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Suzanna De Silva Counselling

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Suzanna De Silva Counselling

Hello! I am a counsellor working with Trauma, Autism, ADHD and Anxiety in Surrey and online. I work in the Godalming, Haslemere and Guildford areas.

19/05/2025

Life has thrown up some challenges for me in the last year. In amongst the turbulence I'm finding time to be outside and let the world around me soften and soothe me.

Finding this lovely little message - "hope" - posted on a tree near my home made me smile.

And it got me thinking about this lovely quote:

"Life is amazing. And then it's awful. And then it's amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it's ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That's just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it's breathtakingly beautiful."
L.R. Knost

I'll leave this there with you today. And if you have any words or quotes that you love please post them...

27/03/2025

Spring 🌱 has sprung here at the Fintry - what a gorgeous few days it's been! My counselling room and the beautiful gardens surrounding it have been so warm, welcoming and bright.

The spring bulbs, tulips and daffodils, are everywhere. It's a sea of yellows, greens and oranges. 🌿🌱🌷

22/12/2024

This Christmas period I'm going to step back into some peace and quiet. No rushing to see as many people as possible. No running around the shops finding last minute gifts.

I'm going to take care of myself and indulge in some of my favourite things. I'm going to:

*Relax at home and watch TV and read under my heated blanket
*Cook and eat tasty food. Comfort food is high on the list, like bangers and mash and sweet potato stew
*Go for walks in the woods
*Do a bit of stretching and yoga
*Play pickleball
*Hang out with my sons

I often find that when I'm taking care of myself and doing my favourite things that I feel a bit guilty. As if I should be doing something more "worthy". So I'm going to bring that guilty part of me along too.

When I start to feel guilty I'm going to acknowledge the guilt and continue to look after myself anyway.

Because life is filled with lists and rushing and not enough time. So for the next two weeks I'm going to do something different. Go slow.....it will feel a bit weird but I'm going to go with it.

How are you going to take care of yourself over this Christmas break?

30/10/2024

Tired but happy. Studying the final section of my 12 day Somatic Trauma Training Course with the renowned Babette Rothschild, author of The Body Remembers and other leading trauma training books.

I've learned so much on this course, from both the course leaders and other counsellors on the course.

I've most importantly learned how to keep my clients and myself safe while they share difficult past events. I now have many different ways to help clients come back to being calm and regulated while exploring tough past life situations.

08/07/2024

Here are a few photos of my outdoor counselling space in Godalming. I walk with people in Broadwater Park in Godalming and it's a very lovely place to work.

Outdoor counselling can feel a bit less intense than face to face counselling in a room. Walking side by side in nature can feel more relaxed and it can be easier to share simply because of the calming environment and movement of your body.

Walk and talk counselling can also:

🌿Reduce feelings of stress or anger
🌿Help you take time out and feel more relaxed.
Improve your physical health and help you get more active.
🌿Connect you to the natural world
🌿Help you access your fix of sunshine which in turn may help improve your mood and help you sleep better

If you would like to find out more about outdoor therapy either send me a message or check out my website (link in bio).

04/06/2024

Quite a lot of people on the autism spectrum have Alexythmia. Alexithymia refers to a difficulty in identifying and/or expressing emotions.

Honestly I think that so many of us, whether neurodiverse or not, struggle to work out what we are feeling. And life gets easier when we learn to listen more closely to what is going on inside. Body sensations and feelings are clues that help to tell us what matters to us, where our boundaries are.

People with alexithymia feel the usual range of emotions, but they are less aware of their own emotions and the emotions of others. It can cause a lot of confusion and uncertainty with identity (what do I like and dislike, what do I need?) and interpersonal relationships (how do I express to them what I need, what I am feeling).

The Animi app (on your smartphone via the app store or Google apps) helps you find out more about your internal world by guiding you deeper with the clues that you have. You may not know how you feel yet you recognise certain bodily sensations, and you can start with those. Or you may be able to identify some key emotions but not more subtle ones and the app will guide you with suggestions.

Getting to better understand how you react and what you feel is key to starting to understand your likes and dislikes and how you would like to interrelate with others.

Working with an app like this can help you become more aware of the cues your body gives you to how you feel and what you like or dislike and you can begin to get to know yourself better and then help other people understand you.

The app was free when I downloaded it and a useful tool in increasing internal self awareness. I think so many of us are not aware of our bodily cues so I think it's an interesting app for many people, whether neurodivergent or not.

