Elmsleigh Counselling

12/09/2025

How Counselling Can Help You Move On and Let Go ✨

Letting go of the past can feel impossible, but counselling offers the support you need to move forward. Here’s how it helps:

A Safe Space to Feel & Process 💭
Counselling provides a non-judgmental space to express and understand your emotions, helping you process pain and release what’s no longer serving you.

Understanding the "Why" 🔍
It’s not just about moving on—it’s about uncovering the deeper reasons why you’re holding on, so you can start healing from the inside out.

Building Healthy Coping Skills 💪
Learn practical strategies to manage emotions, shift negative thought patterns, and embrace positive changes in your life.

Self-Compassion & Forgiveness ❤️
Counselling helps you show yourself compassion, allowing you to forgive your past mistakes and stop carrying unnecessary guilt.

Creating a New Vision for the Future 🌱
Let go of the past and focus on building the life you want. Counselling helps you gain clarity, set goals, and move forward with confidence.

If you’re ready to let go and start fresh, counselling is a powerful step toward healing and growth. Contact me today at Elmsleigh Counselling to find out more about sessions.

30/08/2025

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27/08/2025

Ready to let go of old baggage and step into a lighter, freer version of yourself? Counselling can help. Book a session today — your future self will thank you
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19/08/2025

18/08/2025

Friendly, down to earth, professional counselling sessions at Elmsleigh Counselling

18/08/2025

Friendly, professional Counselling sessions available.

05/08/2025

Consider going to counselling if:
You’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, sad, or stuck, and it’s not getting better on its own.

You’re struggling to cope with a specific situation (e.g. loss, relationship issues, job stress, identity questions).

You’re repeating patterns that negatively affect your life or relationships.

You want a safe, neutral space to talk about something you can’t share with others.

You’re curious about yourself and want to grow, even if nothing is "seriously wrong."

You don’t need to be in crisis to benefit. Many people go to counselling for support, self-awareness, or personal development. It’s like going to the gym for your mental and emotional well-being.

If you’re unsure, one session can help you decide whether it feels helpful. You’re not committing to anything long term by trying it.

Contact me today at Elmsleigh Counselling to find out more
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28/07/2025

🌿 Self-Assessment Quiz: "How Are You Really Doing?"
Rate each of the following statements from 0–4:
0 = Not at all | 1 = A little | 2 = Sometimes | 3 = Often | 4 = Almost always
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✅ Questions
1. I feel overwhelmed by daily tasks.
2. I struggle to focus or finish what I start.
3. I feel disconnected from others, even people I care about.
4. I often feel anxious, restless, or on edge.
5. I wake up tired, even after a full night’s sleep.
6. I avoid situations or people that used to be fine for me.
7. I criticize myself more than I’d like to admit.
8. I feel stuck in patterns I want to break.
9. I’ve lost interest in things that used to bring me joy.
10. I feel like I need help, but I’m not sure where to start.
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🧠 Scoring:
• 0–10: You're coping well overall, but checking in regularly is a great habit.
• 11–20: You're carrying a bit more than usual – it may help to talk to someone.
• 21–30: These signs may be pointing to emotional exhaustion or burnout.
• 31–40: You're likely in a tough place. Please consider reaching out for support.
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Note: This quiz is not a diagnosis – just a self-reflection tool. If you’d like to explore your results in a safe, supportive space, I’m here to help.
Mel Cardy – Registered Counsellor
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I offer confidential and friendly counselling sessions in a completely safe space where we can explore ways to enable you to get peace of mind and enjoyment from life. Take that first step and get the non-judgmental support you need.

23/07/2025

Letter writing can be a very powerful and cathartic ways of dealing with emotions.
Writing those letters is about processing the emotions, not necessarily about what happens after. Burning them is a symbolic act — a way of releasing the anger, pain, or resentment tied to those people.

If You’re Ready to Let Go:

Burn them (safely). That’s the original intent — a ritual to release the feelings. You can do this alone or during a quiet moment when you feel safe and grounded.

