The Yorkshire Therapist

The Yorkshire Therapist ✨ Accredited CBT & EMDR Psychotherapist
🎤 Speaker | Trainer | Supervisor
🧠 Functional Psychotherapy
💫 Mind-Body Optimisation
📍 UK | Online Worldwide

After 17 years as a Psychotherapist, here’s the truth I wish more people understood 👇Depression isn’t weakness. It’s dat...
28/11/2025

After 17 years as a Psychotherapist, here’s the truth I wish more people understood 👇

Depression isn’t weakness. It’s data. It’s your mind and body waving a flag saying “something isn’t right.”

We’re so quick to label ourselves as broken, failing, or not coping… But what if your low mood is actually a signal rather than a symptom?

Maybe it’s your job.
Your relationship.
Your lifestyle.
Your patterns.
Your environment.
Your nervous system.

In therapy, I see time and time again that depression is often a completely appropriate response to inappropriate circumstances. A check-engine light from your psyche — not a moral failing.

Medication can absolutely help some people.
But you can’t medicate your way out of a life that’s misaligned.

You have to investigate, not just medicate. Be curious. Ask: What needs to change? Because when you shift the circumstances causing the depression, the depression often starts to shift too.

This is the heart of my straight-talking approach to mental health: No shame. No stigma. No bu****it.
Just clarity, compassion, and the courage to look honestly at what your mind is trying to tell you.

If this resonates, share it. Someone in your world needs to hear it today. 🤍

— Lauren | The Yorkshire Therapist
CBT • Functional Mental Health

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✨If there’s one lesson I hope my Tom carries with him through life, it’s this:Integrity matters. Kindness matters. Life ...
27/11/2025

✨If there’s one lesson I hope my Tom carries with him through life, it’s this:

Integrity matters. Kindness matters. Life won’t always be fair, and people won’t always be gentle — but you can still choose to be.

I tell him often that there’s a beautiful paradox in life:
you can be strong and soft at the same time.

✨Strong in your morals.
✨Strong in standing up for what’s right.
✨Strong in speaking the truth, even when your voice shakes.
✨Strong enough to stand beside the underdog when everyone else stays silent.

And at the very same time — soft.
✨Soft in how you treat people.
✨Soft in your compassion, your empathy, your ability to see the human behind the behaviour.
✨Soft in refusing to bully, belittle or harm, no matter what the world throws your way.

Because real strength isn’t harshness — it’s choosing kindness when it would be easier not to. It’s holding your boundaries and holding your heart open ❤️

That’s what I want for Tom. And honestly? It’s what I want for all of us.

If you’re raising little humans — or trying to re-raise the one inside yourself — this reminder is for you too. 💛

— The Yorkshire Therapist

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26/11/2025

🔥 POV: Your need for control is ruining your mental health!!

Let’s talk about something uncomfortable but freeing: control… is mostly an illusion.

We spend SO much time trying to control everything —
other people’s reactions, the future, every possible outcome.
And honestly? It’s exhausting.

Here’s the truth your anxious brain doesn’t want to hear 👇
Neuroscience shows the brain hates uncertainty.
So it creates stories, predicts danger, and spirals into “what if…” thinking to try and feel safe.

But that feeling of control?
It’s not real.

You can influence things, yes —
but you can’t control people, the future, or half the chaos your mind is trying to manage.

And the tighter you cling to control, the worse you feel.
More anxiety. More burnout. More tension.
It’s like holding your breath all day praying nothing goes wrong.

So what do you do instead?

👉 Shift from control to focus.
Ask yourself:
“What’s actually in my control in the next 10 minutes?”

✔ Your actions
✔ Your boundaries
✔ Your effort
✔ Your response

That’s it.
Other people’s thoughts, feelings or behaviour?
Not your jurisdiction. Not your job.

When you stop trying to control the uncontrollable, your nervous system finally gets to breathe.
Let go — even just a little.
You’ll feel the difference.

