28/02/2026
Wow this really resonated with me today, it makes so much sense. So many times in my life I have made decisions hoping they were the right one only to find they are not quite the right fit, and then try to bend and shape to try and make it right. Was this to prove to myself I knew what I was doing, that I wasnt clutching at straws and ignoring the red flags that were there clear as day?! Or to avoid going through yet more change? Of course it may not be as easy as getting off at the next stop. As I get older and learning from experience I am listening to my gut more, being truer to myself about where I want / need to be. So maybe its more about choosing the right destination in the first place. Taking time, planning the right trip and the best route to get there. It is meant to be an adventure and I have certainly learnt plenty from getting on the wrong train! So I love this analogy and it is a good reminder... hope it resonates with you too...
I don’t know about you, but I have definitely stayed on some trains far longer than I should have.
And the truth is… if you’d asked me at the time whether I was making the right choice by staying, I would have had to admit that deep down, I already knew I should have stepped off.
Sometimes we stay because we can’t be absolutely sure getting off is the right decisions. We want to give it more time, more opportunities, more solutions. We stay for hope, for longing, because we feel stuck, because we can’t see a way off. We can even stay because we’ve invested so much and leaving feels like failure and defeat. The list goes on and on….
The “wrong train” is rarely dramatic at first. It’s subtle. Rationalised. Explained away. We tell ourselves to give it time. To try harder. To be patient. To endure.
But the longer we stay somewhere misaligned, the more it costs us in energy, in confidence, in peace, well being. We pay for it in the health of our mind, body and spirit.
So here’s the truth:
Getting off early is never failure.
Changing direction is not weakness.
Choosing yourself is not selfish.
It is wisdom.
You are allowed to step off.
You are allowed to reroute.
You are allowed to say, “This isn’t for me.”
You are allowed to change your mind.
Your life is precious.
Your energy is sacred.
And you are the only one holding the ticket.
So if you get on the wrong train, be sure to get off at the first stop. It’s hugely inconvenient but it’s easier in the long run.
With love,
Fiona
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