28/12/2025
Stop telling tired people to practise self care.
My feed is full of advice right now about fixing ourselves.
Losing weight.
Starting again.
Getting motivated.
But this is not that season.
This is the season for being honest about how tired you are.
Most of the people I have worked with in gardens, community projects, prisons and family spaces did not need another routine or mindset shift.
They needed a cup of tea.
A place to sit.
A bit of sun on their face.
Someone to notice them.
Support without judgement.
Sometimes that was the work.
Just sitting. Talking. Breathing. Letting the shoulders drop.
We did not tell people to do the work.
We showed up alongside them.
Because you cannot self care your way out of burnout caused by isolation.
You cannot fix exhaustion with productivity.
And you cannot heal alone.
Real care has always been shared.
It lives in community, in food, in small moments of being seen.
So if you are tired, you are not failing.
You are not behind.
You are human.
And if the sun comes out today, put your face in it for a moment.
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