Jan Wilson, London (2026)

29/11/2025

Why We Need to Rethink “Parental Alienation” and Call It What It Is: Coercive Post-Separation Parenting Abuse (CPSPA)

🚨 What if I told you that “parental alienation” isn’t what it seems? 🚨

It’s time to change the way we talk about what’s really happening when one parent uses manipulation, control, and even legal systems to harm their ex-partner and children. What’s often called “parental alienation” is actually a form of coercive control that doesn’t stop after separation.

This behaviour, now being reframed as Coercive Post-Separation Parenting Abuse (CPSPA), is a deliberate tactic used by abusers to maintain power and control. It’s not just a “parenting conflict.” It’s abuse. And here’s why the language we use matters:

1️⃣ It’s Not About “Conflict”

The term “parental alienation” makes it sound like both parents are equally to blame. But in most cases, this isn’t true. Often, one parent is trying to protect their child from harm, while the other is using manipulative tactics to maintain control. For example, an abusive parent may accuse the protective parent of alienating the child, even when the protective parent is simply shielding them from danger. Calling this CPSPA makes it clear: this is not a fight between equals—it’s abuse.

2️⃣ Stop Blaming Protective Parents

How often do we hear stories of mothers or fathers being accused of “alienating” their child, when in reality, they’re doing everything they can to protect them? A mother who limits contact with an abusive ex-partner might be labelled as manipulative, but the truth is, she’s protecting her child’s safety. By calling this behaviour CPSPA, we can shift the blame back to where it belongs—on the abusive parent—and recognise the protective parent’s courage.

3️⃣ Listen to the Children

Too often, children’s voices are dismissed in these situations. When a child expresses fear or refuses to see an abusive parent, they’re labelled as “brainwashed” by the protective parent. This silences their experiences and forces them into harmful situations. By adopting the term CPSPA, we can ensure that children’s voices are heard and their safety becomes the priority.

4️⃣ Focus on Safeguarding, Not False Narratives

CPSPA encourages professionals—like courts and social workers—to focus on patterns of coercive control and abuse, rather than being misled by accusations of “parental alienation.” For instance, an abusive parent may repeatedly file false legal claims to drain the protective parent’s resources and force contact with the child. This is not about co-parenting. It’s about abuse.

Why CPSPA Matters

CPSPA is a better term because it tells the truth about what’s happening:

• Abusers use coercive control to maintain power.

• Children become tools in their manipulation and abuse.

• The abuse doesn’t stop after separation—it evolves.

• Both children and protective parents suffer immense harm.

It’s time to stop letting abusers hide behind the term “parental alienation.” By calling it Coercive Post-Separation Parenting Abuse, we expose the truth, protect children, and empower protective parents.

🛑 Let’s stop blaming victims. Let’s start prioritising safety. Let’s call it what it is: CPSPA. 🛑

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05/11/2025

‘’I used to hand my child money without thinking… until I realized I was teaching them the wrong

They ask for money. Again. I nod, I hand it over. But deep down, I’m wondering — are they learning the value of it, or just pressing the button?”
If you’re a parent between 21 and 45, juggling bills, chasing financial freedom, and trying to raise money-smart kids, you’re not alone.

We’re living in a world where money moves faster than ever — tap, click, swipe. Kids see money as instant, not earned. The old “money = reward” mindset doesn’t work anymore. They’re growing up in a digital economy where value isn’t just about cash — it’s about purpose, effort, and understanding.

In 2025, teaching kids about money isn’t just about giving or withholding it. It’s about helping them connect money to meaning — showing them how to make it, manage it, and multiply it with intention.

In my home, I’ve started something simple but powerful — a weekly “hustle fund.”
Instead of just handing over £5, I say:
“Here’s £5. Let’s make it work. What can you do to grow this?”
Then we break it down together:
• Save part.
• Spend part.
• Give part.
Each month, we sit down and talk about what they learned — what worked, what didn’t, and what they’d do differently next time. It’s not about the amount; it’s about the mindset.
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31/10/2025

“What do you do when the court says your children must go for contact…
but deep down, you know it’s not okay?”

You’ve followed the rules.
You’ve kept your side of the agreement.
But he turns up when he wants. Keeps them longer. Says things no child should hear.
And your heart breaks every time they come back angry, confused, or withdrawn.

You try to stay calm, you try to protect their peace —
but how do you explain boundaries to children when the adults around them don’t have any?

If this sounds like you… you’re not alone.
I’ve been there. It’s a helpless, painful place to be.

