19/11/2025
For a long time, I didn’t realise emotional safety was something I was missing. I just learned to “be quiet,” to smooth things over, to keep the peace at any cost.
Not speaking, not feeling, not expressing, it all became normal.
When emotional pain happens quietly, behind closed doors, it often gets labelled as “dramatic,”overreacting,” or “nothing serious.” But those messages shape a child deeply.
They linger.
They teach us that our feelings are inconvenient, our voice is unwelcome, and our truth is something to swallow rather than share.
I grew up believing:
✨my needs didn’t matter,
✨my feelings were too much,
✨and keeping the peace was more important than being myself.
And the impact of that…isn’t small.
It’s lifelong, until the moment we choose differently.
There came a point on my healing journey where something inside clicked. A light went on.
I finally understood why I struggled with self-worth, boundaries, and belonging. Not because something was wrong with me, but because I had never been taught what emotional safety feels like.
Realising this didn’t break me, it began to free me.
Now I’m learning that emotional safety starts within:
✨giving myself space to feel,
✨letting my truth be heard (even quietly),
✨responding to myself with gentleness instead of fear.
It’s a homecoming I didn’t know I needed.
🌱 Micro-Rewire
From: “My feelings don’t matter.”
To: “My inner world deserves safety, space, and compassion.”
✨ A Soft Reminder
Emotional wounds are real, even when they’re silent.
You’re not being dramatic. You’re not imagining it.
You’re not too much.
You’re learning what safety feels like… maybe for the first time. And that is sacred work. 🤍
