See it as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and get back to the preparation / action as soon as possible.

Behaviour change is my 'thing' and we will often consider in session how to continue maintaining what you learn in session into everyday life.

What are you trying to change right now?
As always get in touch if you need a hand and are feeling unsure where to start!

27/06/2023

Something I often hear from the people I work with is that they aren’t believed, heard, or respected. They might be told their experiences are wrong or that everything is their problem, that they are “too much”. I wasn’t sure whether to post this as often when our experience has been of people letting us down, or dismissing our emotions, words mean very little to us.

It’s true though, I see you and believe you, I believe your experiences when you describe them to me. I will never dismiss something as “too much” as it will be based on a grain of truth and wisdom somewhere. We just need to decide what to do with it.

If you’re struggling with your emotions and find that people often tell you what you are experiencing is wrong, or if you find it hard to express in a way others understand, then get in touch to see how I might be able to help.

1-1 sessions, online and in person are available.

17/06/2023

Anyone who has ever worked with me (or really just spoken to me!) knows that I love a quote, saying, cheerleading statement, metaphor, or just general words of wisdom. We all have these helpful mantras or thoughts we live by and I'd love to hear some of yours!

I'll start with just some of my favourites:

"Should is could with shame attached"
"You can't pour from an empty cup"
"Emotions love themselves"

Add yours in the comments 👇

12/06/2023

We all carry different myths through life with us - often they are unhelpful and get in the way of us doing what needs to be done. Here are some myths I've heard about therapy.

🔹 1. Lots of people at different times in their lives can benefit from therapy. It might be to help improve relationships, making difficult decisions, improving your mental health, learning new ways to manage stress and pressures... the list is endless.

🔹 2. My colleagues and I definitely do not have all the answers! It is not our task to tell you what to do. Our task is to work with you to help you find your own answers. And sometimes, there simply isn't an answer and we can try and support you with this too.

🔹 3. Therapy takes time and commitment from you. Quick fixes include things like; massages, having a take away, impulse spending, distracting yourself etc. They help in the short-term but don't help us change in the long-term. Bringing about lasting change takes time.

🔹 4. If you've ever attended a session with me you'll know there isn't really that much talking! We don't need to go through every minute of your week to be able to help the next week be better. Therapy can be about talking to help us understand and often there are practical and focused parts of each session learning and thinking about new skills.

🔹 5. The word 'therapy' and 'counselling' are often misunderstood. There are hundreds of different types of therapy and it's important to find the right person and right approach for you. CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) is commonly known and might not suit lots of people, sometimes though if you have a course of therapy or counselling it's easy to feel disheartened if nothing changes. If you're considering therapy please feel confident to ask the therapist in your assessment how they work, what they are trained in, and how this might help you.

What other myths about therapy have you heard? Or do you have any questions about therapy? Feel free to ask in the comments :)

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