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Raise your standards in relationships
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15/10/2021

All the time you are overly invested in someone else, who is investing in you?

All the time you are giving all of yourself to someone else, who gives to you?

All the time your life is consumed by a relationship, who is living your life?

I used to spend so much time reactIng & responding to every drama, toxic situation, other peoples problems, and their wants & needs.

This then set the course for MY life. What someone else wanted 😳

No wonder I never felt aligned, never felt fulfilled, things never felt ‘right’.

Once I started to…

✅Surrender to the unknown
✅Identify with myself again
✅Think about what I wanted
✅Asked myself what I wanted
✅Romancing myself
✅Connect to my own needs
✅Explored my desires

💥Boom… That’s when the course of my life started to change

Self discovery for me is what changed it all..

👉If you’re feeling lost in your relationship, DM me ‘lost’ to talk more 😘

06/10/2021

ᴡʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄʜᴏᴏꜱᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴀʟʟᴏᴡ ɪɴ ᴀ ʀᴇʟᴀᴛɪᴏɴꜱʜɪᴘ, ɪꜱ ᴀ ᴛʀᴜᴇ ʀᴇꜰʟᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ᴏꜰ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛʜɪɴᴋ ᴏꜰ ʏᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟꜰ

Staying in…

An unhealthy relationship
A toxic relationship
A mediocre relationship

… Is settling for crumbs.

👉When you settle or allow certain behaviours, what are you subconsciously saying about yourself…?

💔That you’re not worthy
💔That you don’t deserve to be treated better.
💔That your needs don’t matter
💔That happiness doesn’t matter
💔That this is all you deserve in life
💔 That feeling comfortable & secure is more important than feeling content and fulfilled

So a lot of your fears behind why you are choosing to settle might be…

🚨Scared of being alone
🚨Hate the idea of dating
🚨Loosing a ‘good one’
🚨All the ‘good ones’ are taken
🚨Low self esteem- not believing or knowing you deserve more

Let me tell you this & I promise you this is true as I have been there many times myself…

💥ᴛʜᴇ ᴇᴍᴏᴛɪᴏɴᴀʟ ᴘᴀɪɴ ᴏꜰ ꜱᴛᴀʏɪɴɢ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴜɴʜᴀᴘᴘʏ, ᴛᴏxɪᴄ ᴏʀ ᴜɴʜᴇᴀʟᴛʜʏ ʀᴇʟᴀᴛɪᴏɴꜱʜɪᴘ ᴡɪʟʟ ʙᴇ ᴀ ʟᴏᴛ ᴡᴏʀꜱᴇ ᴛʜᴀɴ ᴀʟʟ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴏꜱᴇ ꜰᴇᴀʀꜱ ᴄᴏᴍʙɪɴᴇᴅ.💥

DM ME 💥 if this resonates with you

30/09/2021

Reflecting on my own life, patterns & behaviours I can catch myself caught up in shaming, ridiculing, blaming myself…

I might say things to myself like “why the f**k did you do that”, “what on earth did you see in him”, “how could you think that was good idea”
“what the f**k was wrong with you Kel”..

When I say these things to myself, I am judging myself, making myself wrong or a ‘bad person’.

But NONE of that is true.

I was just a human.
Doing what I knew best with what I knew at the time.
Sometimes probably not even doing my best, just doing.
Trying to survive.
Trying to get validation.
Trying to fit in.
Trying to get approval.
All those things.

Unless you’re a psychopathic murderer of course, you can’t blame yourself forever for your subconscious actions before you became aware, before you knew better, before you learnt the lesson.

The lesson needed to be learnt first..
😘

Inspired by a recent post by on this one 💖💖💖

19/09/2021

🌸𝕄𝕠𝕣𝕟𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕄𝕒𝕟𝕥𝕣𝕒🌸

💫𝕊𝕥𝕠𝕡 𝕨𝕒𝕚𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕤𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕠𝕟𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕗𝕚𝕝𝕝 𝕦𝕡 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖 𝔽𝕆ℝ 𝕐𝕆𝕌. 𝕀𝕥’𝕤 𝕐𝕆𝕌ℝ 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖💫

What can you do this week to bring some joy into it ?

