The Essex Birth Company

The Essex Birth Company Doula/Mentor - Birth Worker - Hypnobirthing - Perinatal Trauma Rewind - Breech Moxibustion

Are you experiencing negative emotions following your birth experience? Are you ready to feel differently again? It’s no...
22/11/2025

Are you experiencing negative emotions following your birth experience?

Are you ready to feel differently again?

It’s not only for severe birth trauma, maybe it’s disappointment, discomfort, breastfeeding trauma, pregnancy panic attacks, anxiety or feelings of being let down.

TBR 3 Step Rewind is a gentle and effective way of supporting people to move past their birth and perinatal trauma, to lead full, happy lives again, feeling a sense of recovery.
 
You may benefit from TBR 3 Step Rewind if you have flash backs, if you replay the difficult situation over and over in your head, if you avoid situations where you may have to talk about birth, if you feel anxious thinking about the incident, if you feel sad about how things unfolded, if you can’t sleep because of the memories (it is not suitable for everyone, e.g., if you have previous mental health illness).

If this sounds like something you could benefit from, please get in touch and I will send you further information or you can take a look at more details on my website http://www.theessexbirthcompany.com
 
There are 3 sessions (90 min, 60 min & 30 min).
 
Sessions will involve deep relaxation and visualising a lovely calm place and I will guide you through the rewind process. You will receive a relaxation recording to listen to at home to help the process.
 
We will need to be undisturbed during the sessions so we can either meet via Zoom, at my house or I’m happy to travel to you, depending on location.
 
I look forward to hearing from you to discuss further

Caesarean birth rates in the UK are now about 45% and in some hospitals, they’re reported as high as 60%.And honestly… i...
21/11/2025

Caesarean birth rates in the UK are now about 45% and in some hospitals, they’re reported as high as 60%.

And honestly… it breaks my heart.

Because I know many of these surgeries are not medically necessary. Some are suggested out of fear of litigation, and many are chosen at maternal request simply due to lack of information, education, support or balanced guidance.

A planned caesarean isn’t automatically an easier or safer option for most people without a genuine medical indication.

If you’re considering one, I gently encourage you to research widely, and speak to someone who can offer truly independent, unbiased support, eg an Independent Midwife who can help you understand your choices and the evidence.

Brilliant resources include:
Dr Sara Wickham
AIMS
Birth Rights
all of whom offer balanced information on aesarean birth and maternal choice.

If a caesarean is suggested during labour, ask questions.
Use the BRAIN tool:
B – Benefits
R – Risks
A – Alternatives
I – Intuition
N – What if I do Nothing?

Ask questions…are you unwell, is your baby unwell, and whether your care provider expects that to change soon. You deserve to understand the full picture before making any decision. A choice isn’t informed until you fully understand the pros, cons & options

Unless there is a clear, immediate emergency, you should never feel rushed or pressured into agreeing to surgery

I’m not “anti-caesarean” not at all.
I’m against unnecessary caesareans, because I see the trauma that can follow when people later realise their birth didn’t need to unfold that way, or when they experience complications from avoidable surgery.

This is exactly why I run my Caesarean Birth Workshop;
not to talk anyone out of surgery, but to help you prepare, understand, and thrive if a caesarean is part of your story.
It’s full birth preparation, supporting you to create your preferences, understand your rights, and feel respected, just as you should in any birth.

You can find all the details on my website.

There’s a myth going around that you’ll feel an immediate bond with your unborn baby as soon as they’re conceived or tha...
20/11/2025

There’s a myth going around that you’ll feel an immediate bond with your unborn baby as soon as they’re conceived or that you’ll feel the rush of love when you start to feel them moving inside of you, or when you first set your eyes on them.

Not every mum or birthing person feels love at first sight and that’s okay. Bonding is a process, not a moment.

This is particularly relevant for people who’ve experienced trauma, that could be childhood trauma right through to current birth trauma, but it’s also relevant for everyone.

Don’t carry shame. Carry curiosity, compassion, and support for yourself and your little one and know that you’re not alone in feeling this way.

I’m here if you’d like to talk through your feelings, just send me a message kirstie@theessexbirth.com

Another fantastic Bump to Buggy walk today.Just to let anybody know who’s coming in the future, it’s really worth signin...
18/11/2025

Another fantastic Bump to Buggy walk today.

Just to let anybody know who’s coming in the future, it’s really worth signing up to the WhatsApp group. If there were any changes, we talk about it in the group.

Where I’m standing in this photo is where we meet, outside the entrance to the stables courtyard / deli. We use the Hylands house car park, rather than the one on the A414.

It was a chilly one today, but we were all wrapped up and had a great chat and obviously some hot drinks and cake afterwards!

Are you confident in your rights to a VBAC or HBAC?You still have lots of choices e.g., place of birth, water birth, not...
18/11/2025

Are you confident in your rights to a VBAC or HBAC?

You still have lots of choices e.g., place of birth, water birth, not to have continuous monitoring & more (we’ll look at the evidence based data).

Would you like to know about the stages of labour, coping strategies & what will happen to your body & baby during birth?

