Ella L Oliver - Domus Spiritus

06/01/2026

Kindness isn’t just something we offer others.
It’s the gateway to understanding ourselves.

When we’ve been raised in environments where mistakes meant punishment —not learning.

Where shame taught us to silence parts of ourselves instead of tend to them with care,
it can feel foreign to meet ourselves with kindness.

But here’s what I know now:
Kindness doesn’t slow growth.
It accelerates it.

When I began my Reiki journey — especially through the practice of self-Reiki — something profound shifted.

Not just energetically, but emotionally.

The act of laying my hands on my own body
and offering patience, softness, and grace
rewired the way I spoke to myself when things felt hard.

That kindness built capacity.

It gave me the inner steadiness to hold more.

To try again.

To keep showing up — without needing to perform in perfection.

If you’ve never been taught kindness…

This is your reminder that it’s something you can not only deserve, but it’s something you can learn.

And Reiki is a beautiful practice that can be your guide in getting there.

✨ Learn more about the upcoming Usui Reiki Level I training (Jan 31 & Feb 1) & explore the power of tending to yourself like you matter.

Because you do.

It is all love,
Ella xo

01/01/2026

I haven’t stopped thinking about what happened in the Stillness Mini Retreat.

On the day of the Winter Solstice, as the world sped up, we slowed all the way down.

We moved. We breathed. We returned to ourselves.

The Stillness Mini Retreat was more than a pause — it was a remembering.

And I wrote a journal entry to hold some of what we touched together.

If you’ve felt the intensity of this season… or longed for a deeper exhale… this might be the moment to land in something softer.

🫧 Read here:

On the day of the Winter Solstice, we gathered in breath and stillness — not to become more, but to remember who we already are. This journal entry is an ode to the quiet power of pausing, the transformation that begins in the dark, and the breath that carries us forward with rhythm and reverence.

30/12/2025

There are moments that don’t need explaining.
They need remembering.

Stillness was one of those moments.

Tucked quietly into the crescendo of the festive season, we stepped sideways from the noise and into the pause that winter was already offering us.

We breathed.
We softened.
We listened.

In the liminal space of the Winter Solstice, we gathered not to fix ourselves, but to rest inside what was already true.

To let rhythm replace urgency.

To let timing dissolve force.

To feel the resources that live beneath the surface of doing.

This is why I hold these spaces.

Because when breath expands, life follows.

And because when we honour the transitions nature offers us, we don’t have to work so hard to evolve. We move with it.

Stillness will stay with me for a long time.

And when spring comes, we will meet again —
in the Awakening.

Until then…
we integrate.
we breathe.
we trust what’s unfolding

It is all love,
Ella xo

20/12/2025

The Corridor Is Open

The energy is getting loud. Not because something is wrong — but because something is ready.

We are in the corridor between the Comet 3I Atlas, Sagittarius New Moon, and the Winter Solstice, you might feel…

✧ Emotions rising without warning
✧ Dreams returning you’d long shelved
✧ Unexpected fatigue or bursts of clarity
✧ An urge to let go or to start something bold
✧ Heightened sensitivity — in your body, your heart, or your breath

This is not chaos.
This is alignment surfacing.
The veils are thin right now.

Your energy is reorganising itself before you even consciously name what’s next.

Whether you’re joining us in the Stillness Mini Retreat this Sunday, or simply navigating this powerful season with curiosity —let it be enough to notice.

Let your breath be the bridge between what you’re letting go of and what you’re preparing to call in.

The seeds are already sown.
The body knows the way.
Your presence is the magic.

It is all love,
Ella xo

15/12/2025

That quiet sense of “I’m not enough” doesn’t scream.

It lingers.

And the longer it lingers, the more it reshapes how you move.

It turns your work into a proving ground.

Your voice into something you edit before it’s spoken.

Rest into something you “earn.”

But beliefs don’t become true just because they’ve been around for a lifetime.

And you don’t have to carry them with you into your next season of life.

This is what integration work is for.

✨ Conspire Breathwork clears the pathway.
✨ Reiki restores the peace underneath it all.

We begin again on January 4th.

Breathed — free online Conspire Breathwork
DM “BREATHED” to join

It is all love,
Ella xo

14/12/2025

“Before the rising comes the resting.”

We honour spring.
We celebrate summer.
But the real magic?

It begins right here — in the quiet dark of winter.

Stillness is not a lack of movement.

It’s a return to rhythm.

A gentle, seasonal reset for the nervous system.
A place to let your inner world catch up to your outer life.

That’s what next Sunday’s Winter solstice Stillness Mini Retreat offers you:

🕯 Yin Yoga
🕯 Conspire Breathwork
🕯 Yoga Nidra

A soft but potent space to breathe, recalibrate, and begin again — from your centre.

🗓 Sunday 21st December
🕑 2–5pm
📍 Hertford Wellbeing Hub
🎟 £55

DM me to book.
Come settle into the sacred pause.
Your next season begins here.

