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Hello, My name is Paula Fox-Valsler and I am an Outdoor Holistic Counsellor and Empowerment Coach.

22/10/2025

🍂 Autumn Feels & the Art of Hibernation 🍁

Is anyone else feeling that pull to slow down lately? The darker mornings, longer evenings, cooler air, and endless cups of tea are calling for a little seasonal hibernation.

And you know what?
That’s absolutely okay.
We’re not meant to be “on” all year round. Just like nature, we go through seasons too — times of growth and energy, and times when rest and reflection are what we need most.

So if you find yourself craving more sleep, cosy nights in, quiet weekends, or just fewer plans — listen to that. Rest isn’t laziness, it’s your body’s way of rebalancing and re-energising.

✨ Wrap up in a blanket, light a candle, breathe.
✨ Let go of the pressure to “do more.”
✨ Give yourself permission to simply be.

Autumn reminds us that slowing down can be beautiful too. 🌙

How’s everyone feeling as the season shifts? Anyone else in hibernation mode already?

📷 Mariya Kruglova 🦊

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20/10/2025

Monday Musings - learning to befriend the gremlin on your shoulder.

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01/10/2025

Inner Child Healing

Inside each of us lives a younger part, our “inner child.” This is the part that remembers what it felt like to be small, needing comfort, safety, and love. Sometimes, when those needs weren’t fully met in childhood, pieces of that hurt or longing stay with us. They can show up later in life as feelings of not being enough, struggles in relationships, or patterns we can’t seem to break.

Inner child healing is about gently reconnecting with that younger self. In counselling, we create a safe space where you can:

Listen to what your inner child is feeling or needing.

Offer comfort to the parts of you that may have felt unseen or unheard.

Practice self kindness and learn how to “re-parent” yourself with the care and support you deserved back then.

Bring healing so those old wounds don’t have to keep shaping your present.

This work isn’t about blaming the past. It’s about giving yourself the compassion and nurturing you may have missed, so you can feel more whole, balanced, and free today.

It can play a huge part within your counselling journey, and although it can sometimes feel overwhelming, it is often a crucial part of a person's growth enabling them to function and respond from a more adult place.

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📷 Alexander Milov

29/09/2025

Monday Musings...

"We often forget that WE ARE NATURE. Nature is not something separate from us. So when we say that we have lost our connection to nature, we’ve lost our connection to ourselves."
~ Andy Goldsworthy ~

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23/09/2025

Welcome to the next season change, Autumn.

We've just welcomed in the Autumn Equinox, where both day and night are equal.

Let this change in season reflect your own life.
•Do you need to create more balance?
•Do you need to let go of what no longer serves you? •Do you need to shed the old version of you and spend time nurturing and nourishing what is yet to come?

Autumn is a time where traditionally, people would be taking stock of their lives and preparing for change.

Change can sometimes feel scary, that feeling of letting go and surrending into the unknown can feel overwhelming. But we must learn to trust the process of change and know that these feelings will pass. Just like the seasons, we too go through different cycles in life.

I encourage you to look at how your life is reflecting the cycles of change.

🍂 What do you feel you're ready to let go of?

🍂 What's no longer serving you?

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22/09/2025

Monday Musings - How are you showing up in situations that ruffle your feathers or negatively impact your life?

The difference between reacting and responding could be life changing for some people, and here's what it can look like;

Reactions are often based in the moment, are driven by emotion, are often aggressive, and fuel disagreement, triggering psychological responses in the body such as increased heart rate or sweating.
A response is a well thought out action that may result in a positive outcome and can leave your body feeling calmer and mind clearer.

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21/08/2025

Self sabotaging behaviour is when your actions, thoughts, or habits work against your own best interest. This is often done unconsciously and usually shows up as patterns that can block your goals, damage relationships, or potentially harm your well-being. Here are some common ways it looks in everyday life:

1. Procrastination
2. Perfectionism
3. Negative Self talk
4. Fear of Success/Failure
5. Overcommitting or Undermining Yourself
6. Avoidance & Numbing
7. Relationship Sabotage
8. Not Following Things Through
9. Comparing & Downplaying Achievements
10. Self-Isolation

The core of self sabotage is usually fear. Fear of failure, rejection, success, or change. It protects you in the short term but prevents growth in the long run.

