Sanj’s Counselling & Supervision Service

14/08/2025

If your teenager is collecting their results tomorrow, here is some advice on how they can look after their mental health...

1/ Stick to your routine

Sticking to your everyday routine will help you feel more settled and balanced.

2/ Let yourself feel

You don't have to be modest or put on a brave face. However you're feeling is valid. If you're disappointed with your results, give yourself time to process and talk to someone you trust.

3/ Don't panic

You don't have to make a decision about your next steps straight away. Give yourself time.

4/ Don't compare

Someone eles's success is not your failure. No matter what results you received, be proud of who you are and the effort you put it.

5/ Celebrate

You've been through so much. Take the time to celebrate. You've got through a huge chapter of your life. And that chapter has shaped who you are today. That's worth celebratingting.

6/ You’re more than your results

Who you are as a person, how you learn etc isn’t what actually goes down on a piece of paper. These results don’t reflect fully who you are as a person, a being. They reflect the answers given to a question only. These grades are not a true reflection of who you are, what or who you will become later in life. They tell nobody about the kind of character you are or your life story and experiences. You’re more than a list of subjects and grades. You are you…… CELEBRATE you

13/08/2025

There will be an alert sent to our phones in September.
BEFORE this alert goes off for those If you have a secret or secondary phone hidden from an abuser, this alert could reveal it.

Silence can protect you.
Keep yourself safe.

Check your settings before the alert test. Below is how to do it.

02/08/2025

I heard someone say the word beautiful stands for
“be you to the full”
how amazing is this analogy? 🥰

28/01/2025

Powerful

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28/01/2025

I’ve been doing this for many years now and it helps so much. It doesn’t have to be anything huge aside the smalll little things that make you smile that count.

05/01/2025

Go with the flow, be like google maps….
You don’t need to know the route to a particular destination you can adjust the journey as you go such as if you miss a turning Google maps will reroute you…. And just like that you’re not off track just redirected to go a different way.
Life and our journey has many twists and turns along the way. If you miss a turning it’s okay. Maybe you wasn’t meant to go down that particular path for a reason. Being rerouted/ redirected another way may take longer but you’re still on track.
Acknowledging our emotions, our life experiences, past hurts, losses, relationships, our traumas is all part of our journey to self discovery.

I always say keep yourself safe just like when we buckle up in our car to begin our journey, take as long as needed to enable yourself to work through whatever it might be that’s causing you to be feeling distressed, take your time, be gentle with yourself.
Your journey will always be on track even if redirected to take a different turn.

Please reach out should you need support, especially as we’ve just had time off for the festive season which for some can be really difficult.

I can be contacted via the following;

Email: sanjcounselling@outlook.com

Tel: 07947 370044

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05/01/2025

For many, January is a hard, cold month…

Please reach out if you or someone you are close to is struggling. You don’t have to go through it alone.

When everyone is setting new goals, laying down righteous ground rules and striving to become a better version of themselves, some of us are fighting to find our feet each day...

You see, December is a month of giving, and some of us, come January, are completely and utterly spent.

A month of remembering everyone, and remembering absolutely everything.

A month of including everyone and of reaching out to each and every person we have ever known.

A month of reaching breaking point every day trying to have fun, to be the ultimate hostess, to be the perfect guest.

A month of stretching ourselves financially, emotionally and of letting our boundaries be breached by many... in the spirit of the season.

And then January hits and bam... before we can even begin the arduous task of clearing away the festivities, we are expected to jump on the ‘new year, new you’ bandwagon and transform ourselves entirely.

For some of us this is just too much.

January is the darkest and most depressing month of the year and for many sensitive souls, the barrage of ‘advice’ on how we ‘should’ be living, is just too much.

So perhaps this is a safe place to say that maybe it’s okay to take a week or two to recover and to just be kind to ourselves before demanding better.

And for those of us who really do fall low in the darkest month of the year. For those of us who have given too much and to whom the future looks bleak - perhaps this is the right place to say - you are absolutely fine the way you are. Just stay.

Take some time to breathe.

Take some time to not think about anything much at all except breathing in and breathing out.

Take some time to build back up, not tear your yourself down.

For many, this month is a mountain that looks unclimbable.

Be kind, my friends. Always.

(Donna Ashworth)

31/12/2024

25/12/2024

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24/12/2024

Wishing you all a happy Christmas,

This year you may be feeling festive you may not be….. but remember that’s okay.
Right now it’s time to take a break, put your feet up a little and relax.
The festive break can be whatever you want it to be….
Be it you stay in bed, stay in your pjs, grab a pizza instead of having a Christmas dinner and the trimmings…… do as you please it’s okay to do what ever pleases you. There’s no right or wrong.
For those who have lost loved ones spend a little time remembering them and talk about them too, share those fond memories. Be gentle with yourselves.

07/11/2024

Yes it’s a thing……. Especially this time of year alongside S.A.D and morning anxiety

Can you relate?

04/11/2024

We do t have to be positive all of the time, we don’t need to ignore the negative. We just need to take our time in understanding the negative impact of something and break it down to make sense of it all to move forwards. We can’t erase it just understand it all.