It is all love,
Ella xo

13/12/2025

Most people only learn to care for themselves after they’ve reached crisis point.

But there’s a quieter way.

A steadier way.

A way that starts before it screams.

The breath is not a rescue mission.

It’s a companion. A regulator. A reminder.

When you build a relationship with your breath,
you start showing up differently.

Not because everything’s perfect —
but because you’re no longer abandoning yourself until you break.

Breathed is your invitation back.

Free online Conspire Breathwork session
🕊 Jan 4 | 2–4:30pm GMT

DM me “BREATHED” to join.

It is all love,
Ella xo

12/12/2025

“You can’t give your all without giving to yourself. But here’s the thing — it doesn’t have to be hard.”

What if your resilience wasn’t built on effort — but on emotional integratio and nervous system support?

✨ That’s what we do in Breathed — a gentle group Conspire Breath-work space
where seeds of regulation and integration are sown.

And self-care feels… possible again.

You don’t need to push through.

You just need somewhere soft and empowering to land.

🗓 Sunday 4th January
🌬️ Conspire Breath-work
🫶 Group of kind, real people
DM “BREATHED” to join us.

It is all love,
Ella xo

11/12/2025

Burnout doesn’t always come from doing too much.

It comes from doing everything — while feeling completely alone inside of it.
We’ve normalized the kind of over-functioning that disconnects us from our breath, our body, our needs.

But this isn’t sustainable.

It was never meant to be.

✨ Conspire Breathwork helps you find the pause before the crash.
✨ Reiki gently dissolves the tension that achievement keeps reactivating.

There’s nothing wrong with your ambition.

You just need more support in the system.

Breathed – Free online breathwork
🗓 Jan 4 | 2–4:30pm GMT
Join us.

It is all love,
Ella xo

10/12/2025

It looked like strength, but it felt like survival.

There was a time in my life when I could show up for anything.

I could speak clearly, host calmly, teach powerfully — all while experiencing a slow and at times super fast swirl of panic in the background.

My body was in survival mode. But I was still showing up. Which made it easy to believe I was fine, I was ok. It was even easier for others to believe it, too.

And what’s more — I understood my trauma.

I knew what happened and where it came from.
I knew why I reacted the way I did, and the protections I put in place seemed obvious.

I had intellectual clarity.
Emotional literacy.

But my body?
It was still bracing.

In my breath?
I was surviving on tiny gasps of breath.

What no one told me is that understanding what happened was not the same as integrating what happened, and integration doesn’t happen in the mind.

It happens in the moments your nervous system finally feels safe enough to soften into the present reality instead of being caught up and frozen in what was happening before.

That’s what Breath-Work gave me.

It wasn’t just about calming my thoughts or giving myself temporary injections of inner soothing.

It gave my body a new experience and baseline — where I didn’t have to fight every moment to feel okay.

Slowly, breath by breath, the version of me who only knew how to push through every day began to learn how to be with life.

And that changed everything.

I still show up now.

But I show up from a place of presence — not one of performance.

From internal softness — not pushing hard for survival.

If you’ve been living on the edge of what your system can hold, know this:

You’re not failing.

You’re just full from holding everything that hasn’t yet been integrated.

And there’s space, freedom and a whole other way to live on the other side of this.

It is all love,
Ella xo

10/12/2025

Disconnection doesn’t just look like not knowing what to do.

It looks like irritation with the people you love.

Avoidance of the work that once excited you.

A flatness in your spirit where there used to be vivid colour.

And most people will tell you to push through it.

But I’ve learned that those moments of detachment are often your system’s way of asking for a great sense of safety.

✨ Disconnection isn’t the problem. It’s the signal.

And the breath helps us translate it.

✨ Conspire Breathwork helps you come back to the life you’re meant to live —not by pushing harder, but by softening and integrating the effects of what made you disconnect in the first place.

There is a difference between being numb and being safe.

Let’s breathe back to the real thing.

DM “BREATHE for the next session on 4th Jan
or save this if you’re not quite ready yet — but you are curious.

It is all love,
Ella xo

08/12/2025

Most of the people I work with are doing big things.

Creating proposals. Running teams. Holding and taking care of others.

Showing up seriously in the world.

But behind the high performance is something quieter:

A body in constant tension.

A breath stuck and forced.

A system that’s always bracing.

A voice that’s not sure when it’s safe to speak up.

Because here’s what we’re not taught: You can’t sustain what you build while neglecting the one who’s building it.

While you may be able to make it work for a while, at some point the wheels of being constantly switched on fall off.

✨ Conspire Breath-Work helps clear the static of all the things that make you feel you have to keep pushing through,so your system can recalibrate to something softer —something sustainable.

✨ Reiki helps restore your inner baseline to calm — so achievement and inner value doesn’t mean constant output.

This isn’t about stopping or giving up.

It’s about being supported while moving through life.

Join me for Breathed — a free online breathwork experience:

Jan 4, 2–4:30pm GMT
DM “BREATHED” for the link.

It is all love,
Ella xo