Faye Packer Childhood Trauma Therapy

Home
United Kingdom
Burford
Faye Packer Childhood Trauma Therapy

Hi! 👋 I'm Faye and I'm a Psychodynamic Therapist based in West Oxfordshire and online. Please come say hello!

I believe that we all have the potential within to explore all aspects of our inner psyches and to discover who we really are in this peculiar place we call life. As a therapist, I mainly use the psychodynamic approach to help clients explore their behaviours and to really discover where painful or difficult emotions may have started. If you have experienced a dysfunctional, narcissistic or unusual childhood, we may work particularly well together. I have additional training in working with child s*x abuse and trauma survivors. My consultation room for face to face work is finally open in the beautiful town of Burford so get in touch if you live nearby and would like to work with me in person. If you are interested in working with me, please get in touch at fayepackertherapy@outlook.com and I will get in touch at my earliest opportunity. Alternatively, you can follow and contact me on Instagram at faye.therapy where I share mental health tips, techniques and theories.

11/03/2024

Childhood trauma leaves us carrying a lot of heavy stuff.

Imagine yourself carrying a full backpack 24/7. You have to set it down eventually, right?

The problem with trauma is that we carry the backpack inside our mind and emotions. It feels IMPOSSIBLE to put it down.

That's where self care comes into it....

👉 It's not lazy to take a break.

👉 You don't fail if you reach your limits.

👉 It's not selfish to invest time and energy in yourself.

So...give yourself permission to put down your emotional backpack and start unpacking when you feel ready 💜

Faye x
www.fayepackertherapy.com

27/02/2024

This little comic perfectly explains why we might have big reactions over seemingly small things 💜

Faye x
www fayepackertherapy.com

25/02/2024

Childhood trauma comes in many forms.

Not all childhood traumas are obvious. Some are extremely subtle and difficult to explain to other people.

You may have been labelled as 'overly sensitive' in the past if you have experienced the types of emotional traumas in this image.

But these behaviours and actions can cause huge emotional damage to children.

👉 You need an emotionally regulated parent to make you feel safe and to teach you how to regulate your own emotions as a child.

👉 Children who deny their own needs can grow up to become people pleasers who ALWAYS put others before themselves.

👉 Fear of disapproval can make you very anxious around people in adulthood.

These are just a few of the difficulties that emotional childhood trauma can create in adulthood.

Faye 💜

www.fayepackertherapy.com

** I'm currently offering limited availability at my practice - feel free to get in touch for more details **

19/01/2024

💜 I came across this short poem a while ago and it has stayed with me ever since.

Childhood trauma can leave us feeling without identity in adulthood.

Your early years are spent trying to survive your circumstances. Your mind is constantly preoccupied with unshakeable dread and anxiety, or anger and rage.

You want to run away and hide from the whole world. You dream of escape.

Living in survival mode impacts identity formation because we feel defined by trauma. We feel shaped by it.

Healing involves learning who you are as a person and tapping into who you want to become. It's about breaking free of the trauma that traps you, and realising that you are more than what happened to you.

There is recovery in self-discovery.

Faye x
www.fayepackertherapy.com

07/12/2023

Good morning on this rainy day!

What is my purpose? Why am I here? Who am I?

Finding purpose and identity is a big part of trauma recovery work.

Trauma disrupts development. We become fixated on the bad stuff that happened and unconsciously discount all our positive traits.

Finding out what makes you happy and what you're good at helps increase confidence, resilience and identity.

It can be hard to know who you are after trauma - especially in this busy modern world with the influence of social media (side note - please don't compare yourself to what you see on FB or IG!)

I love this little image that breaks down purpose and the different branches of it. I believe it's used in professional coaching but wanted to share it here too.

You don't necessarily have one purpose. In fact, your purpose can even change depending on what stage of life you're in.

Have a think about what makes you happy? How can you add more happiness to your life? 💜

Faye x

07/11/2023

🤔 Ever catch yourself asking permission from other people all the time - even when you clearly don't need to?

Or do you place limits on yourself for no clear reason?

Childhood trauma can create internal ceilings.

We feel like there are certain things that we aren't allowed to do so.

No-one has actually TOLD us that we can't do these things as adults.

Instead, we grew up hearing that we weren't good enough or too difficult or too badly behaved. We learnt to stay small and quiet in order to survive.

We unconsciously take this coping strategy into adulthood and tell ourselves that we aren't ALLOWED to do certain things.

