ClearMind - Counselling/Psychotherapy/Hypnotherapy

18/08/2025

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31/07/2025

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12/07/2025

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A baby's cry is not just noise. It is a biological signal designed to trigger a response from caregivers. When that signal is ignored, especially over time, the consequences reach far deeper than temporary distress. New research shows that consistently leaving a baby to cry without comfort can alter the course of their brain development, emotional regulation, and even future intelligence.

A large-scale Japanese study, following over 100,000 mother-child pairs, found a strong connection between repeated non-response to infant crying and measurable developmental delays. These children were more likely to struggle with communication, motor coordination, social interaction, and problem-solving by early childhood. The early months of life are a critical period when the brain is rapidly wiring itself, and responsive caregiving plays a vital role in that process.

From a physiological perspective, prolonged crying floods an infant’s brain and body with cortisol, the primary stress hormone. This stress response, when experienced regularly, can weaken the developing architecture of the brain, disrupt the formation of secure attachment, and increase the child’s risk of anxiety, aggression, and behavioural issues later in life. In some studies, chronic stress exposure in infancy has also been linked to lower IQ and academic challenges years down the line.

Contrary to popular advice about "toughening up" a baby or letting them "cry it out," science consistently points to the importance of emotional attunement in the early months and years. Responsive caregiving does not mean spoiling a child. It means recognising their cues, validating their needs, and helping them build a sense of safety and trust in the world. These are the foundations of emotional resilience and cognitive strength.

This research reminds us that babies don’t cry to manipulate. They cry because they are biologically wired to seek connection. When we respond with care, we’re not just soothing them in the moment—we’re building their brains for life.

Follow Minds Canvas for more insights into how science shapes the way we raise, nurture, and understand our children.

27/06/2025

https://youtu.be/DYQ4y8XPAhE?si=9M4u8iXFR2S4ea-3

Erica Komisar is a psychoanalyst, parent coach, and author. She is known for her views on modern parenting and the importance of early childhood attachment.S...

21/06/2025

https://youtu.be/WS382UUEPPI?si=zqT1Y6ZtnMQybGZ2

In this powerful testimony, a woman shares her emotional and spiritual journey after experiencing two abortions. Battling guilt, shame, and trauma for years,...

17/06/2025

So accurate

Some days it can be easy to focus on all of the things your child can't do. But your child is more than the things she can't do. She's all the things she CAN do.

Tell me one thing your child can do!

19/05/2025

https://youtu.be/cialLfVZqm4?si=jtFQIkZuMfCWaapj

Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert with over 30 years of private practice experience. She is the author of ...

30/03/2025

John B. Watson famously claimed that if he were to be given a dozen healthy infants, he could shape them into anything; doctors, lawyers, artists, beggars, o...

29/01/2025

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28/01/2025

To, co tolerujesz dziś,
jutro staje się twoim standardem.
To, na co pozwalasz raz,
będzie wracać jak bumerang.
Aż stanie się normą.
Twoją nową normalnością.

Każde " nic się nie stało ",
gdy coś się stało.
Każde " trudno ",
gdy boli.
Każde " jakoś to będzie ",
gdy nie jest okay.

To nie są tylko słowa.
To są ciche przyzwolenia.
Malutkie ustępstwa.
Drobne kompromisy
Które dzień po dniu
zjadają twoją godność.

Bo granice?
Nie są murem.
Są mapą.
Pokazującą innym,
jak mogą cię traktować.
Gdzie kończy się ich teren,
a zaczyna twoja godność.

Każde przekroczenie,
na które przymykasz oko,
to wiadomość:
"Można tak ze mną ".
" Można tak więcej ".
" Można mocniej ".

I pewnego dnia budzisz się
w życiu pełnym rzeczy,
na które nigdy nie chciałeś się zgodzić.
W relacjach, które cię ranią.
W sytuacjach, które cię niszczą.

Bo nie nauczyłeś innych,
gdzie są twoje granice.
Nie pojawiłeś im,
że twój szacunek do siebie
jest silniejszy
niż ich oczekiwania.

Pamiętaj:
Twoje granice, to Twój spokój.
Twoje prawo do życia na własnych zasadach.
Albo nauczysz innych je szanować,
albo pozwolisz im traktować siebie jak dywan,
po którym będą wycierać nogi, aż nic
z ciebie nie zostanie...

Rafał Wicijowski

Od: Palimpsesty myśli i uczuć

20/01/2025

"Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape." - C.S. Lewis

Grief affects us all in different ways. It’s important to remember there is no ‘normal’ way to grieve.

If you need support, we're here ⬇️

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28/12/2024

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