14/07/2025
Learning to Trust Yourself – Just Like This Little Pony Did 🐴💛
When we first brought this wee pony home, he wouldn’t go near the trailer. Every attempt was stressful and filled with fear, for him and us. But over the past few months, with kindness, patience and consistency, he’s learned to trust us and we’ve learned to trust him.
And that’s exactly what learning to trust yourself looks like too.
Self-trust doesn’t appear overnight. It’s built slowly, by gently testing your unhelpful thinking styles, like perfectionism, brooding, or hypervigilance, and proving to yourself that you can cope.
💬 What does that actually look like?
✨ Saying yes to a last-minute plan without knowing every detail.
✨ Allowing your child to feel uncomfortable rather than fixing everything for them.
✨ Going to a social event even though your mind is busy telling you you’ll mess up or say something wrong.
✨ Not re-reading that email for the fifth time and hitting send anyway.
✨ Letting your child go into school, even when it feels easier (and safer) to let them stay home.
Every time you do something like this, you’re telling your brain: “I can handle this.”
You’re building trust in your own capabilities, showing yourself that you can manage uncertainty and challenge, and that your safety comes from within, not from controlling every possible variable.
It takes time. It takes courage. But it’s worth it.
And the more you build that self-trust, the more stable, secure, and powerful you start to feel.
So be kind to yourself. Keep challenging gently. Keep going.
And if you or your child need support in learning how to do that — I’d love to help.
📩 Get in touch – my inbox is always open.
