Glow up Therapy

07/04/2025

Kindness costs nothing.

27/02/2025

13/01/2025

An unfair truth.

06/12/2024

This goes for all relationships. Romantic, platonic or familial. Know your worth.

01/10/2024

Getting rid of introjected values, is, one of the best things you can do to find you.

22/06/2024

With all the different modalities of counselling and psychotherapy, finding the right fit can become confusing. However, one thing that comes first is the relationship you build with your therapist. If it doesn't feel right listen to yourself, it is OK to therapist shop. (Images do not belong to Glow up Therapy)

08/06/2024

What is your attachment style and how does it influence the relationships in your life?

02/05/2024

Trauma, it can affect everyone different. Just because your trauma may not have traumatised someone else, doesn't mean that it isn't valid. All of your experiences are yours and that is valid.

29/04/2024

The saying goes: A problem shared is a problem halved. It may not be exact science as everyone has their own process and most importantly processing time. Don't let what's on your mind weigh you down.

20/04/2024

People pleasing.

This unlocked a new level of understanding for me, and how I started to learn about my own areas of emotional unavailability. I NEVER thought I was emotionally unavailable, despite often finding myself in relationships with or pursuing emotionally unavailable people. After all, I felt my feelings strongly and I was very attuned to other people’s emotions, so that must mean I was available, right?

What I've slowly learned is that by downplaying my own needs and feelings in order to hold space for and meet the needs of everyone else, I wasn't being honest with myself OR them.

I wasn't actually letting people see me.

I was controlling the narrative, and would often end up being passive aggressive later on down the line because I hadn't been open about what was working for me throughout the relationship. Sometimes I didn't even know, because I was so desperate to be accepted that I was just trying to be who I thought they wanted me to be/or who I needed to be to be seen as "good."

Emotional availability is being present to your feelings and needs and being willing to share them, and allowing the other person to have their own feelings and responses to your needs.
It's vulnerable bc we're never sure what's going to happen - we have to let other people have their own experiences in relationship to us.

And of course, we people-please for a reason. I didn't do this on purpose; it was what I was raised to do in my family system because many parts of my Self were shamed early on, so I developed the ability to hide them. I still sometimes have to fight the urge to downplay my own needs and to actually speak up when my feelings might inconvenience someone. But I see it now.

Hiding your actual needs and feelings doesn't allow other people to see the real you. They don't get to know the real you or hold space for the real you. They don't get the privilege of helping you when you need it, or get to show deeper sides of their personality if they're only ever responding to one aspect of yours.

If you're working on this, it can feel scary and triggering (again, for reasons that make a lot of sense). The live Let It Go (emotional self management) Workshop begins May 8, where you'll learn how to meet yourself with greater compassion and grounding when experiencing tough emotions.
Register by April 19 (Friday!) and save $75 with code EARLYBIRD75 at checkout.

https://theeqschool.co/let-it-go-workshop

11/04/2024

Self-care is checking in with yourself. Just don't forget to listen.

01/03/2024

Self-care. What is it? For different people self-care varies, from singing your heart out on the drive home to hurtling down trails on a bike. What is important is that we do it. So sing your heart out or dance like no one is watching and give yourself that inner glow.