The connected conscious parent space

15/09/2024

If I could have given my parents 1 gift before I came into the world it would have been the gift of mental
and emotional intelligence.

09/09/2024

What’s that one thing that separates a parent from fully connecting with their children ?
Why can parenting feel super stressful and make a parent feel it’s the child that’s the problem ?

Do you struggle with the demands of being a parent ?

- Not only do you have to cater to the needs of the child but also manage the bills,put a roof over their head,feed them,put them in clothing and show them love.
All in a 24 hour period day after day for the longest development period in the animal kingdom.
So what’s the stimulation that triggers a parent ?
STRESS mental and emotional stress.
What is mental and emotional stress ?
It’s our biological wiring that’s designed to keep us safe and alive.
It’s purpose to resolve our mental and emotional stress without any consideration for anybody else because it does not recognise empathy,compassion or how it impacts the parent or the child.
When or where does a parent look at their own levels of stress ?.
How it is impacting them ?
How it is impacting their children ?
How it has the potential to affect the child’s mental and emotional development.

My mission is create a world of self aware parents who can analyse and process their own mental and emotional stress then be an available to guide their children to do the same thing.

I believe every man and woman are biologically intuitively wired to know how to parent.
It’s the life journey of mental and emotional stress that is in the way which is unconscious to you because it became unconscious to keep you safe and alive.
Can you imagine how many mental and emotional experiences a parent has had before they became a parent ?
Unconsciously the parent reacts through their EMOTIONS to the prodding like motion of the child’s underdeveloped ability to process their emotions and self regulate.

To the level and intensity of the EMOTION is to the degree that the parent is not aware to the same external scenario in their own past life and they act accordingly to the emotions experienced at the time of the event regardless of the consequences for themselves and the child.

I can offer you space to deescalate the intensity of your emotions and create inner space to respond to your child rather than reacting from an emotional place from the past.

The space awaits are you willingly to free the next generation from your own emotional world that is not theirs to carry ?

Self awareness comes with responsibility why not share the burden of that responsibility with others to lessen the load.

I help parents to navigate their biggest challenges in parenting to teach self awareness in parenting

21/05/2024

https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/paul6008/episodes/The-inner-journey-of-becoming-and-being-a-parent-e2jrp24

Just began my first podcast on the inner journey a parent has to experience in order to be a parent in tune with themselves and present to the needs and development of a child.
My aim is to make as many parents or future parents aware of the inner experience of being a parent as every parents inner experience will be unique to them.
Meaning they are the only one who can experience talk and manage that space.
My goal is to create space for this inner parental space to be explored away from the child so it lessens the impact of the parents life experience on their child.
I wish my parents had this space both for themselves and me and my brothers and sister.

Invitation to listen
Invitation to message me with any questions or topics you would like me to explore through my own experience.
Also I welcome any guests.
Much love
Paul ❤️

The inner journey of being a self aware parent.

19/05/2024

Certified to teach Superconsciousness.
Helping parents to use their intuition to parent.
Neutralise the ego to create new outcomes and parent from a place of presence of love rather than stress and emotional triggers.
Teaching the ability to teach children emotional intelligence.

19/05/2024

-What’s your biggest challenge with being a parent ?
- Finding parenting highly stressful ?
- Do you find yourself being emotionally triggered into emotional outbursts or having to bottle it up inside ?
- Ever questioned how and why this happens ?

- want to learn tools and techniques and be educated on these problems to create self awareness and create different outcomes to the outcomes currently happening ?

Then follow my page and book a free call with me where I will explain the solutions to your biggest challenges.

By helping you to understand the purpose of the ego and how it impacts and dictates responses to your children’s behaviour.

We will create a vision of how you would love to parent and teach you a process of how to neutralise your ego and parent from a place of presence and love ❤️

12/03/2024

The stresses in parenting are an interpretation of reality not the actual reality.

A Stress response is what the brain and body do to return itself back to balance.
How ?
The nervous system in the body is reacting to the external environment it sends a stress signal to the vagus nerve.
The vagus nerve is like the central computer for the body the vagus nerve contacts the brain and asks for a solution to the stress response.
Now if the brain becomes overwhelmed by the stress meaning the person can’t process the stress response like a build of tension the emotional brain is triggered which is where all memories are stored like a library.
Emotions are the end product of past experiences allowing humans to navigate out of stressful scenarios however these emotions are random and can have no logic to the external scenario happening in the moment.
So what can happen ?

The emotional brain will regress and look back through history to find a solution it will go back all the way childhood if needed.

Why does a person respond in this way ?
Because it feels so familiar which is more relieving than facing the uncomfortable feelings of not knowing what to do and the stress coming from the child who looks to the parent for resolution hence why it’s difficult because the child cannot verbally express their needs one is verbal communication the other is their brains are underdeveloped to process the stress they are feeling so their brain processes from its level of development and ability.
In todays language it’s called immaturity.

How does a parent become less stressed ?

By learning to work on soothing and slowing down the nervous system and the intensity it has been conditioned to by the parent based on their emotional experiences and history of life.
By deconstructing emotional patterns and loops In order to resolve stress and intense emotions.

Benefits of this work ?

