08/09/2025
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Big emotions after nursery/school pick up are very common. Thank you for explaining Family Corner - Early Years Alliance 💛
Perhaps you have a little one who has just started at an early years setting, childminder or school and you have noticed that after a busy day they are struggling with their emotions at pick up times.
This is called restraint collapse and is perfectly normal as they are learning to deal with all the new experiences they have had during the day. It shows that you are their safe place - that they feel they can figure everything out with you.
Take a moment to think about all the new things they have had to learn, the times they have had to cope with new feelings and emotions, to share resources and adult attention - it's no wonder that all these feelings that have been kept inside can spill out once they are with you.
To try to help give them the time and space they need, greet them with enthusiasm and rather than questioning them about what they have been up to, encourage them to share their day by talking about what you have been doing.
Perhaps they need some quiet time or a run in the park - you know your little one best.
Listen and empathise with them, acknowledging and naming their feelings. Remember that as a parent/carer we can give them the time, space and love they need.
