Therapy with Abby

08/08/2025

Burnout isn’t just physical exhaustion.

It’s nervous system depletion.

It’s being stuck in survival mode, pouring from an empty cup, disconnected from your body’s cues and capacity.

Recovery often looks like unlearning patterns you’ve been stuck in for years.

If you feel ready to start that journey, my gentle 7-day course - Reclaim Your Energy - is a beautiful place to begin.

It’s a 7-day guide that helps you gently reset. You’ll learn:

🔋 How nervous system states shape your energy
✨ The role of “glimmers” in energy renewal
🌈 the 7 types of rest (and which ones you’re missing)
🌳 How nature and seasonal rhythms can restore you
🪣 How to plug energy leaks with better boundaries
⏰ How to align mornings + evenings with your energy flow
📝 How to build your own sustainable energy plan

If you’ve been running on fumes, this course is your invitation to slow down, reconnect, and feel like yourself again.

Your energy isn’t gone. It’s just waiting to be reclaimed ❤️

04/08/2025

Just because you’re out of office doesn’t mean your nervous system automatically knows how to switch off.

If you’re finding it hard to actually rest - even in relaxing places, even with time off - you’re not alone. Rest isn’t just about your calendar. It’s about how *safe* your body feels.

These reminders are for anyone who’s feeling a little frazzled, overstimulated, or confused about why rest doesn’t always feel… restful.

Save for when you need to come back to centre ❤️

30/07/2025

“Rest is productive” sounds empowering at first. But if we’re honest, it’s still asking rest to *perform*

Let’s start unlearning the old scripts and write new mantras for rest - ones rooted in softness, self-trust, and enoughness.

29/07/2025

If you grew up in a home where love felt conditional - on being good, quiet, helpful, or never causing trouble - you might still be carrying that pattern.

As a child, people-pleasing kept you safe. As an adult, it can leave you disconnected from your own needs.

This post is for the ones who learned to read the room before they knew how to read. The ones who took care of everyone else - and called it being “mature.” The ones who learned it was safer to be liked than to be real.

That pattern didn’t start with you. But healing it can.

My audio course, Reparenting Your Inner Child, will gently walk you through seven powerful lessons to help you:

* Understand how your earliest experiences shaped your nervous system, beliefs, and patterns
* Recognise when a younger part of you is running the show - and respond with care instead of self-criticism or shame
* Offer yourself the nurturing, protection, and play you may have missed growing up
* Stop repeating the same old patterns - and start showing up for yourself in ways you never knew were possible

And if this post resonated, I’d love to hear which slide landed with you most ✨

26/07/2025

When we talk about nervous system regulation, we often focus on the tools - breathwork, cold showers, somatic practices - and forget one of the most powerful regulators of all: emotional validation.

Taking a moment to *genuinely* acknowledge what we’re feeling - without judgment, without trying to fix it - is a nervous system intervention in itself.

Self-validation sounds like:
❤️ “It’s okay to feel angry.”
❤️ “It makes sense that I’m feeling sad right now.”
❤️ “Of course I feel anxious - this is hard.”

These aren’t just fluffy affirmations. They’re a way of saying to your nervous system: *you’re safe, I’m here, and your feelings matter*

Research shows that self-compassion reduces stress hormones like cortisol and boosts heart-rate variability (a key marker of resilience and nervous system health).

So next time you’re overwhelmed, pause. Put a hand on your heart or belly if it helps. And try offering yourself a few kind, validating words.

It might sound small - but your body will feel the difference. ❤️

26/07/2025

23/07/2025

When I work with clients, there’s an exercise I often guide them through: writing a letter to their inner child.

One sentence we often begin with is:
✨ It was never your job to…

This sentence is especially powerful for clients who were *parentified* - children who had to take on adult responsibilities far too soon. The caretakers. The peacekeepers. The ones who never got to fall apart.

Inside my Reparenting Your Inner Child course, I guide you through this letter-writing process step by step.

Here’s the structure we use:

Step 1: Meet your inner child - with warmth, curiosity, and compassion
Step 2: Let them know they’re seen, and name what they went through
Step 3: Acknowledge the impact - the weight they carried, the needs that weren’t met
Step 4: Offer validation - the words they should have heard back then
Step 5: Step into the role of their protector - and begin to reparent from a place of strength

This isn’t about blaming others. It’s about no longer blaming yourself for what you were never meant to carry 💞

22/07/2025

When you’re tired but wired, you don’t need full stop. You need a soft landing - something that helps you shift gears instead of slamming on the brakes.

21/07/2025

This is the hidden cost of suppressing anger.

Anger gets such a bad rep - especially for women.

But what if anger isn’t something to be ashamed of…but something to *listen* to?

In my work (and in my own healing), I’ve seen how often suppressed anger shows up as anxiety, burnout, perfectionism, or chronic people-pleasing.

We push it down, and it pushes back harder.

This post is a little reminder that anger isn’t the enemy. When we learn to *feel* it rather than fear it, it can actually become a source of clarity, energy, and healthy boundaries.

❤️ Let me know if this resonates - have you ever noticed anger showing up in disguise?

17/07/2025

We’re often very quick to label nervous system responses as overreactions, dysfunction, or something to fix - but we must remember:

✨ they’re protective.
✨ they’re patterned.
✨ they’re trying to help, even if the help is outdated.

Nervous system healing isn’t about shutting down your responses. It’s about learning to hear the story beneath them - and responding with curiosity instead of shame or criticism.

If this resonates, this is the kind of work we do inside my Inner Child course. Relearning the language of your body. Offering safety to the parts of you that never had it. And listening in a way you were never taught. 💞

13/07/2025

Inner child work means so much to me.

Because when we finally tend to the little girl inside, something powerful happens: the grown woman can lead.

Not the one who hustles or performs or pleases her way through life. The one who’s grounded, clear, and rooted in her own worth.

This is the paradox of reparenting - we go back not to stay stuck, but to move forward differently.

It’s been incredible to see so many of you working your way through the ‘Reparenting Your Inner Child’ course ☺️

The reflections you’ve shared - quiet shifts, things finally making sense, moments of unexpected softness - have reminded me why I care so deeply about this work. If you’ve been curious, or circling it for a while, maybe this is your sign to begin ❤️‍🩹

12/07/2025

Maybe it’s a bit of a ‘therapist cliche’ at this point… but this quote is one I come back to over and over - in my work and in my own healing ❤️‍🩹