Hampshire Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy

24/11/2025

Yes - every story about relationships ever told began in the body. Long before the mind forms a sentence, the nervous system has already taken notes.

We don’t stay bound in a relationship because the story is good. We stay bound because a part of us is still standing on a page that once kept us alive.

The body doesn’t rush chapters. It waits until it feels safe enough to turn the page… even when the mind knows the story should have ended long ago.

So when you feel the tug - the ache, the confusion, the sudden longing - it isn’t a sign to go back. It’s a memory-page, rising because your system is ready to understand it differently.

Every moment of awareness is a finger on the corner of that page.

And one quiet day, it turns. 🌿

23/11/2025

On this page, we explore what attachment needs really are - and how they intertwine with trauma responses.

When these two systems meet inside the same body, they don’t stay separate or neat. They pull, tighten, react, and echo through us in ways that can feel overwhelming.

People often talk about attachment patterns and trauma bonds as if they live in two different bubbles.They don’t.

They meet in your nervous system - the same history, the same instinct for safety.

When they find each other, they can create a bond that feels like a rope you can’t loosen. A pull you can’t name.

A dance you were never taught how to stop. You stay with people that hurt you for too long.

This isn’t weakness.
It’s wiring - shaped by what you lived through, not who you are.

Here, we’ll gently untangle that wiring.
Quietly.
Clearly.
Without labels or blame - just the patterns that shaped you, and the ways you can step out of them at your own pace.

🌿 White Noise · by Erica

23/11/2025

Stepping out of a trauma bond isn’t about forgetting the person — it’s about freeing your nervous system from the cycle that kept you hooked. Recovery begins the moment you stop calling the storm love and start calling it over.

12/10/2025

Stepping out of a trauma bond isn’t the grand finale people imagine — it’s the moment your nervous system finally stops bracing for impact.

Stillness can feel strange at first, but it’s not emptiness — it’s peace arriving quietly.

21/05/2025

A short video on what abuse can do to your brain. There are many kinds of abuse and not all are easy for a child to identify.

What Abuse Does To Your Brain | The Real Impact of Trauma on Mental HealthAbuse doesn't just leave emotional scars—it changes the structure and function of y...

23/03/2025

As a therapist I often have clients present with worries of anxiety and low mood and its connection to work related issues eg toxic working environments. The research had been spotty up until the last decade or so. The university at Buffalo in New York have written this article which sets out how narcissists constrain team performance. A very interesting read for employers and employees alike.

Narcissists make bad teammates — both in the NBA and in your workplace, according to a new study from the School of Management.

25/06/2024

I’d just like to say how much my group enjoyed their day at Tumulus woods, with Andrea Joy and Rich. Not forgetting our new friends Joy, Sabrina, Steven, Tudor, Milarepa, John from Hampshire Vegan Catering and the lovely Lou from The Yoga Woods.

Our day started with a gentle stroll to the clearing where we enjoyed a welcome drink and chat with other participants. Lou then took us on an amazing journey and introduction into Vedic Yoga breath work (I think I’m right there). Which took us to lunch time.

We enjoyed our leisurely lunch under the canopy of trees talking to our new acquaintances and getting to know each other a bit more. This was followed by an amazing few hours creating our own unique bearded men from clay provided by our charming event organisers.

I don’t think Andrea and her team could have planned our time better. Nothing was rushed and the breath work left me feeling relaxed and energised. The time spent creating was lovely and I felt, gently pushed boundaries in many good ways.

Well done to all of you and Thank you Tumulus Woods

25/06/2024

Im writing this post to thank Andrea Joy and her husband Rich for a fantastic day at their mini retreat in Tumulus Woods last Saturday.

My group had the best time and are looking forward to a return trip.

I don’t think Andrea could have planned our time better. Nothing was rushed and the breath work session by Lou from The Yoga Woods left us floating and relaxed ready for our lovely lunch provided by John, from Vegan Catering.

The time spent creating our wonderful and very unique green men from clay, wood, leaves and anything else we could forage ethically was so relaxing. I felt this gently pushed people’s boundaries in many good ways. Some find it hard to take compliments and often feel judged but it was not the case here. Well done Tumulus Woods!

18/02/2024

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