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30/04/2024

I had such a great time at the Women's Work Social in Haslemere last week. It was wonderful to meet with a group of vibrant women all working hard on growing and running their own businesses.

It's a great place to learn about all aspects of running a small business and to get connection, friendship and support. I had to run off early to meet a client but I left inspired as usual. Thank you and for the photograp h above.

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20/04/2024

Such a delightful day in one of my favourite places, Winkworth Arboretum. An explosion of colour delivered by some sensational azaleas in neon colours. And then carpets of softly coloured bluebells as far as the eye could see. Interspersed with deep purple acers.
Honestly the Arboretum was really showing off today 😁 🌳🌿🌸🌷🌹🪻.

We walked right to the top of the hill where you could see for probably 12 or 15 miles to the horizon. Above us was a beautiful wide-winged bird of prey rising and falling on the wind far above us.

A gorgeous sunny Saturday! Where do you love to hang out on a weekend?

28/03/2024

This is a lovely book full of wisdom. It's helping me improve my relationship with mindfulness.

As a counsellor I think mindfulness and meditation is brilliant, and really helpful in reducing overthinking.

As a woman with ADHD, my own business, a single parent to two boys, I can easily distract myself with several million things to do instead of settling down to meditate.

This book, When Things Fall Apart, has been helping me see how to be more mindful in the present moment.

One of the things the author talks about is when, especially during troubled times, we get caught up in overthinking. She suggests we acknowledge our thoughts and also recognise that they are just "thinking". Not always real, not the whole story, more like stories (often laced with fear) that we are telling ourselves.

And this is not the whole picture.

Thinking can drown out the potential interest or pleasure of being in the moment - of experiencing something right now. Seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting and other senses are reliant on us being aware of those sensations, tuning into them, enjoying them, and allowing our thoughts to recede.

When I get caught up in my head and I'm having a proper overthink about something, I am now trying to notice...I'll just say "thinking" in my head to myself and redirect myself to a different sensation or experience. It takes a bit of practice but it's allowing me to create a bit more wiggle room for experiencing life in the moment.

Do you have any tips for bringing yourself into the here and now?

07/03/2024

This week I'm relaxing and unwinding in my favourite place in the whole world - Portugal.

Last week TripAdvisor decided to crown this beach in Vilamoura the most beautiful in the world. The Falesia beach is 6 kilometres of wide, wide sandy beach bordered by tall terracotta cliffs and pink and yellow wildflowers. We walked the length of it yesterday and I even threw myself in the sea at one point (15 degrees so not too bad but definitely bracing).

I've been coming here since I was six and it felt extra special this year as I've just got my Portuguese citizenship. So I'm almost a local now 😂.

I'm refreshing, unwinding, relaxing, eating and finding peace so I can return to my clients next week re-energised for the weeks ahead.

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23/02/2024

I had a wonderful day with yesterday. I was there ostensibly to learn about how to market to my ideal clients.

But what I was also doing was having coffee ☕ and croissants 🥐 with a vibrant, energetic bunch of women who all run their own businesses and juggle family, work, friends and everything else.

It was a really inspiring day and I plan to spend more time this year with other local businesswomen.

I love counselling, and never look back to my old job in Web Management....and yet....
..I miss the buzz of colleagues, brainstorming, chatting and generally having a good time with other people in a work environment. Maybe this is a way to get the best of both worlds 😁.

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18/02/2024

I offer walking therapy in Godalming near Guildford and Haslemere. Some people struggle with the intensity of sitting in a room face to face with a counsellor. If that sounds like you then maybe walking therapy is worth considering.

Research shows that walking can have a positive impact on mental health, and can be especially beneficial for neurodiverse individuals. Here are some of the benefits of walking therapy:

- Increased focus and attention ‍
- Reduced stress and anxiety
- Improved social interaction
- Increased self-awareness
- Improved mood and well-being
- Improved physical health

Find out more about walk and talk counselling here : https://www.silvacounselling.co.uk/walk-and-talk-counselling

If you're looking for a supportive and understanding counsellor, do consider reaching out to me for a free 20 minute chat.
Tel: 07471 213413
I specialise in working with neurodiverse clients and offer walking therapy as an option. Let's take the first step together!

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Godalming

Opening Hours

Monday	9am - 8:30pm
Tuesday	9am - 8:30pm
Wednesday	9am - 8:30pm

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http://www.silvacounselling.co.uk/

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