Something you love that you’ve not done for a while ?

Think about things you enjoy and see if you can bring that into your week 😘

20/08/2021

If you are single but you are putting all your time, energy, and focus into potential partners and ‘finding’ the one, are you really single ?!!

Are you waiting for your life to begin when you find them?

✨Take advantage of this time alone and use it for your own growth & what YOU want out of YOUR life.

💖Learn about yourself, what you love, what you desire…

💖Find out every single detail about yourself, your triggers, what makes you tick.

✨This knowledge is invaluable as knowing yourself inside out is the key to your contentment..

We ask for love from another without knowing what we truly need or desire ourselves.

✨If you get to know yourself now, you won’t ever lose yourself in love again…

There is a workbook in my bio to start the process💖

13/08/2021

Sitting at the beach yesterday I was watching a group of women sitting near me..

They were dancing, singing laughing, taking pictures of eachother..

They looked so free, powerful & alive..

They were on fire 🔥

I love watching women together thriving, and it reminded me that every single one of us women has that power within us.

Those women on the beach weren’t waiting for someone else to tell them to validate them, to tell them they look beautiful, to make them feel enough.

They didn’t need that.

They were all so connected to their own divine power.

Stop waiting for someone else to give you a feeling.

Stop waiting for them to text back

Stop waiting for them to validate you

Stop waiting for them to commit

In your own waiting you are causing your own pain.

Stop giving your power away to them.

Stop giving your power away to people that don’t deserve you

Stop giving your power away to the situation you think should happen

You have the ability to control what you choose to focus on.

What you choose to let in.
What you choose to let go of.
What you choose to create.

💥Instead of waiting for someone else yo make you feel good, create that feeling for yourself..

🙌🏼Create that life for yourself.

There is no joy to be found in waiting…

Link in my bio for my workbook 😘

01/07/2021

As we going into the second half of 2021 it’s so important to connect back to what we want out of life.

Are you living your life by default or are you living your life by choice?

Are you letting life happen to you or are you making it happen?

Remember that what we aren’t changing, we are choosing.

I can’t remember where I first heard this but I’ve got this, but I’ve got this quote up on my vision wall at home…

It always helps me to connect back to what is truly important and what really matters 💖

21/06/2021

Where are you losing yourself in love…?

What and why are you valuing more than yourself…?

17/06/2021

You are the one you are looking for, I PROMISE.

You are living in the reality that are you lacking and in needing of filling, because you are not connected to yourself.

Your higher self…

Your unstoried self..

The self free from all the limits, stories, labels…

The self that already lives inside of you…

She is there…

She has always been there..

She will always be there…

The power will ALWAYS, ALWAYS be within you…

If this resonated with you then sign up to my free workbook in my bio, how to live a more aligned and heart centered life 💖

13/06/2021

One of my biggest lessons in love & life in my journey so far 💗💗

What is your biggest lesson…? 👇

10/06/2021

For all of you ladies beating yourself up....

You did the BEST with what you knew at the time, what you could at time, and how you felt at the time..

It is NEVER a mistake, it’s a redirection.

Be thankful for that redirection.

So...

Admit it
Learn from it
Align yourself so you don’t repeat it.

👉What is the lesson you have learnt from your last ‘mistake’?

Where has it redirected you to?

Inspired by .by.sarah for this one 💖

07/06/2021

𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐈 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐦𝐲 𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥..

💖You are enough, just as you are.

💖Never settle for anything less than what you deserve and want.

💖Stop worrying about if you are good enough for them, and worry about if they are good enough for you.

💖Your worth is never measured by what other people think of you.

💖And what other people think of you, is never about you, and everything about them...

💖How you see yourself is the only opinion you ever need to know.

💖The power is in YOU, always...

What lessons will you be teaching your babies....?

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