Zena Gilbert

Zena Gilbert living authentically through every life transition in my 30s✨
faith | marriage | living abroad
👇 couples bible study to grow closer to Jesus & your spouse

🌎 13+ yrs Global recruiter & career coach | 100s hired. Job nightmares → dream jobs. Relentlessly job searching? Let’s fix that!

15/04/2026

If your marriage has felt under attack recently - this is why.

The devil doesn’t come for marriages that are already broken. He comes for the ones God is actually building. And he has a strategy.

1 Peter 5:8 - your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Don’t let it be your marriage.

Here are his 10 most common attacks on kingdom marriages 👇🏽

1. Communication breakdown - he doesn’t need you to hate each other. Just stop talking honestly and watch what happens.

2. Comparison - you start measuring your real life against everyone else’s curated one. What God is building in your marriage becomes invisible next to what looks polished on a screen.

3. Busyness - no dramatic destruction needed. Just keep you both too exhausted to connect, too distracted to pray together, too drained to be present.

4. Unhealed wounds - the triggers you didn’t deal with before the wedding moved in with you. They show up in arguments that aren’t really about what you think.

5. Pride - nobody wants to be wrong. Nobody wants to go first. Small disagreements become long wars.

6. Sexual temptation - one of his most direct attacks on intimacy and trust. It doesn’t always announce itself loudly.

7. Financial stress - money fights are rarely about money. They’re about security, control, and trust. He uses pressure to expose every crack.

8. Isolation - a couple with no godly community, no mentors, no accountability is a couple fighting completely alone.

9. Neglecting spiritual intimacy - you can attend church together and still be spiritually disconnected at home. When prayer leaves the marriage the foundation quietly weakens.

10. Unforgiveness - his most patient weapon. It doesn’t need to explode. It just needs to sit there until it becomes a wall neither of you knows how to climb.

The enemy is not random. He is strategic. And the most powerful thing a couple can do is become just as intentional about protecting what God is building 📖

If you’re a newlywed couple who wants to build a strong God-centred foundation before the attacks come - I have a 12 month Bible study designed specifically for your first year of marriage. Link in bio 💜

🔔 FOLLOW for biblical encouragement for Christian couples navigating marriage and building a God-centred life.

11/04/2026

If I were single again — here’s exactly what I’d do differently 👇🏽

These 5 things completely changed how I approached dating, alignment, and trusting God in the waiting season. If you’re a Christian woman believing God for a godly husband, keep reading.

1. Pray with belief, not desperation 🙏🏽
Not “God, why is it taking so long??” — but “Lord, I trust You. I receive it.”
There’s a difference between praying in panic and praying in faith. Mark 11:24 says believe you’ve already received it. That’s not just a mindset shift — it’s a posture shift before God.

2. Be open to long distance 📍

Love is not limited by your zip code. My husband and I started 4,200 miles apart — and a “30 minute radius rule” almost cost me everything. Alignment matters infinitely more than proximity. Don’t let geography close a door God is trying to open.

3. Get ruthlessly clear on your values 📖
Not just “he loves God.” How does he actually live? What are his convictions? His vision for family? Dating without clarity is like building a house with no blueprint — you won’t see the cracks until you’re already inside.

4. Stop entertaining misalignment 🚪
I know you see the potential. I know it feels different with him. But sis — red flags don’t disappear after the wedding. They move in with you. Protect your time. Protect your heart. Walk away faster than you think you need to

5. Become the woman you’re praying for 🌱
You want a man of faith, discipline, and intentionality? Grow in those things now. Not to earn love — but because God is using this season to prepare you, not punish you.
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If you’re in the waiting and it feels heavier than anyone knows — I see you 🤍

The silence isn’t rejection from God. It’s preparation.
Use this season to pray, fast, grow, and get ready.

If this resonates with you, drop a 💜 in the comments — I’d love to know this reached you.

I wish more unmarried Christian couples knew that if they choose purity before marriage, they'll deepen their relationsh...
04/04/2026

I wish more unmarried Christian couples knew that if they choose purity before marriage, they'll deepen their relationship spiritually, mentally and emotionally like we did ❤️

26/03/2026

You’re having a normal day…
then it hits you.

Your family is a whole ocean away.

Living abroad will stretch you.

It gives you growth, new perspective, new people.
But it also asks you to let go of daily moments you once had.

It looks like:

• Missing birthdays and random Sunday dinners
• FaceTime instead of real hugs
• Booking trips months ahead just to see loved ones
• Learning a new city from scratch
• Figuring out culture, routines, and rhythms
• Searching for a church that feels like home
• Building friendships from zero
• Finding your new “go-to” places
• Starting life again… in every way

And sometimes… marrying into a whole new family too.

It’s beautiful.
And it’s hard.

If you’ve ever moved countries, you know this feeling.

I pray you find people who feel like home, wherever you are.

Where are you watching this from? 🌍




21/03/2026

Everyone keeps asking about the Bible study that led to my husband proposing 3 weeks later. Here it is 👇

When people started flooding my comments asking about our pre-marriage Bible study, I knew I had to share it.