These are a few of the things we talk about during the VBAC prep workshops, but we cover so much more:

⭐️ Feelings & emotions surrounding a VBAC & exploring feelings regarding previous birth/s.
⭐️ Safety, statistics & what the research says.
⭐️ Personalised Care and Support Plans. Creating a supportive care team.
⭐️ Coping mechanisms eg TENS, aromatherapy, massage, breathing, water, affirmations, medical pain relief, oxytocin & more.
⭐️ Hormones associated with birth. How to increase the hormones that promote birth.
⭐️ Biomechanics for birth & foetal positioning.
⭐️ We will break down each stage of labour & the birthing process, discussing what may happen & what you can do to promote a happy productive birth.
⭐️ Preparation for your chosen birth partner. How they can be involved and what they can do.
⭐️ What if plans change and how to make informed decisions.
⭐️ We will also cover everything that is discussed in The Essex Birth Company’s standard Birth Preparation Workshop.

You can ask any questions that have been playing on your mind. You will leave feeling confident, knowledgeable, and prepared for a positive birth experience. 

You will receive a free 110 page VBAC guide and relaxation audios, created by The Essex Birth Company to keep and refer back to.

Please see website for more information and to get in touch
https://www.theessexbirthcompany.com/vbac-preparation

She won her first fight in 17 seconds with a score of 4 / 0! She lost her second fight by one point, missing out on gold...
16/11/2025

She won her first fight in 17 seconds with a score of 4 / 0!

She lost her second fight by one point, missing out on gold by a whisker!

So proud of her strength and determination, mentally as well as physically!

Hi, I thought I’d share a little bit about myself as I’ve had a lot of new followers recently. This account is predomina...
15/11/2025

Hi, I thought I’d share a little bit about myself as I’ve had a lot of new followers recently.

This account is predominantly about pregnancy, birth, the postnatal period, plus mental health, but I’m here too, behind the screen just trying to support families to thrive.

I’ve added a few extra photos of my favourite things so you can get to know me 🥰

I could have gone on with that first photo but there wasn’t room…

coffee lover, yoga teacher, countryside living, lover of home renovations and interior design, sipper of wine, course attending fanatic, early riser & early to bed, book worm, hater of talking on the phone!

At the moment I’m very excited for 2026. I’ll be launching my new business as a Perinatal Counsellor & Trauma Therapist.

But on a personal note I’m excited that my daughter, who’s only 7 is part of the Karate National Squad and we’ll be going abroad with the team for her to compete. More about next year in my end of year post…an exciting one to write, as the plans are coming out of my ears! 😜

It’s come to my attention recently that many schools don’t let children go to the toilet when they need to and I’m absol...
13/11/2025

It’s come to my attention recently that many schools don’t let children go to the toilet when they need to and I’m absolutely horrified by this!

I spend so much of my time teaching the adult I work with how to listen to their bodies and yet so many of us have forgotten how. No wonder, when as children we were taught to ignore our bodies’ signals and suppress our natural needs. I have to do a lot of work on this topic with the pregnant people I work with as a doula and with the people I see for anxiety and people pleasing as a counsellor.

Going to the toilet is a physiological process that deserves respect. It’s essential for a healthy body and mind.

Imagine how uncomfortable a child must feel sitting there desperate for the toilet, physically and emotionally. I’m hearing about children developing UTIs from holding it in for too long, or refusing to drink water during the day because they’re scared they’ll need to go and be told “no.” I’ve even heard of young children having accidents in class and then being humiliated or bullied because of it, all because they weren’t allowed to meet a basic human need.

Yes, ideally children use the toilet at break times, but it’s not always that simple. We all know what it’s like to suddenly need to go, especially if we’ve been drinking enough water or not feeling too well!

I see adults in labour, or those struggling with chronic tension, anxiety, or disconnection from their bodies and so often this traces back to early experiences of being told to ignore bodily signals. This kind of draconian conditioning starts in schools and continues through life.

Our children deserve better.
Their comfort, dignity, and body autonomy are basic human rights.

This must change.

It doesn’t have to be spa days and fancy treats, although that can be amazing if you have the time and ability but in th...
12/11/2025

It doesn’t have to be spa days and fancy treats, although that can be amazing if you have the time and ability but in the mean time try…

💛 Deep breaths at nappy changes
❤️ Stretching while baby naps
💙 Saying “not today” to visitors
💚 Asking for support
🧡 Treating yourself to your favourite food.
💜 Sitting on the grass in the park

Small care counts too!

I finally booked our Essex Doula‘s Christmas lunch.I’m very excited to have some festive food and to catch up with every...
11/11/2025

I finally booked our Essex Doula‘s Christmas lunch.

I’m very excited to have some festive food and to catch up with everybody.

If you’re like Doula and not part of the WhatsApp group, please get in touch if you’d like to join and come along to our lunch and monthly meet ups

Over the weekend, I spent some time renewing my paediatric first aid certificateEverybody should know how to administer ...
10/11/2025

Over the weekend, I spent some time renewing my paediatric first aid certificate

Everybody should know how to administer first aid, I think it’s a really important qualification and should be mandatory in schools, as we never know when it might come in handy.

Other than brushing up on my skills, it was lovely to spend some time with .doula

A big thank you too for facilitating this fantastic course

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