We're not allowed to say how we feel. We're not allowed to experiment with identity. We're not allowed to be free to live how we want.

Breaking free from childhood trauma involves giving yourself permission.

You are always allowed to be just you 💜

Faye x

P S.**My therapy practice is fully booked until next year but you can still follow me on social media or read my blogs at www.fayepackertherapy.com. See you there!**

31/10/2023

👉 Do you catch yourself taking on the emotions of other people and mixing them up with your own?

👉 Do you feel responsible for other people and try to 'fix' them?

👉 Are you the person everyone goes to when they want to vent and you can't say NO even when you feel overwhelmed by your own emotional stuff?

Sounds like you need to work on setting boundaries!

Boundaries aren't there to punish or to keep people away.

Boundaries are there to keep you safe, secure and stable in mind.

If you recognise yourself as The Emotional Sponge, your boundaries are probably too porous. You let in too much and become emotionally taken over.

To set some healthy boundaries....

👉 Practice saying NO to people. Start with something small and inconsequential, and evaluate the outcome of saying NO. How did you feel afterwards? Were you listened to?

👉 Struggling to say NO? Try saying "I need some time to think about it and I'll get back to you." This removes the feeling of being on the spot and urgency.

👉 Build that self esteem and start to value yourself! Invest in your self care and make it a priority.

👉 Discover your values. What gives your life meaning? Where do you find purpose and direction?How can you help your loved ones without giving too much of yourself away? Knowing what is important to us helps to improve our decision making 💜

Faye x

**P.S. Thanks for reading! My therapy practice is currently full until January but keep checking in on my social media and blogs at www.fayepackertherapy.com for more things mental health related!

You can also still get in touch for more info on my practice on my website too. Take care!**

17/10/2023

Do any of these sentences resonate with you?

We all have stuff that makes us anxious.

Sometimes anxiety lies in the ANTICIPATION or UNCERTAINTY of something.

We don't know what our boss wants to talk to us about. We don't always know what is the worst that could happen.

Anxiety lessens when we slowly start to sit with the discomfort of the unknown.

You may not know what will happen tomorrow but whatever happens, you know that you will do yourself proud 💜

Faye x

**P.S. My therapy practice is full right now but please feel free to read some more trauma info and get in touch at www.fayepackertherapy.com 💜 **

03/10/2023

Trauma responses aren't always obvious.

We often think about traumatised people as being:

😰 Difficult
😰 Angry
😰 Socially isolated
😰 In clear distress

But for lots of people, trauma simply doesn't work like that.

If you grew up afraid of someone in your household, you may struggle with excessive people-pleasing or fawning as an adult.

🤔 WHY? Because being liked by others makes you feel safe. People-pleasing makes it far less likely for other people to get angry or scary with you.

Be patient with yourself and practice setting your boundaries 💜

Faye x

**P.S My therapy practice is full right now so I'm not taking on any new clients. You can still get in touch with me at www.fayepackertherapy.com where I write about all things trauma related, and follow me on social media! **

26/09/2023

Kids who grow up in trauma quickly learn to mask their feelings.

They know that a smile is safer than sadness. A smile says "I'm OK! Nothing to see here!". It hides the inner pain and confusion.

These kids go on to become adults who are masters of fake smiles.

Nobody guesses what lies beneath the seemingly happy face until the smile begins to crumble and fade.

Sometimes people aren't feeling as great as their smile suggests.

Faye x

**P.S. My therapy practice is currently full so I'm not taking on any new clients. Please feel free to follow my FB page and read my blogs at www.fayepackertherapy.com 😀 **

19/09/2023

💜 Fancy a quick read on why being perfect isn't the answer to life?

Take a look at my latest blog at my website www.fayepackertherapy.com ☺️

Faye x

**P.S. My therapy practice is currently full so I'm not taking on new clients right now. Feel free to still get in touch for more info! **

18/09/2023

PTSD isn't just about 'feeling stuck'.

It's a whole spectrum of difficult and intrusive emotions. Here's just a few that many people often experience.

Faye x

**P.S My therapy practice is currently full so I'm not taking on any new clients right now. But feel free to keep following and checking out my FB page for more childhood trauma related insights 💜**

Address

Burford

Website

http://www.fayepackertherapy.com/

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Faye Packer Childhood Trauma Therapy posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Contact The Practice

Send a message to Faye Packer Childhood Trauma Therapy:

Shortcuts

Want your practice to be the top-listed Clinic in Burford?