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24/03/2026

Sometimes life just completely falls apart.

A relationship ends.
Someone you love is gone.
Your plans don’t work out.

And it doesn’t just feel bad.

It feels hopeless.

I’ve written something for those moments.

A few things that are easy to forget when everything feels like too much.

You can read it via the link in my bio.

Save this for when you need it.
Or send it to someone who might.

17/03/2026

Many people believe they are an anxious person.

But anxiety is not who you are.
It’s something that moves through you.

When fear shows up, it can feel like it takes over everything.
Your thoughts race. Your body tightens.
It feels convincing.

But even in those moments, there is always a part of you that is steady.
A part that is noticing what’s happening.

That part is not anxious.
That part is YOU.

And learning to come back to that place can gently change your whole relationship with anxiety.

I explore this more deeply in today’s article — link in bio.

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02/03/2026

You can’t stop the waves.
But you can learn to surf them.

Anxiety is a physical experience in the nervous system.
It rises, peaks, and eventually passes.

The goal isn’t to eliminate anxiety.
It’s to learn how to ride the wave.

01/03/2026

You don’t need to stop your feelings.
You need to stop fighting them.

Every emotion has a physical sensation.

Anxiety isn’t just a thought.
It’s a tightening. A buzz. A drop in the stomach.

Instead of analysing it, try this:

Pause.
Go into the body.
Name the sensation.
Let it exist.

Don’t try to calm it.
Don’t try to fix it.
Just allow it.

The paradox?

When you stop resisting a feeling, it often softens on its own.

This is body-based emotional regulation.
And it’s learnable.

Follow for grounded anxiety tools.

25/02/2026

24/02/2026

You shout.

Too loud.

The youngest cries.

And suddenly the anger turns into shame.

Most of the time, it isn’t about what’s happening.

It’s about what it means.

Not being listened to.
Not being respected.
Not feeling in control.

We get angrier with the people we love most because they matter most.

They touch our identity.
Our fear of failing.
Our need to get it right.

In my latest piece, I share the five-step process (FREED) I use in my sessions to move from reacting to perspective.

Not to suppress emotion.

But to understand it.

Link in bio.

19/02/2026

A few years ago I had an asthma attack without my inhaler.

The panic rose faster than the tightness in my chest.

“This is bad.”
“You can’t breathe.”
“You need help.”

But instead of fighting it, I did the only thing available to me.

I focused on my breath.

Slow.
Steady.
In.
Out.

Little by little, the body followed.

Later, in a brutally hot yoga class — again without my inhaler — I realised something important:

When the body panics, you don’t have to.

Your heart may race.
Your chest may tighten.
Your mind may shout.

But there is something in you that can watch it.

And from that place, panic loses its grip.

I’ve written the full piece on Substack.
Link in bio.

17/02/2026

The mistake most people make with anxiety is trying to get rid of it.

It makes sense.
If something feels uncomfortable, your instinct is to eliminate it.

But the very act of needing anxiety never to return creates fragility. Because if it shows up again, you feel like you’ve failed.

The shift isn’t elimination.
It’s relationship.

When you stop fighting the sensation and start changing how you respond to it, the cycle begins to loosen.

I’ve written more about this in my latest Substack post.

Link in bio.

10/02/2026

This week a client told me she felt like anxiety was about to wreck everything she’d worked for.

Her career was going brilliantly… except she couldn’t stand up and speak to her own team without panicking.

When I said the biggest turning point can be accepting where you are, she looked at me like I’d completely lost the plot.

But acceptance isn’t giving up. It’s stopping the fight with reality so you actually have the energy to move forward.

Years ago, when I was bedbound with Lyme disease, someone told me a story that changed how I understood this completely. I shared that story in my latest article.

If anxiety has ever made you feel stuck, frustrated, or unfairly derailed, this one’s for you.

Link in bio to read.

07/02/2026

Many of my clients say they’ve “tried mindfulness” and it didn’t work because their mind was too busy.

But that busy mind is actually where mindfulness begins.

When you’re anxious, your brain spins endless “what if” thoughts. Mindfulness teaches you to notice them without getting pulled into the spiral. It’s a skill, like building a muscle. Just 10 minutes a day can make a real difference.

I’ve written a short article explaining why I recommend this to my anxiety clients, plus included a simple guided meditation you can try.

Link in bio.

03/02/2026

The mind is very good at telling scary stories, especially when we’re anxious.

I’ve written a new piece on Substack about coming back to this moment and letting the “what if” thoughts pass.

Link in bio 🤍

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