Allister Murdoch - Counselling for Men

07/03/2026

07/03/2026

This is an important message to remember. As part of our process of change we may well return to our previous behaviour. That does not mean that we have totally failed and that we cannot continue the process of change. We can. Remind yourself that you have changed the behaviour before and repeat the change. You may want to find support for yourself in making the change if you feel that would help you. You don't have to stop the change.

06/03/2026

I will not be working on both Monday 9th March or Friday 13th March. I am working the other three days next week.

06/03/2026

Here's a group that may be of interest either to yourself or professionally.

Gay Dads Scotland – Monthly Support Meeting

We’re looking forward to our next monthly support meeting on Wednesday 11th March at The Outhouse, 12A Broughton Street Lane, Edinburgh.

We’ll meet in the bar at 8:00pm before moving to a private room for the meeting itself.

Our support meetings are a relaxed, friendly and confidential space to connect with other gay dads, share experiences, and support one another.

If you’re new to Gay Dads Scotland, you would be very welcome to come along. There’s no pressure – just a warm group of dads who understand.

For more information, email info@gaydadsscotland.org.uk or visit www.gaydadsscotland.org.uk

We hope to see you there!

20/02/2026

How times have changes. For the first time since I opened my practice in Scotland in 2007 I have no clients that I see on a weekly basis. Now it's commonly fortnightly or even monthly. I have plenty of space for new clients, especially appointments after 5pm. Contact me via http://www.amurdoch.com/ to book an appointment. I can often see you within 2 days.

Counsellor specialising in providing therapy for men who are abuse victims, have anxiety, depression, LGBTQIA clients, Men's issues,relationships, stress.

20/02/2026

New guidance on the safe use of mental health apps has been published, a welcome and timely step as more people turn to digital tools for support.

We welcome clear standards that will help protect users, strengthen data security and promote evidence-based care in a fast-growing market. However, safeguards must keep pace with innovation so people can trust the support they’re accessing.

Read more here 👉 https://orlo.uk/AkOxm

18/02/2026

You don't have to be a trained professional or support group leader to be a role model.
You only have to be a human.
You don't have to be perfect.
Be a role model.

www.amurdoch.com

BBC News - Prince William shares personal message on mental health and male su***de - BBC News
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm21d4j26pdo

Prince William has offered his advice to those struggling with their mental health, in a special Radio 1 panel discussion.

17/02/2026

This is a short video explaining why the newly created Men's Therapy Hub Directory exists. You can find me on it.
https://menstherapyhub.co.uk/

https://youtu.be/OgeWXV7Y8eg?si=TVyRLyT_sxNVwpXc

Our founder, Chris Hemmings, explaining the importance of a therapy space built by men, for men.

17/02/2026

For some reason the reviews that I had for this page and my work have disappeared. If any of you kind people would like to leave a review I would be very grateful. Thanks

17/02/2026

Conflict and self-acceptance; The paradox of being your authentic self ✨✨

Not everyone will like you. That’s a fact.  And that's okay!

When someone's words sting or their criticism lands hard, your first instinct might be to defend, withdraw, or question your worth. But here's a truth that therapy teaches us: choosing not to engage with every barb or comment isn't weakness—it’s where self acceptance and self-preservation lives.

Rising above doesn't mean the words don't hurt. It doesn't mean pretending we're unaffected. It means recognizing that you can feel the sting and still know your value isn't determined by someone else's opinion. You don’t respond to prove your worth. You don’t defend to earn approval. You step back because you already know your value isn’t up for debate.

Every time you choose not to engage, you're choosing yourself. Every time you choose dignity over defensiveness, you’re reinforcing something powerful: self-acceptance isn't conditional on universal approval.

The paradox? The more you accept that not everyone will like you, the more you free yourself to be authentically you—and that's where genuine connection begins.

You don't need everyone's validation. You need your own.  Not everyone will like you. And the moment you truly accept that, you stop needing them to.

 

17/02/2026

Very interesting article and I agree with the reasons that men often avoid therapy. This is why learning to work with men is something that more therapists need to think about get additional training for.

Understanding Why Men Avoid Therapy

Dr Stephen Blumenthal, a consultant clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst, recently published an article discussing the reasons why men are often reluctant to seek therapy.

Our decision to create Blethr wasn’t just about building another app. It was about listening—really listening—to what men were telling us. Many said they wanted a space where they could talk honestly, without fear of stigma or being judged. They wanted privacy, flexibility, and the chance to explore their feelings at their own pace. Most importantly, they wanted to feel understood.

Read more here: https://www.brothersinarmsscotland.co.uk/shorthand-breaking-the-silence/

17/02/2026

Men don’t always look like they’re struggling.

But when they reach out, someone needs to answer.

Join The AMIS 100 and stand with a man.

Contact us for more information Carol-Anne@amis.org.uk