
23/08/2024
You say you’d die for your children but let me ask you this, will you live for them?
Take a moment to reflect are you truly living, or merely existing? Because whatever you’re doing, that’s exactly what your children are witnessing.
I’m sitting here having a proud dad moment. My amazing daughter has just been given the role of sports captain at her school something she wanted so badly she wouldn’t stop talking about it. She asked me, “Dad, do you really think I’ll get it?” And without hesitation, I said, “Yes, I do.” Why? Because I genuinely believed it. I’ve seen the progress, the effort, and the dedication she’s put in over the past 12 months. Last year, she set her sights on becoming a pupil council member, and she achieved it because of how she conducts herself. So why would this be any different?
But here’s the thing—my belief in her isn’t just based on hope. It’s rooted in the example I set through my actions, not just my words. My children know I get up at 4 AM to meditate and follow my self-care routine, which includes journalling and going to the gym. They watch what I eat and drink, they see the effort I put into being the best version of myself. But what they don’t realise is that I’m not doing it just for me I’m doing it for them.
If you’re constantly stressed, eating junk food, overeating, overweight, and working a job you hate, what kind of quality of life is that? That’s what your children see every day, and that’s what they’ll grow to believe is normal. So, what are the chances they’ll follow in your footsteps?
You can tell them what they should be doing, but if you’re not practising what you preach, that’s hypocrisy. Our children might not always listen to us, but they’ll never fail to emulate us.
That’s why I always say, it’s not about me! Everything I do is for them, and for those who are watching.
Your children need a role model because, whether you realise it or not, you’re their superhero until you’re not. You have a small window of opportunity to show them what it looks like to live a life worth living.
It’s the small things that can make massive changes, make better nutritional choices, start exercising, meditate, journal, start injecting positivity into your mind by reading books that will improve your life instead of doom scrolling on social media or watching endless hours of bu****it TV. Start small and gradually increase your efforts daily. By making these small changes, you’re not just improving your own life and productivity you’re laying the foundation for your children, grandchildren, and generations to come. You see the ripple effect, right?
The reality is, we’re all heading to the grave, no matter what we do. But if you want the chance to be around longer to actually see your grandchildren and if you want to live a life worth living instead of merely existing then start making better choices.
You can’t control the weather, you can’t control other people, but you can control yourself. And you can throw every excuse at me—I’ve heard them all, and I’ve probably used them all myself. And do you know what my response will always be? “And now what? What are you going to do about it?” Are you going to let your past dictate your future? You have the opportunity, right now, in this very moment, to make a choice that can impact your life, your children’s lives, and an entire future bloodline. So choose wisely.
You might think, “That’s a bit dramatic.” But is it really? Or is it the truth?
Over the past six years of studying spirituality, stoicism, and peak performance, I’ve learned countless things. But the most important lesson is that everything starts with me. You see the world as you are. So if you’re treating yourself like s**t and feeling s**t, you’ll see the world as s**t. But if you’re treating yourself with respect and doing what’s required, you’ll feel great, and the world will seem great too.
So if you want to create an external reality that you love, you need to create an internal reality that you love first. Your children are watching, and they’re learning from you every single day. Live a life that not only you can be proud of but one that your children can look up to and aspire to.
You’re one choice away from a better life... Your next choice.