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POV: We’d solve so many relationship problems—partners, kids, colleagues, everyone—if we stopped assuming and actually a...
24/11/2025

POV: We’d solve so many relationship problems—partners, kids, colleagues, everyone—if we stopped assuming and actually asked:

“What do you need from me right now?”

Not what you think they need.
Not what you would want.
What they actually need.

Most conflict isn’t about bad intentions… it’s about misattuned support. When you give from your lens instead of their reality, disconnection happens.

If you want healthier communication, stronger relationships, and less emotional burnout, start here.
Ask. Don’t assume. 🫶

✨ Improving communication skills, emotional intelligence & mental health starts with curiosity — not mind-reading.

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📣We need to talk about why you keep asking everyone else what you should do!Here’s the truth (and yes, it might sting):M...
21/11/2025

📣We need to talk about why you keep asking everyone else what you should do!

Here’s the truth (and yes, it might sting):
Most people are giving you advice based on their fears, their failures, and their tiny slice of life experience. Not because they’re bad people — but because they genuinely don’t know any better.

And deep down?
You already know what you want.
You already know what you’re avoiding.
You already know what needs to change.

You’re not confused — you’re scared….And you’re hoping someone will give you permission to take the easy road, or tell you it’s okay to stay comfortable.

But comfort is often just fear wearing pyjamas.

Here’s your reminder, from a therapist who knows
her s**t:
Trust yourself.
Back yourself.
Make the decision you’ve been dancing around.
Your intuition hasn’t been wrong — you’ve just been outsourcing your confidence!

✨ If you want a happier, healthier, more aligned life… stop asking people who’ve never lived it how to create it. ✨

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20/11/2025

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✨ Exercise and Anxiety: What the Science Actually SaysWe talk a lot about anxiety… but we don’t talk enough about one of...
19/11/2025

✨ Exercise and Anxiety: What the Science Actually Says

We talk a lot about anxiety… but we don’t talk enough about one of the most overlooked (and free) tools for managing it: movement.

A huge meta-analysis of over 80,000 people found that those who stay physically active have up to 46% lower odds of developing an anxiety disorder. That’s not “woo”. That’s data. Hard, measurable, repeatable science.

Here’s why exercise helps anxiety so much:

💛 Balances stress hormones
Movement reduces cortisol and adrenaline — the chemicals that keep you stuck in “fight or flight”.

💛 Builds a regulated nervous system
Regular physical activity increases GABA and serotonin, the neurotransmitters that help your brain feel calm, steady, and grounded.

💛 Burns off physiological tension
Anxiety lives in the body. Tight chest. Restlessness. Racing heartbeat. Exercise is one of the fastest ways to release that pent-up energy.

💛 Improves sleep
Better sleep = a more resilient brain. A tired mind is an anxious mind.

💛 Boosts confidence + resilience
Small wins (like a walk) create a psychological shift. “I can do this” becomes “What else can I do?”

You don’t need a gym. You don’t need to run. You don’t need to be “fit”.
You just need to move — consistently.

Exercise truly is medicine.
And for anxiety, it’s one of the best preventative tools we have.

If your peace only shows up when life is perfectly predictable, it isn’t peace… it’s control.And control is a sneaky thi...
18/11/2025

If your peace only shows up when life is perfectly predictable, it isn’t peace… it’s control.
And control is a sneaky thing — because it feels like safety, but actually keeps anxiety stuck.

In CBT, we talk a lot about intolerance of uncertainty — the natural human tendency to feel unsafe, anxious, or overwhelmed when we can’t predict what’s coming next.

This is one of the biggest drivers of anxiety disorders, especially GAD, health anxiety, and perfectionism-based anxiety.

When life feels uncertain (which it always does), the anxious brain swings into:
✔ Overthinking
✔ Worst-case scenario planning
✔ Reassurance seeking
✔ Avoidance
✔ Trying to control everything

But here’s the truth:
The more you try to control, the less you actually feel in control.

Real growth happens when you expand your capacity to tolerate uncertainty, not eliminate it.