Growth is not about never self-sabotaging again. It’s about catching it sooner and choosing differently. Every time you do, you reinforce the belief: “I am capable, and I deserve to grow.”

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13/08/2025

Almost every client I see in therapy struggles with using the word No.

The people pleasers, perfectionists, highly empathics, the conflict avoiders, those who have unclear priorities, will find themselves saying yes to people and situations when they really want to say no. Mostly, that's because they feel selfish saying no, but to be and live intentionally is never selfish.

The art of saying "no" is really about setting boundaries without burning bridges — a skill that blends self-respect, clarity, and tact. It’s less about blunt rejection and more about protecting your time, energy, and priorities while maintaining good relationships.

It's a skill, I'll admit. One that takes time and commitment. It'll push you out of your comfort zone and leave you feeling uncomfortable at times. But it will also liberate you and open you up to situations that matter more.

Are you ready to learn the psychological reasons behind this struggle? Do you want to understand and fix the habit ?

Then send me a message and let's get started.

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11/08/2025

Monday Musings; The importance of relationship with self.

A healthy relationship with yourself is the foundation for every other relationship in your life — and it’s often the one people overlook. Here’s why it matters so much:

1. It shapes how you treat yourself.
2. It influences how others treat you.
3. It builds emotional resilience.
4. It supports authenticity.
5. It reduces dependence on external validation.
6. It’s the starting point for healthy love.

Bottom line:
Your relationship with yourself is the lens through which you experience the world. Strengthen it, and everything else—friendships, romance, career, purpose—gets clearer, steadier, and richer.

Get in touch if you'd like to learn practical daily habits to actively improve your relationship with yourself. They’re simple but surprisingly powerful.

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31/07/2025

🌿 Support for the Change You're Going Through.

Compassionate Counselling for Peri-Menopausal Women.

Are you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or unlike yourself lately?
You're not alone — and you don't have to navigate this journey by yourself.

Counselling can support women going through peri-menopause, focusing on the emotional, mental, and physical shifts that often come with this stage of life.

What counselling can help with:
✅ Mood swings & anxiety
✅ Low self-esteem or confidence
✅ Relationship changes
✅ Identity shifts & life transitions

Whether you’re seeking a safe space to talk, tools to cope, or support in rediscovering your strength — I am here for you.

🧘‍♀️ Gentle. Confidential. Empowering.

💬 In-person and telephone sessions available.

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17/07/2025

OK, it's time to get serious and make some commitments to yourself! Without boundaries, you're going to feel like crap. You'll constantly reach burnout, and you'll most likely become resentful towards others and angry at yourself!

Grab a piece of paper.
- Draw a line down the middle.
- At the top left, write;
"I am no longer available for..."
- At the top right, write;
"New Boundary..."

Start on the left side and list all the things that are no longer serving you, holding you back or leaving you feeling rubbish.
For example;
> Being available 24/7
> Not prioritising your own needs.
> Unsatisfying relationships

Then, on the right side, list your new empowered boundary to the points on the left. Things that will serve you and leave you feeling nourished.
For example;
> Attend my own needs first
> Prioritise Self Care
> Relationships that are equal and leave me feeling good.

Pick one out that feels the most significant. One that feels the most relevant and requires action first. Speak it out loud along with your new boundary. Speak your new boundary with conviction and intention. 💥
(If you feel called to, share below)

This will be your first boundary to commit to. And maybe it requires some further exploration as to what steps are needed to get the ball rolling. Write these steps down, or share them with someone who can support you in this process.

Boundary setting helps you prioritise your needs over other people's wants!

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11/06/2025

Whilst sometimes it's true that "the only way out is through ," powering through tough times is often not the healthiest approach. Blindly pushing forward may achieve your goal, but it will be at the expense of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

The next time you find yourself attempting to power through a challenging situation, push the pause button. Take a 10 minute break to take some deep breaths, clear your head, and reset your intention. Then you can move forward in a more positive and productive way.

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