15/09/2025
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I am an over-thinker, my mind is rarely quiet.
And I have learned over the years to feed it before it’s hungry, lest it become ravenous and impulsive.
I’ve also learned that as with most healthy organs, it needs a fairly clean diet.
I whittled out the gossip, the click-bait news and the salacious stories the media was serving up daily and replaced it with a balance of beauty, hope, goodwill, fun and laughter - and plenty ‘real-talk’ of course, to remind it we are not alone.
But this clean diet I live on doesn’t shy away from life’s sadness or difficult topics, as you may think. Not at all.
In fact, I really go there … but with real information as my recipe, no dramatics, and always, always, adding a side dish of comfort and hope.
We were never meant to know all of life’s troubles all of the time, you see. No human condition was ever supposed to worry for ALL human conditions.
It is too much.
So we must filter, prioritise and arrange the world’s worry, in order that we don’t become overwhelmed with hopelessness, misery and fear, becoming no use to anyone, let alone ourselves.
We must allow ourselves more ‘actionable stress’, than ‘non-actionable stress’ (stress we cannot do anything towards). Studies clearly show that actionable stress is far less dangerous, simply because we can take steps to overcome the issues, we can do something towards it. And your nervous system needs to do something to feel safe and useful.
So, my tip for anyone with a never-quiet mind is to be picky with your diet.
Be choosy over what worry is for you to take on and what worry you truly cannot do a thing about.
And if your mind runs dark as well as loud, you need to seek calm, intentionally. Seek beauty, deliberately. Seek out the joy, hope and light. Use it to shine on the heartbreaking stuff and show hope amidst the chaos.
If we take it all in, every day, these little boats of ours will go under.
Fill your boat with what you can fit, and be safe.
The world looks like it is getting worse every day, I know. But I think it is because we can see so much more now.
So choose what you see. Save what you can. Keep seeking light.
And love. Always.
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