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Glasgow based counsellor (NCPS Acr) offering a space for you to talk through any difficulties

25/11/2025

Many South Asian women grow up hearing that life truly starts once you’re married; that freedom, happiness, travel, independence, emotional safety even basic permission slips will magically arrive the moment you have a husband.

And when you’re raised with that message long enough, it’s easy to start believing it.

It’s easy to think marriage is the escape route:
from restrictions, from loneliness, from feeling invisible at home, from cultural double standards, from parents who say 'no' too often.

But here’s the quiet truth no one tells you.

When you believe life begins after marriage, you’re more likely to choose marriage as a way out and not a way forward.

And that’s where so many women find themselves stuck by expecting a partner to fill gaps that were created long before he ever entered the picture.

Freedom?
Validation?
Affection?
Permission to live?

Those aren’t gifts a husband is meant to hand over.
Those are things you’re meant to start cultivating within yourself, in your own life, today.

Marriage can be companionship, love, partnership, growth but it isn’t a replacement for the parts of your life your parents told you to postpone.

A husband isn’t meant to become the parent you wished you had. He cannot single-handedly deliver all the experiences you were told to 'wait for'

Your life doesn’t start after a wedding.
Your life starts when *you* decide that you’re allowed to have one.

And your 20s are a beautiful time to start breaking the pattern; to stop waiting for permission, and start building a life that feels like yours.

If you want more posts that make you feel seen (and occasionally lovingly called out), hit follow!

21/11/2025

My inner dialogue when my client reacts to their abuser.

However when someone who’s been gaslit, guilt-tripped and emotionally worn down finally hits their limit - it's so common for the abuser to flip the script on them.

So therapist-me is cheering AND bracing at the same time.

Your anger? Valid.
Your reaction? Human.
Them flipping the script? Predictable.

And no - reacting to abuse does **not** make you the problem.

Follow me for more support created especially for South Asian women navigating messy family dynamics, toxic relationships, cultural guilt and the work of breaking cycles with compassion.......and a little sass!

17/11/2025

That “Bismillah” story always reminds me how connection can show up in the smallest, most unexpected ways.

For so many of us raised between cultures, these moments become the bridge between worlds, reminding us where we come from and who we are now.

💭 What’s one thing you’ve inherited from your immigrant parents or grandparents that you now treasure?

If you’re exploring the impact of culture, upbringing and the relationships that shaped you, I hold space for all of that here. You’re welcome to join by following along.

11/11/2025

Being the cycle breaker isn’t about proving your parents wrong - it’s about freeing yourself from what shaped them too. Healing is reclaiming yourself and the future ahead of you ✨

06/11/2025

When the maths doesn't math. They're on a marriage app but 'not ready for commitment and want to see where it goes'?

Translation: They want the perks of a relationship without the work - emotional or otherwise.

And because we, South Asian women, are so often raised to be patient, understanding and “not too demanding,” you might start convincing yourself that it's fine.

If they're not ready, that’s their journey.

But you don’t need to change what you want to match their confusion.

You’re not asking for too much - you’re just asking the wrong person.

If all that sounded a little too familiar, maybe it’s time to unpack what keeps you waiting for people who aren’t ready.

I have availability for single sessions which you can book directly from my website (link in bio).

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28/10/2025

So many of us learn early on that staying quiet keeps us safe - that avoiding conflict keeps the peace.

But over time, that silence starts to cost us; our needs, our authenticity or our sense of self.

Learning to use your voice isn’t about becoming loud or confrontational - it’s about becoming honest. It’s about trusting that your truth is worth hearing even if others don’t always like it.

And when that moment happens in therapy, when someone who’s spent years people-pleasing finally speaks from their core.....everything shifts.

If you’ve been the peacekeeper for too long and you’re ready to start speaking up for yourself, I have availability for single sessions to help you take that first step toward finding your voice. You can book directly (link in bio).

22/10/2025

You didn’t become that way by accident.

You learned early that being “the good one” meant absorbing everyone else’s moods, fixing their messes and keeping it all together.

And it worked......kind of.

You became dependable, strong, the one everyone turns to.

But it also left you tired. Resentful. Lonely.

You struggle to rest without guilt, to say no without anxiety or to let others take care of YOU.

You’re brilliant at understanding everyone else’s feelings…......except your own.

Here’s the thing - you were never meant to carry that much emotional weight.

You just grew up in a family and culture that didn’t know what to do with feelings so they handed them all to you.

This space is where you finally get to put them down.
Where we unlearn guilt, heal from hyper-responsibility and stop calling exhaustion “strength.”

Where you can laugh, exhale and remember what it’s like to belong to yourself again.

If you’re ready to unpack this, I have availability for single sessions designed for South Asian women like you - the women who’ve spent a lifetime holding everyone else but now learning how to hold themselves.

The coffee's on - welcome to my page.

Address

Spiersbridge
Glasgow
G468NG

Telephone

+447432128670

Website

http://www.faiyousaf.co.uk/

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