12/08/2025
I am really passionate about healing uncomfortable stuck emotion and thought patterns in others because I do it on myself every day.
This daily practice started waaay back in 2013.
When I got introduced to Mindfulness. I was 37.
During that time I was recieving bereavement counselling for the passing of my Dad from when I was only 19years old.
I was in complicated grief, which means you don't process grief in the usual way, you get stuck in denial, depression and unsafety and it can last for years.
Mine lasted for 15 years, until I decided I wanted get unstuck and receive counselling and that was the start of my self healing journey.
And the start of coming home to myself 💗
I got gifted an 8 week face to face group course in learning mindfulness, I had no idea what is was.
I had my normal crutches to avoid the pain I was in, like over drinking alcohol,
crap relationships, or eating junk, I realise now they just propped me up emotionally but were not actually helping me heal.
I remember my pivotal moment when time stood still and life changed forever.
We were doing an exercise "mindfulness of breath", where you watch the pattern of your breath through awareness as you breathe in and out.
During the session I suddenly noticed, I didn't feel any emotional pain anymore. nothing.
It had literally left my body for 10 seconds.
It was a flipping miracle.
It was the most amazing 10 seconds of my life, like a feeling of pure inner peace.
Then smack! Back it came again, like a frieght train of grief. Back I was in reality 💔
But it dawned on me, in that moment, that beautiful moment before.
That I had lifted my own feelings of grief, despair & suffering.
I did that. Me.
I didn't feel powerless for once.
I actually felt powerful.
I didn't feel out of control.
I regained control of my emotions & thoughts in that moment 💪
It was an empowering realisation that I wasn't powerless anymore inside this grief. I could use this tool called mindfulness on myself and help myself feel normal again.
I figured, if I could lift grief for 10 seconds, could I do it for 20?
And if that was possible, could I do it for 1 minute, or ten, or even half hour?
Or, maybe a day?? 🥹
So I started my daily practice of self healing, emotional, thoughts & behaviour awareness with mindfulness to see if I could achieve my goal and the rest is history.
And yes I did lift my grief for 20 seconds, and a day and learnt how to release it gently and pass it through my body.
For weeks, months then years .
I came completely through it. As much as you can.
It did shape my life but it didnt define me.
From this incredible tool Mindfulness, my learnt habit of body self awareness and the utmost determination to stay in those feelings of empowerment, peace and eventually joy through self help and self healing ❤️
I have achieved 11 years of healing & breakthroughs.
It's a complete habit now and one that I will do forever.
It now includes other tools like NLP and EFT, writing, visualisations, sensory mindfulness, audio books, reading, goal setting, LOA, to name a few.
This daily self healing practice has helped me to not only navigate life from parental loss in teenage years, but also come through relationship losses, marriage breakdown, business loss, career loss, unexpected house moves, money worries, and all the chaotic emotions, decreased self confidence, overwhelm & over thinking that comes with them.
I have learnt that traumatic experiences can happen in moments but the affects they have on you can last a lifetime. And you live inside the patterns of survival, loops of emotions, self limited beliefs and a disregulated nervous system 🌀
But my practices are helping me grow a deep beautiful loving relationship with myself, one of trust, care, safety, security, abundance.
I have retrained lots of my beliefs and thoughts to like, love and feel good about myself. And believe in myself too.
I am still a work in progress, you never stop unraveling.
I have big dreams and goals I wish to fulfil and I will succeed them all.
Now that I'm not standing in my own way anymore.
15+ years was a lot of time to stay stuck in, and I'm learning that I am still in survival mode from various things, but Emotional Freedom Technique is helping me with that one.
So yes, I walk my talk, I am qualified in Mindfulness, NLP & EFT.
But the 11 years of lived experience, wisdom and education is priceless.
I can empathise massively with anyone who can relate to my story.
And that's why I created
Set Yourself Free, because if I can do it you can too 😍😘❤️❤️😘###
