21/01/2026
The issue isn’t food. It’s what food is doing for you.
You know what I’ve noticed over the years, long before I ever worked with beliefs or the nervous system?
The people who are fit, healthy and at ease with food aren’t living in constant restriction.
They enjoy food.
They enjoy treats.
They just don’t need food to make them feel better.
And that’s the part that often gets misunderstood.
When someone says, “I couldn’t cut back, that would be depressing,” it’s not really about cake, takeaway or sugar.
It’s about what that food is doing emotionally.
That’s not a judgement.
It’s just information.
Because when food feels like comfort, relief or a reward you can’t imagine life without, it usually means something deeper is asking to be soothed.
What I see a lot is people who say they hate restriction, but are actually living in a constant state of it.
I’ll start Monday.
I shouldn’t have eaten that.
I need to be better this week.
I’ve been bad.
That internal push and pull puts the body under stress.
And stressed bodies crave comfort.
People who feel balanced from the inside out don’t need motivation or discipline around food.
They eat well because it feels good.
They enjoy treats because they enjoy them.
There’s no guilt, no rebellion, no emotional negotiation.
And the beautiful part is, this isn’t about willpower or “doing it right”.
It’s about safety.
When your nervous system feels supported, food stops needing to carry emotional weight.
You can enjoy it, without it being a coping strategy.
You can have cake, without it feeling like a battle or a fix.
If any of this has made you pause rather than feel defensive, that’s usually a sign of readiness.
Not to diet.
Not to restrict.
But to understand what your body has been leaning on.
And that’s where real change actually begins.