In this post (or video), I’m sharing what helped me:
✨ How to manage your emotions before and after contact
✨ How to ground your children after distressing visits
✨ Who to talk to when you know something isn’t right
✨ And how to record and report concerns safely

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30/10/2025

“She stayed for peace… until she realised peace would only come if she left.”

Here’s when it’s time to leave:
• When you or your children feel afraid in your own home.
• When “I’m sorry” turns into a routine, not a change.
• When you start planning your words instead of living your life.
• When your mental health begins to crumble under their control.

If you’re making the decision to leave — do it safely.
🔒 Have your documents ready (IDs, birth certificates, bank info).
📞 Tell a trusted friend or support worker your plan.
📍 Know a safe location to go — even for one night.
⚖️ The legal system is there to protect you — you don’t have to do this alone.

Your safety is not negotiable.
Your peace is not too much to ask for.
Your children deserve a calm, loving home # — and so do you. 💛

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29/10/2025

💔 How many pushes? How many slaps? How many times do you tell yourself “it’s not that bad”?

At what point do you say, enough?
When does surviving turn into suffering?

If you’ve ever had to hide your bruises — physical or emotional — please know this:
⚖️ The legal system exists to protect you.
🕊 You are not alone.
💛 There is real support waiting for you — for you and your children.

You don’t have to wait for things to get worse.
You don’t have to do it all alone.
You can take back your power — one step, one call, one choice at a time.

✨ Reach out today. There is help, there is hope, and there is a way forward.
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Because your safety isn’t a privilege.
It’s your right. 💛

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29/10/2025

“Holding On, Letting Go”

Sophie had spent years living under a shadow she thought she’d left behind. Ten years of coercion, manipulation, and fear had left her wary of every unexpected call, every unanswered message. But nothing shook her like the morning she discovered her son, Leo, had been taken without her knowledge.

Leo was seven, bright, curious, and struggling with health issues that required constant attention. Sophie’s heart raced as she imagined him alone with his father, a man who had once used fear as a tool to control her, now using their child as leverage. The move to a new city—a chance at a fresh start—had sparked something she recognized all too well: anger, entitlement, a need to maintain power.

Sophie knew she couldn’t react the way she had in the past. She had to be smart. She had to be strategic. So, she reached out for help, for guidance, for a plan that would protect her son while also documenting every step of this struggle.

Together, they began writing letters. Not letters filled with blame or rage, but letters that were calm, factual, and focused solely on Leo’s well-being. Every request, every reminder, was carefully documented, creating a trail of responsibility that could later be presented in court. With each letter, Sophie felt a small measure of control return—not over him, but over the story of her life, and the safety of her child.

It wasn’t easy. Fear still lurked in the background, anxiety twisted her stomach at every phone ring, and anger at the injustice flared often. But with each step, each documented interaction, she reminded herself of one truth: power over her life could not be taken, only returned. And for Leo, she would fight with clarity, courage, and unwavering love.

Sophie’s journey wasn’t just about keeping her child safe—it was about reclaiming herself. It was about showing Leo that even in the face of fear and manipulation, resilience and love could create a life worth living.Comment Yes to claim you free parent reset Guide strategie parents ’s behaviour #

29/10/2025

💔 Winter Can Be a Dangerous Season for Some… 💔

When the nights get longer and colder, something else quietly rises behind closed doors — domestic violence.

This is the time of year when too many people suffer in silence.
Sometimes it’s the neighbour who suddenly goes quiet.
Sometimes it’s that friend who “doesn’t text back like they used to.”
Or the relative who always says, “I’m fine,” but their eyes tell a different story.

✨ Please — don’t lose touch. ✨
Check in. Call. Message. Video chat.
Let them know someone still sees them… still cares.
That one call could be the light that reminds them they’re not alone.

🕯 Keep that light burning this winter. You might just save a life.

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28/10/2025

The Part of Parenting No One Talks About

Parenting between 25 and 40 hits different.
It’s the season where you’re expected to have it all figured out — the career, the house, the balance, the calm. But behind the smiles and school runs, there’s a silent truth many parents never talk about.

You’re raising little humans while still trying to raise yourself. You’re healing from things you never even had the language to explain, all while teaching your kids to use theirs. You’re trying to build financial stability, emotional peace, and a sense of purpose — but most days, it feels like there just isn’t enough time, energy, or support to do it all.

No one warns you about this part.
The part where you’re still growing, still figuring things out, still trying to heal from your own childhood — yet expected to know exactly how to guide your children through theirs. The part where you’re juggling bills, bedtime stories, and burnout.

