Specialist in Psychotherapy & Skills Coaching for Creatives; Existential, DBT & RO DBT; ADHD, ADD, PD Walking-And-Talking Therapy also offered.
15/01/2026
Welcome to my Try January series! For the rest of this month each post will offer a suggestion, which you can try or not. Or maybe you do it already.
Unsolicited advice feels unequivocally the helpful thing to do. To the giver it does, anyway. Yet to the receiver of your superior knowledge, your expertise, your speaking from experience, it usually feels invalidating, often patronisimg, sometimes minimising of their pain and frequently dismissive of their experience. Try holding back for a beat before acting on an urge to “help”. Then, if you really must, ask their permission for you to impart your pearl of wisdom… as if they haven’t tried it, read it, researched it, heard it before elsewhere…🙃
I’d love to know your thoughts.
09/01/2026
When you’re snowed under you could burrow yourself out and possibly end up in a trough.
You could let it melt, and start gently wriggling free bit by bit.
If you wait for it to melt on its own a second freeze may entrap you.
Do just what is needed at any given time. Be curious. Try something different. Do what’s worked for you before.
There’s no one answer.
01/01/2026
I hear a huge amount from my clients about the redundancy of potential and the futility of hope. And guess what? We need our skeptics and our cynics. All of these clients also hold a dialectic: some with awareness, others in oblivion, but all exist with the possibility of possibility. A philosophical note to take into 2026.
31/12/2025
In the western world it’s common at the end of the calendar year to look back and ask yourself, “What have I achieved?”, “What have I not achieved?”, “What do I need more of?”, “What do I want to get rid of?”, “What do I regret?”, “Am I content?”, “Could I have done better?”, “Am I happy?”, “How can I be better?”…
If you want to change things you need to name the things, otherwise what are you changing? Indeed, what are you keeping the same? Know your story as it is right now. And don’t kid yourself, unless you desire to live a life of inauthenticity.
23/12/2025
Sincerest wishes for your Christmas and holiday time to be just as you wish.
10/12/2025
Mindfulness involves being effective, which means doing what works at any given time. Since walking, standing and sitting are too painful at present, I’ve found a way to work with clients online by lying on my “good” side and seeing them through video calls. Thank you, clients, for understanding.
03/12/2025
Here’s a phrase from Alan Watts - perhaps not everybody’s cup of tea. Nonetheless, in a world that encourages quick fixes, solution focused therapies and certainties we can forget that when it comes to physical or emotional pain whether chronic or acute, whether from injury or wear and tear, the body has known from the beginning how to heal.
28/11/2025
The sound of the sea, the call of the birds, the hum of traffic, the rumble of planes overhead, the vision of clouds, trees, ground, the smell of moss, earth, tarmac - it’s all there for you, to hear, see, feel, smell and taste.
14/11/2025
The Observer did an article in which I featured (9 years ago now) highlighting the work in which I specialise. It popped up on my FB memory feed… Still 100% relevant today. For enquiries you can reach me here stimmuntherapy.com/contact. Feel free to peruse stimmungtherapy.com for full services.
06/11/2025
I don’t know about you, but some of the generic mindfulness practices available online give me the pip! Don’t they you? It could be the accent, it could be the insincere, saccharin, sappy tone. It might be the words, the script, the phrases that I just don’t buy into. And there’s no point in pretending to.
Wow! Way to judge! Whatever. Let’s just say I feel a lot of energy around many mindfulness meditation practices. Could it be that I’m arrogant and believe that I know better? Maybe it could. I am of course the expert of me.
But right now I need my own and I need it to work. So, I’ve taken matters into my own hands. I wrote my own. I wanted to take agency for my own pain management, healing, getting better, not fighting or trying to control the pain in a stressful way. I’m sharing this because maybe this is something you can do too: write, record and listen to your own mindfulness meditation. My purpose was to create a meditation that stopped me turning away from the pain, that told me it was safe to feel the pain, that this is my body communicating to me.
I also wanted it to have the purpose of grounding me, which is not strictly Mindfulness to be honest. It’s more akin to hypnotherapy. But this is what I need right now to take some responsibility, particularly when I have felt let down by our beloved NHS and its emergency ward consultant and her mindless, pharmaceutical, toxic prescriptions. No energy there either😬🙄.
And guess what? It works. Don’t get me wrong, you, just as I, may have volatile, changeable, confusing pain that will still sometimes feel unbearable. But the great thing about recording your own words is that they are there at hand: you just press play whenever you need them. Anyway. I wanted to share this with you maybe you can give it a go, whether it’s for physical or emotional pain. Be creative!
You are the expert of you.
29/10/2025
Don’t acquiesce mindlessly to prescriptive psychology. Be open to the advice - remember, psychologists love their evidence-based recommendations. But psychologists can be mindless too. And arrogant. You need to take responsibility to develop self knowledge and the ability to trust your intuition, otherwise you have no agency or effort. Just sticking to text book psychology will not endure. Be open to full immersion, whilst not losing your personality. But don’t be resigned, surrendering or thoughtless. In your discombobulation, your confusion, your identity disturbance, your lostness… you are the expert of you.
24/10/2025
Boundaries set by others may be perceived as rejection. That’s because in a little way, you have been indeed been rejected. It’s also a signal that the other person has reached the limitations of their capacity. Take heed, and have the humility to respect the other’s boundary.
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"Our openness to the world is constituted by Stimmung..." Martin Heidegger
Specialist Psychotherapy and Skills Coaching for musicians, performers, artists, DJs, designers, theatre practitioners, and those in the creative field.
Stimmung is Britain's only private practice to offer specialist skills and therapy for this client base. I work flexibly to accommodate your irregular and sporadic working hours as necessary. You may be on tour, in the studio, on stage, teaching or studying. I work across music genres, including classical, pop, contemporary, rock, jazz, grime, electronic. You may be a singer, composer, producer, DJ, instrumentalist, dancer, orchestral player, actor, artist, writer, theatre practitioner or poet. If you're a "night" person, then I will do my best arrange sessions accordingly. If you live or work overseas, then instead of face-to-face sessions, I do online video sessions on Skype, Whatsapp, FaceTime, or Messenger.
British Association Of Performance Arts Medicine
I am listed in the BAPAM directory, which may be how you found me in the first place. If you are a member of the Musicians' Union, Equity, the Incorporated Society of Musicians, or if you are a student, then you may be eligible for funding for short term therapy. If needed, I can endorse your application. I also offer bursaries on a case-by-case basis.
Mobile Psychotherapy
I am an experienced backstage skills coach for performance anxiety, or even a sudden onset of existential angst prior to getting on stage (it has been known!).
I also offer bespoke Mental Fitness Programmes comprising intensive psychotherapy and skills coaching at your premises over a number of weeks or months.
