Changes Counselling Services Wirral

03/01/2025

Does every new year start with a list of things you plan to change to improve your health or emotional wellbeing that soon become distant memories of unfulfilled promises ? Do you then justify to yourself not following through with your plans as you’ve found there’s really no time to do so in your current life schedule or because you need to prioritise the needs of others ?

If so, why not make this year different by choosing to explore and evaluate, with a qualified counsellor, the “blocks” that seem to derail your plans to make beneficial changes ?

The “blocks” you have experienced year after year may be related to links between your thoughts, feelings, behaviours and underpinned by rules, assumptions and beliefs keeping you stuck in a way of being that doesn’t meet your needs.

Gaining such self awareness offers the opportunity to evaluate and adapt aspects of yourself that you may have taken for granted and to set you back on track again to the changes you want to make.

As the saying goes .. keep doing what you’re doing and you’ll keep getting what you’re getting!

Is 2025 the year to make changes then ? 🦋

27/09/2024

It’s a simple as that ! So what’s stopping you?
Does it feel too “risky” to do something different? Would it mean stepping outside of the person you feel you “ should” be? Do you fear what others will think of you? Or is is it that you know you want to make changes but aren’t sure as to exactly what?

Friends and family can support us to make changes sometimes but at others they can be the reason it feels so difficult…..

Counselling offers a safe space to identify, plan and start to make changes in your life. A place where you can speak in an unfiltered way maybe for the first time. A place where you can start to connect with who you really are, what you really want out of your life and to get support to make the changes that will take you to theses exciting destinations 🦋

14/06/2024

We can adopt a strategy of dealing with life changes and challenges by putting the related feelings in a box and carrying on with a “ business as usual” approach. Issues may arise however if we run out of storage space. When this happens feelings may force their own way out or we may start to feel overwhelmed by the pressure of keeping the lid on our box.

Therapy offers a safe place where we can sort through feelings we may have stored away to identify, acknowledge, understand and incorporate them into our awareness with a non judgemental, understanding companion.

Dealing with problematic unprocessed feelings can connect us with our life experiences and who we really are. It can release the pressure we may have been feeling, enable us to develop resilience and to gain greater clarity around where we have been and where we would like to be.🦋

27/05/2024

… it provides the required conditions for us to activate our own ability to make the changes we are seeking. A place where we may experience relief as we become free from the power of our pasts or surprise at previously undiscovered parts of our being emerging in our consciousness. Just like the chrysalis the therapeutic relationship offers protection and a holding space for the work that is in progress within it. There is no set time limit for change or anticipated outcome as this is as individual as we ourselves are …. Trust and enjoy the process 🦋

24/02/2024

Counselling 🦋…can support you through changes and also to make them ….

Perhaps you’re wanting to process significant events in your life that are troubling you such as childhood experiences, bereavements, health conditions or changes in your relationships, identity or work life?

Or do you want to feel less anxious, less depressed and more able to cope with life? Maybe you’d like more self confidence or to feel less overwhelmed? Or to feel able to do what feels right for you and not just what you feel others expect you to do? Or you may be tired of feeling stuck or emotionally numb and trapped in cycles of unhelpful thoughts and behaviours?

However changes are affecting your mental health , as a qualified, professional, counsellor I’m here to help . Face to face sessions available on the Wirral, or online and telephone sessions from anywhere in the UK 🦋

17/02/2024

Difficult times in our lives can make us feel like we’re being pushed to our breaking point but still just about managing to function… like glass that’s cracked but not broken.

Difficulties that can cause “cracks” in our metal health may be sudden losses or just challenging events and feelings that can seem to appear relentlessly, day after day … one after the other.

“Cracks” can show up in a variety of forms, short tempers, exhaustion, feeling hopeless, crushing sadness, difficulties sleeping, being unable to switch off, feeling constantly on edge or using alcohol or other substances to blur the edges of difficult thoughts…. the list is almost endless.

Cracks in all things, if not tended to can get bigger. In relation to mental health, when we fear we may “ break” , self care and therapy can act like the “glue” we need to hold us together.

Therapy in particular enables us to have the opportunity to make plans as to how to address our concerns and to learn how to identify difficulties and our vulnerabilities earlier on ….to reduce the risk of further “cracks” appearing. 🦋

27/01/2024

Having a “helicopter view” of what’s concerning us is very useful when we’re looking to make changes in our lives. The opportunity to rise above day to day distractions to get a view of the bigger picture of what’s going on for us can be life changing.

Working with a counsellor gives you the opportunity to board your own helicopter of self awareness and to pick out in the landscape thoughts, feelings or behaviours that you may want to work on with your counsellor to change 🦋

Enjoy the ride 🚁

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31/12/2023

The start of a new year can make us feel something needs to change to enable us to take the path we want into the next stage of our lives 🦋

Maybe to make a completely new start? to stop repeating unhelpful cycles of thoughts, feelings or behaviours? or to process /be able to let go of feelings of sadness, loss or regret about the year that’s just ended.

However the start of a new year affects us, if we want to make changes, self awareness is clearly the first step.

Counselling offers a safe, understanding and non judgemental place where you can develop self awareness by sifting through your concerns and experiences.

Is it time for you to identify and set out on the path that you want to take into 2024 ? 🦋

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28/10/2023

Thank you Parkrun ❤️

26/10/2023

Busy lives can feel like spinning plates plates ! A life spent frantically dashing between multiple “plates” of commitments and relationships precariously spinning on fragile “sticks” rooted in often misplaced senses of duty can feel overwhelming.

Often it’s only when one of our “plates” falls and smashes that we become aware of the need to take a step back and to review how we’re living.

Don’t wait until you find yourself surrounded by broken crockery … why not consider working with a counsellor now to identify what’s important in your life and to re evaluate the “ musts” and “ shoulds” that are compelling you to neglect your own wellbeing and to continue spinning plates 🦋

15/09/2023

Changes related to children growing up and moving on in life can make us wonder …Where did all that time go? Did I do a good enough job as a parent/ care giver? Will they be ok? Who am I now if they don’t need me like they used to? What do I do with my time? Do I like how my life looks now ? What’s important to me ?

🦋 Counselling offers an understanding, non judgmental, professional relationship where you can explore these questions and the array of related feelings. A place to rediscover yourself and start the process of moving on with your own life 🦋

10/09/2023