07/05/2026
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People like me (ie therapists/coaches often prattling on about the importance of boundaries. Knowing what your boundaries are, setting them and holding firm to them.
Somebody recently challenged one of my boundaries which ultimately is around my emotional safety, self-respect and values, to instead people please for others ease in a challenging situation… and it made me think 🤔
Boundaries are not about avoiding or putting up with things which you just don’t like. In fact quite the opposite.
It’s a clear statement of what you will and won’t accept…your time, energy, body, and emotional space.
Not controlling others. Not punishing others. Just defining your limits.
Without boundaries, you end up overcommitted, resentful, drained, disconnected from yourself.
With boundaries, you get clarity, self respect, better relationships (yes really) & energy for what really matters.
How to set a boundary (keep it simple):
💪 Get honest: What feels off or too much?
🕰️ Decide your limit: What am I available for instead?
🗣️ Say it clearly: “I’m not available for that.”…“I need more notice next time.”…’’I don’t feel comfortable in that situation’’
No over-explaining. No apologising for having needs.
People may challenge your boundaries, especially if they’re used to the old version of you. And especially if it challenges the status quo.
Here’s how to handle it….
🧘♀️ Stay calm and repeat the boundary
🤫 Don’t get pulled into debates
Consistency is what makes a boundary real.
People don’t learn your boundaries from what you say once….they learn from what you consistently allow.
Your life gets lighter the moment your boundary becomes solid.