Freedom from outdated emotional conditioning.
The ability to process stress and emotions.
Creating choice in the parent child relationship responding rather than reacting.
Tune into intuition to intuitively connect to your child to come from a place of love connection and education.
Liberate yourself and your child from past emotional experiences that have attachments back to the childhood of the parent.
Create a conscious experience of parenting and be able to process the GUARANTEED stress that will happen and be present to what you would love to happen rather than being carried off into past emotional experiences.

My name is Paul collumbell and I believe it’s possible because I live and alternative reality to my emotional conditioning I get to choose how to respond to my son and he is liberated from my stress responses and emotional conditioning.

I envision a world where parents work together to parent the reality of who there child is not one to fit into the emotional structure of the parent.

CONTACT ME FOR A FREE 30 MIN CALL WHERE THE JOURNEY CAN BEGIN.

Let’s not allow children to become products of their early years environment.

21/01/2024

Im learning a lot about my personality from observing my son creating his.
All my views and observations. How you view my opinions is your responsibility.
Why are people indecisive ?
People are indecisive because they have learnt to avoid making decisions because they don’t want the responsibility that comes with making a decision.
At some stage i learnt this because I was afraid to make decisions because I didn’t want to take responsibility if I got it wrong. Also I found it too intense even if I made the right one much easier to let someone else make a decision for me then it’s not my fault if it goes wrong.
Children need encouragement to make decisions but also that it’s ok if it turns out to be a wrong decision.
They need to learn to take responsibility for their decisions otherwise they can become paralysed by the fear and anxiety and then look for a way out which is let someone else resolve my stress by letting them make a decision.

As a parent I need to hold my emotions together and know my own personality which is I am impatient and want a decision now that’s how I learnt to resolve indecision however a lot of times it was an impulse that could make my situations worse then I would deny all responsibility and blame.

I am learning to be patient whilst encouraging my son to take responsibility and that is part of the journey of maturity to make decisions and that’s it ok if it’s wrong.

What can we learn from our decision for next time ?

I believe it’s a way to build character to prepare him for the demands of growing up.

It’s ok to fail and make wrong decisions as long as I am responsible for any consequences for myself and others.

My son you are my greatest teacher by the mirror you show me.

19/01/2024

Watching my son starting to experience puberty shows me how without guidance from a father like figure boys are afraid of their anger because of the intensity and change it causes in their behaviour. Boys don’t know how to express and take responsibility for their anger responsibility being the number one lesson that I see needs to be taught.
Their psychological development is underdeveloped to process the impulses of anger that come from the body.
From my journey I was terrified of my anger because I was never taught that my anger is my responsibility and be shown how to harness my anger without it impacting me or those around me.
unexpressed anger is like a bomb 💣 waiting for for someone to press the detonator.
According to dr shefali who wrote the book the conscious parent emotional intelligence belongs to the role of the father at puberty and beyond.
Anger being identified as a masculine emotion it is the responsibility of the father or father figure to show the way.
Boys need men to show them the emotional
Intelligence of anger so they don’t become violent or let other people walk all over them by suppressing their anger because they are afraid of it.

Anger is about speaking one’s mind
Setting boundaries
Confident to say no in the face of pressure
Showing that I matter

For me boys who are not shown turn into men who live by fear who can hurt others hurt themselves and create a facade to hide the fear of suppressed anger.

My duty as a father is to show the boy his anger and teach him to not be afraid and take responsibility.

01/01/2024

my vision this year is to create awareness and insights in relation to how the most fundamental relationship a child has is with their parents and caregivers and how it determines their psychological and emotional structure based on the environment the parents create.

Have you ever noticed or been told that you sound or behave like your mum or dad ?
This is the result of what is called imprinting where the part of the child’s psyche is trying to make sense of the environment and in order to be accepted into that environment will imitate the behaviour of the parent to be accepted.

My vision is to encourage parents to help their children to create their own reality and not unconsciously mirror that of their parents.

Watch this space for more insights into the world of parenting from the perspective of being a parent both to my son and my emotional and psychological conditioning.

11/12/2023

A more conscious parent than when we started our work together.
Nothing brings me joy than to see a parent become aware of themselves and understand the impact of what stress can do in the parenting relationship.
Breaking down the learned stress responses has created more internal space to respond to their children rather than react.

I have one space available in the new year to work on connecting mind and body and how the impact of stress on the body greatly impacts what people interpret what they think they are seeing in their reality.
The more a person is stressed the more they will react rather than respond and never more so does this play out for the parent and the child relationship.

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08/11/2023

Sometimes the best outcome in parenting is to just hold space let them know they are loved and supported and let them experience what they need to experience in their development in order to self evolve.
It’s the interference of the parents that can affect them from learning what they need to experience and learn for themselves.
I ask
Can you hold your fears and expectations for the child and let them experience life lessons without interfering and pushing expectations on them ?

25/10/2023

Don’t ever let you or your children lose the art of imagination.
For as Albert Einstein said
Knowledge is limited imagination encircles the world.
imagination is linked to curiosity bath in the wonder of the curiosity of a child.
I am ridiculously curious and now realise my curiosity was suppressed by people who were afraid of curiosity because they have lost touch with their wonder and curiosity.
Every day I encourage and play with my sons curiosity for it not only fires his curiosity but also fires mine.
The suppression of imagination is down to the rational logic of fear which can become what they call a mental prison as imagination and curiosity are bursting to get out and not be suppressed they seek to express in the wonder of the unknown and yet to be explored.

FEAR
false evidence appearing real.