Shaun Lock

20/11/2025

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To live is to risk dying,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.
Only a person who risks is free. ~Leo Buscaglia

19/11/2025

‘It’s totally normal to talk’ ❤️….

05/11/2025

Good thinking….

Noam Chomsky // "Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, it’s unlikely you will step up and take responsibility for making it so. If you assume that there’s no hope, you guarantee that there will be no hope. If you assume that there is an instinct for freedom, there are opportunities to change things, there’s a chance you may contribute to making a better world. The choice is yours."

01/11/2025

This speaks to me of the nature of therapy, to work through challenging times, situations and feelings is embracing transformation and giving permission and freedom to growth

If I’ve learned anything from life, it’s that sometimes, the darkest times can bring us to the brightest places. I’ve learned that the most toxic people can teach us the most important lessons, that our most painful struggles can grant us the most necessary growth and that the most heartbreaking losses of friendship and love can make room for the most wonderful people. I’ve learned that what seems like a curse in the moment can actually be a blessing and that what seems like the end of the road is actually just the discovery that we are meant to travel down a different path. I’ve learned that no matter how difficult things seem, there is always hope. I’ve learned that no matter how powerless we feel or how horrible things seem, we can’t give up. We have to keep going. Even when it’s scary, even when all of our strength seems gone, we have to keep picking ourselves back up and moving forward, because whatever we’re battling in the moment, it will pass, and we will make it through. We’ve made it this far. We can make it through whatever comes next. ~Daniell Koepke

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Painting: 'Olive Grove, Saint-Rémy', 1889 by Vincent van Gogh

03/10/2025

Wholeness or happiness, which would you choose?……

I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that—I don’t mind people being happy—but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down three things that made you happy today before you go to sleep” and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position. It’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say, “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness.” Ask yourself, “Is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is. ~Hugh Mackay

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08/09/2025

I have a couple of spaces available, feel free to message me on here or through my website colchestertherapy.co.uk for a free consultation…

05/09/2025

Absolutely….

“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.”— Carl Rogers•For more ﹋

31/08/2025

Important news…..

Thanks to Sushant Thapa

18/08/2025

As a therapist, the amount of times I hear people say, ‘Now I am here, I wish I had got in touch with you sooner’.
So please don’t suffer in silence and get in touch. Another thing I often hear from people is that therapy is ‘one of the best things’ that they ever did for themselves…

14/08/2025

14/08/2025

Everybody experiences grief differently, it just needs permission and space and be without judgement. It is ok to not be ok sometimes but so important to recognise that when we are experiencing grief, to hold it kindly, so to be able to understand it within us for healing to occur

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to. ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

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19/07/2025

So true

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens. ~Khalil Gibran