In CBT, we do this through:
✨ Behavioural experiments
✨ Gradual exposure to uncertainty
✨ Reducing safety behaviours
✨ Learning to sit with discomfort
✨ Building trust in your own ability to cope

And what happens?
Your nervous system learns, “I can handle not knowing.”
Your anxiety reduces.
Your confidence grows.
Your world gets bigger.

You don’t become fearless… you just become steady in the wobble… And that’s real peace ❤️🙏

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16/11/2025

🤯 NOPE… You’re not imagining it — we are getting sicker as a population. Mentally. Physically. Not because we’re “weaker,” but because the entire modern lifestyle we’re living in is working against human biology, nervous system health, and mental wellbeing.

Our diets are more processed than ever. We’re more connected online but starved of real human connection. We’re rushing, scrolling, hustling, consuming… but not resting. Our nervous systems were never designed for chronic stress, dopamine overload, or fast-paced living.

So of course we’re seeing more anxiety, depression, burnout, gut issues, hormone imbalances, inflammation, autoimmune symptoms — all signs of bodies stuck in survival mode.

If you’re struggling, it’s not a personal failure.
It’s your body trying to adapt to a world that’s moving faster than your nervous system can cope with — a mismatch between functional health and modern life.

Start with the basics: real food, real connection, slower moments, movement, boundaries with tech, and actual rest.
Small, sustainable changes genuinely move the needle for whole-person healing.

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✨Ever noticed how you can bend over backwards to be kind, clear, open, or honest… and some people will still misundersta...
16/11/2025

✨Ever noticed how you can bend over backwards to be kind, clear, open, or honest… and some people will still misunderstand you?

That’s because people don’t see you as you.
They see you through their lens — a lens shaped by their wounds, their upbringing, their unmet needs, their worldview, and the stories they’ve rehearsed for years.

And honestly? That lens has nothing to do with your worth, your truth, or your character.

One of the most freeing things you can ever do for your mental health is to stop trying to manage other people’s perceptions. You could be the safest, softest, strongest version of yourself and some people will still project their fears, insecurities, or past experiences onto you.

Letting go of the need to be understood by everyone isn’t giving up — it’s emotional freedom. It’s choosing peace over perfection. It’s choosing authenticity over approval.

When you stop editing yourself to fit someone else’s story, you reclaim your power. You stop performing.
You start living.

If this resonates, it’s probably because you’re overdue to release the pressure of being “everything for everyone.” You get to be you… and let others interpret that however their lens allows. It’s not yours to carry.

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Lauren x
The Yorkshire Therapist

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💥 We’ve been sold one of the biggest medical lies of all time: That the mind and body are separate. They’re not. They ne...
15/11/2025

💥 We’ve been sold one of the biggest medical lies of all time: That the mind and body are separate. They’re not. They never have been!!

If you’ve ever been told your symptoms are “just stress,” or that your anxiety, depression, trauma or burnout are “in your head,” you’ve been given half the story. The truth is this:

🧠 Your mind is in your body.
💛 Your body shapes your mind.

Your nervous system, hormones, gut health, sleep, inflammation, nutrition, and past experiences ALL interact to create your emotional state. This is why functional mental health matters. This is why holistic health isn’t “woo.” This is why people stay stuck when they only treat symptoms in isolation.

When your body is in survival mode, your brain thinks in survival mode.
When your physiology settles, your thoughts follow.
When you ignore one, the other screams louder.

If you’re struggling with stress, anxiety, chronic fatigue, low mood or unexplained physical symptoms, it’s not because you’re “broken.” It’s because your whole system is overwhelmed — physically and emotionally.

This is what I teach in my therapy:
⚡ You have more power than you think.
⚡ Healing happens when you treat the WHOLE human.
⚡ You are not meant to function as a disconnected machine.

If you’re done with surface-level advice and want a no-bu****it, science-backed approach to getting your mind and body working together, stay here — this is what I do.

Drop a 💛 if you’re ready to take your nervous system, your mental health, and your whole wellbeing seriously.

13/11/2025

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