04/01/2025
Why do people come for counselling?
The idea of counselling can be a daunting one, often surrounded by the mystery of what to expect.
People come to see a counsellor for a variety of reasons such as:
They may be facing a life-changing event .
Or they may be experiencing a lack of direction, or have feelings of boredom or of being trapped. Perhaps they are experiencing difficulties in a significant relationship, that they are finding difficult to manage. These ongoing issues, without the knowledge and/or support of how to overcome them, can leave them feeling lost and trapped. Some people may be aware of self-destructive patterns occurring in their life which are causing them, or those around them, pain.
Extreme feelings such as anger, shame, guilt, sadness or loneliness may be affecting their daily life, keeping them stuck in an uncomfortable place.
Counselling can help people navigate these feelings. By speaking with a therapist, people are able to explore their feelings and experiences in a safe space, without fear of judgement. As qualified counsellors we will have heard it all - there’s no reason to be ashamed or embarrassed. We are there to listen, explore thoughts, feelings, options, and always supporting the individual.
During the initial consultation, they will have space to talk about why they are seeking therapy and what they hope to gain from it. This is also the time to ask any questions they may have about the counsellor's way of working, the different types of therapy and any concerns or worries they may have.
Initially, some may find it difficult to talk about the issues they have brought to the therapy room. They may experience fear of being judged or criticised, or perhaps they have never felt that anyone has really listened to them or understood them before, let alone accepted them for who they are. This does become easier. As they grow more comfortable with talking about how they feel, the more their confidence will grow.
Asking for help is a big step, so be kind to yourself and be patient, it takes time.
The relationship people have with their therapist can be very different from their other relationships. This relationship is built in an environment with no ‘right or wrong’ and without judgement. It can take some time to relax into sessions, but over time, people will start to feel better. Counselling provides a space in which people can explore the issues that are affecting them to raise their self-awareness. Often, the more accepting of themselves they become, the more options for change emerge.
Web: www.kevinevanscounselling.co.uk
email: info@kevinevanscounselling.co.uk
Tel: 0787 169 1234
I offer individual counselling in person and online from my private consultation room, and Walk & Talk therapy. I am based in Hatfield Peverel with easy