Rip them up or shred them. Not as dramatic, but still effective and safe.

Bury them. It’s a quieter, symbolic form of closure — returning those feelings to the earth.

If You’re Not Ready to Let Go:

Keep them in a sealed envelope or box. Label it something like “Not for rereading – just for release.” You can revisit or destroy them when you're truly ready.

Write follow-up letters. Sometimes one round of venting isn’t enough. You might find more clarity or peace over time.

Talk to your therapist about it. If you're stuck between wanting to hold on and wanting to let go, that’s worth exploring together.

26/06/2025

Your brain called. It wants a chat. 🧠💬

Feeling anxious? Tired of overthinking at 2am?
Snapping at your houseplants (they probably had it coming)?
Yeah… life’s a lot sometimes.

I’m a friendly, qualified counsellor offering down-to-earth, supportive sessions to help you feel more like you again.

Whether you’re dealing with:
🌀 Stress, anxiety, or burnout
💔 Relationship stuff (it’s complicated, right?)
🪫 Feeling flat, stuck, or not yourself

…I’m here to help untangle it all. Gently. Professionally. With kindness (and the occasional well-timed “that makes total sense”).

No pressure. No jargon. Just real support.

📍 In-person & online options
📞 07581798474
🌐 www.elmsleighcounselling.com
📲 Message me if you'd like more details or want to book

Let’s talk — your future self might just thank you.

03/06/2025

If you're feeling stuck thinking about past mistakes, that’s completely human. It means you care — maybe even more than you give yourself credit for. But at some point, holding onto that weight stops helping and starts hurting.

1. You’re allowed to make mistakes.
Everyone does. Seriously — every single person has something they wish they could go back and do differently. What matters isn’t what happened, but how you grow from it.

2. You’ve already thought about it enough.
If you’ve reflected on it, learned from it, and wish it had gone differently — that’s enough. You don’t need to keep punishing yourself to prove that you care.

3. Self-forgiveness is part of healing.
You can still feel regret and also choose to move forward. Those two things can exist at the same time. Being kind to yourself doesn’t erase the past — it just allows you to carry it differently.

4. Start small, start now.
You don’t need to overhaul your whole life. Just take one small step in a direction you’re proud of. That’s how self-trust gets rebuilt — one choice at a time.

5. When the thoughts come back — pause, don’t spiral.
Try saying to yourself:

“I’ve felt this before. I’ve learned from it. I don’t need to go down that road again today.”

You don’t have to fight the thought — just let it pass without feeding it.

6. You're allowed to move on.
Letting go doesn't mean forgetting. It means giving yourself permission to start living again — without being stuck in that moment forever.

You don’t have to fix everything overnight. Just be a little gentler with yourself than you were yesterday. That’s real growth.

22/05/2025

Counselling sessions help you understand yourself in several meaningful ways:

Self-Reflection: A counsellor guides you through conversations that encourage deep reflection, helping you explore your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours more clearly.

Uncovering Patterns: You start to notice recurring patterns in how you think, feel, or react—some of which may be unconscious—allowing you to understand why you respond to life the way you do.

Clarifying Values and Beliefs: Counselling can help you identify your core values and beliefs, and distinguish which ones truly belong to you versus those you may have inherited or adopted without question.

Building Emotional Awareness: You become more attuned to your emotions and learn how to name and express them, which is essential for self-understanding.

Challenging Negative Self-Talk: Through discussion, you learn to recognize and reframe harmful inner dialogue, building a healthier and more compassionate self-view.

Exploring Past Experiences: By looking at your past—especially formative experiences—you gain insight into how they shaped your current identity, choices, and relationships.

Setting Personal Goals: Counselling helps you articulate what you truly want for yourself, which reveals a lot about who you are and where you're headed.

Ultimately, counselling provides a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your inner world with the support of a trained professional, making it easier to gain self-awareness and confidence.