05/02/2026
Today is Time to Talk Day & I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on what that really means
We know that talking can be powerful. The old saying goes “A problem shared is a problem halved,” & there’s an inking of truth there
In my work as a doula for trauma, as a counsellor & a holistic wellbeing & trauma practitioner I see every day how much people benefit from talking. When I support someone through conversation, they often feel lighter afterwards. Sharing fears, worries or past experiences can make a huge difference. People frequently tell me that talking helps them feel freer, more seen & less burdened
One thing I’ve been reflecting on is what we need to talk about. Of course, it varies for each person, but there are some key themes. We need to share our struggles rather than soldier on alone. We need to talk about discrimination whether that’s related to neurodiversity, disabilities, or other forms of bias. We need to talk about loneliness, particularly for new parents. Loneliness can be as harmful as smoking, yet so many people I support feel isolated, abandoned & left without their ‘village’. Su***de in the postnatal period is also taboo & needs discussing
We also need to challenge the stigma around mental health generally. Saying “I need help” is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. It’s scary, yes, but it’s the first step toward positive change for yourself & for everyone else who’s too afraid to speak up
We also need to talk about achievement. In the UK, there’s often a stigma around celebrating successes, it can feel like showing off. But sharing the good things doesn’t have to be boastful. It could be having an amazing birth, buying a house, passing an exam, celebrating baby’s milestones, or even something as simple as cooking a meal. Sharing achievements, big or small, is about being proud & connecting with others, not showing off. So many people tell me they feel bad if they have a positive birth & keep it quiet
You don’t have to start big. On this Time to Talk Day, simply reach out to someone, share a few words & begin the conversation
Please reach out
