
05/08/2025
My approach to funerals has never been about hitting ceremony number targets.
I cap the number of ceremonies I lead at 12 per month – quite deliberately. That breathing space lets me give each family my full focus. It means I have the time to get to know the person we’re honouring through the people who loved them.
It also means I can write with care and creativity, make as many changes as needed, and prepare everything with time to spare, which means nothing gets overloked.
But most importantly, it means I can show up with emotional intelligence and integrity, because I’ve had time to recharge. Long dog walks, cold water swims, being in nature or with the people I love – all of that helps me stay grounded so I can give grieving families the best of me.
Feedback like Clare’s tells me I’m on the right track. If a family feels I’ve captured the essence of who someone was, then that’s the greatest job satisfaction I could ask for.