My husband created it from scratch - 12 weeks, 12 topics, built to cover everything that actually matters before you say "I do."

We did it for two reasons:

📖 Neither of us had been married before. We didn't want to guess at what a kingdom-based marriage foundation looked like

🌍 We were 4,200 miles apart and dating to marry. Every topic we covered was so intentional.

Here's what the 12 weeks covered:

1. Foundations of Faith
2. Transforming Love
3. Leadership & Submission
4. Communication & Forgiveness
5. Trust & Faithfulness
6. Prayer & Intimacy
7. Love That Reflects Christ
8. Purity
9. Service
10. Trials
11. Generosity
12. Covenant Commitment

Each chapter has 5 parts:
an intro/scripture, discussion questions, an activity, a reflection, and a closeout prayer.

This isn't a checklist. It's a calibration. 🙏

If you're engaged, dating to marry, or want to build your marriage on Christ - this was made for you.

link in bio for this scripture based Bible Study

19/03/2026

Hot take: your ‘terrible timing’ might be better than your dream plan.

Everyone thought I’d ruined my “big move abroad” by landing in San Francisco in Feb 2020 instead of my carefully planned Australia chapter.

I’d spent years obsessing over that dream move.
Then I chose California on a whim… and the world shut down in 2020.

Friends messaged: “I’m so sorry, the timing is awful.”

But from inside my story, it felt completely different.

While the UK and Australia were in strict lockdowns, I was outside in the sun, walking, exploring, actually living.
That’s when I stopped calling things “bad timing” and started calling them redirection.

The move everyone pitied ended up being my protection, my freedom, and the start of a life I couldn’t have planned if I tried.

If your visa got denied, your move fell through, or your abroad plan isn’t “on schedule”…
what if this is your plot twist, your blessing in disguise, not your failure?

Save this for the days your plan falls apart, and follow for more abroad mindset shifts, faith-filled reframes, and honest expat stories. 🌍✨

Stop praying the wrong way for a spouseHere’s how I went from singles to married in 7 months 👇
16/03/2026

Stop praying the wrong way for a spouse

Here’s how I went from singles to married in 7 months 👇

26/02/2026

How job searching in this job market feels 🫠

which one resonates with you the most?

24/02/2026

1. We rewaited until marriage. It was difficult at the start; until we did a Bible study on purity together, it made it crystal clear that it was the right thing for us

2. We got engaged in 4 months, then married 3 months later. Some say it was quick but we’re 36 and 37 y/o & know our values

3. We’ve both had multiple failed relationships in our past… but we are grateful that each one led us closer to eachother 🤍

4. We started long distance - 4,200 miles apart, to be exact. We met face to face after 2 months

5. We eloped and didn’t tell any friends about our wedding. We had five family members at the beach wedding in Florida and will have a bigger celebration at another point.

6. We still can’t believe we are married 😂 in the best way possible!!!! GOD IS GOOD.

20/02/2026

the Bible says these 5 things happen when you have a spouse 👇

1. You become stronger together
“Two are better than one… If either falls, one can help the other up.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9–10

2. You grow through refinement
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” — Proverbs 27:17

3. You learn sacrificial love
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church.” — Ephesians 5:25

4. You receive wisdom in unity
“The two will become one flesh.” — Genesis 2:24

5. You reflect God’s design for partnership
“It is not good for the man to be alone.” — Genesis 2:18

Marriage calls you higher.
Not just happier.

Follow along to sharpen up your Christian dating and marriage
skills

15/07/2025

The simple trick to seeing more job opportunities each day 🧠

Let’s start with your brain - it is already filtering out most of what’s happening around you.

It’s called the Reticular Activating System (RAS).
The RAS is a filter in your brainstem that decides what information reaches your conscious mind.

You’re exposed to millions of bits of data every second… but you can only consciously process about 40.
The RAS filters based on what it believes is important to you.

Ever think about buying a specific car… and then start seeing it everywhere?
That’s your RAS at work.

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Now imagine you’re constantly thinking:
❌ “I’m not good enough.”
❌ “There are no jobs out there.”
❌ “No one’s hiring.”

Guess what your RAS starts filtering for?
More of the same - stress, rejection, closed doors.

But when you start shifting your focus toward:
✅ “I’m open to new opportunities.”
✅ “I’m ready for the right role.”
✅ “I’m capable and confident.”

Your RAS starts pulling in evidence to support that.

It starts showing you the things you were missing;
opportunities, new leads, unexpected connections.

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💡 Here’s how to train your RAS daily (takes less than 1 minute):

1. Set a clear intention:
“I’m attracting the right role for me.”
2. Visualize success:
Picture the job, the team, the feeling of getting the offer…..
3. Feel the emotions:
Confidence. Gratitude. Peace.

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Your brain becomes a magnet for what you believe is possible.
Train it wisely.

🔁 Rewire your focus.
🔍 Spot what others miss.
💼 Land what’s meant for you.

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If this resonated, follow me for more brain-based career strategies

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