Between 25 and 40, parenting isn’t just about caring for your kids — it’s about becoming the person they can depend on. And that’s not easy when you’re running on empty.

But here’s the truth I want you to hold onto: you’re doing better than you think. 🌿

Every moment you choose patience when it would be easier to snap…
Every time you pause to breathe before reacting…
Every time you remind yourself that you’re learning too — you’re rewriting generational patterns.

You may not always feel calm, but your growth is showing up in quiet ways your children will one day understand.

You are not behind.
You are not failing.
You are in the middle of a transformation — one that’s shaping not just your kids’ future, but your own.

So if no one has told you lately:
It’s okay to be tired.
It’s okay to rest.
It’s okay to want more for yourself while still giving your best to your family.

Parenting in this season isn’t about perfection — it’s about presence. It’s about learning, unlearning, and still showing up with love, even when your cup feels empty.

Take a moment to breathe.
You’ve made it through every hard day so far. And the best version of you — the one you’re working toward — is already forming through every act of love, forgiveness, and faith you give to yourself and your family.

You’re not just a parent.
You’re a cycle breaker, a healer, and a provider of something your children will one day thank you for — peace.

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28/10/2025

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27/10/2025

💛 Your children are Always Watching You

There was a day I’ll never forget.
I was exhausted — you know the kind of tired that sinks into your bones. Everything had gone wrong that day, and I snapped. I raised my voice… and the look on my child’s face stopped me in my tracks.

That tiny face — eyes wide, heart confused — watching me.
Not saying a word. Just watching.

In that moment, I realised something that changed me forever…
Our children don’t just listen to what we say — they watch who we are.

They notice how we handle anger.
How we speak to each other when we disagree.
How we apologise when we’re wrong.

They’re learning from us, even in the moments we wish they weren’t.

And that realisation doesn’t come from guilt — it comes from awareness. From knowing that even when we mess up (because we all do), we have the power to turn it around.

We can pause.
We can say sorry.
We can show them what growth and self-control look like in real life.

Parenting isn’t about perfection — it’s about presence.
It’s about showing up, learning, and healing right alongside our children.

So if you’ve ever had a moment you wish you could take back… you’re not alone.
We all have them.
But every single time you choose calm over chaos, love over pride, and understanding over anger — you’re changing your child’s story.

Because they’re always watching.
And they’re learning how to love, heal, and forgive… by watching you. 💛

23/10/2025

Is your child showing big emotions, withdrawal, sleep troubles, or trouble concentrating after something stressful? These can be signs of trauma — and the good news is: small, steady supports from you and their school make a huge difference.

What trauma can look like
- Intense meltdowns or sudden anger
- Excessive clinginess or acting younger than their age
- Withdrawal, anxiety, nightmares, or trouble sleeping
- Trouble focusing, impulsivity, or irritability
- Avoiding certain places/people or being easily startled

How parents can support right now
- Stay calm and present: your tone and body language help regulate them.
- Validate feelings: simple lines like “I see you’re upset — that makes sense” build safety.
- Keep routines predictable: consistent meals, bedtime, and transitions reduce anxiety.
- Co-regulate before teaching: join them in calming (slow breathing, quiet voice), then practice self‑regulation skills together.
- Celebrate small wins and stay patient — healing is gradual.

Therapeutic strategies & self‑regulation tools
- Breathing practice: try 4‑4‑4 (inhale 4s, hold 4s, exhale 4s) or “smell the cookie, blow out the candle.”
- Grounding: “Name 5 things you see/4 things you hear/3 things you can touch.”
- Sensory breaks: jumping, wall pushes, heavy hugs, or a short walk to release energy.
- Emotion tools: feelings charts, feelings thermometers, and labeling emotions help kids name what’s happening.
- Professional therapies: trauma‑informed therapy, play therapy, TF-CBT (trauma-focused CBT) — consult a qualified therapist when needed.

Creating a calm environment at home
- Make a calm corner: soft lighting, a small chair/blanket, calm-down box (fidgets, picture book, stress ball).
- Reduce sensory overload: dim bright lights, lower background noise, offer headphones for noisy settings.
- Prepare for change: give warnings before transitions (“In 5 minutes we’ll…”) and use visual schedules for predictability.
- Keep household stress managed: kids pick up caregiver tension — self-care matters.

How parents can partner with school
- Request a meeting: invite the teacher and the school counselor to share observations and coordinate supports.
- Share a one-page plan that includes: known triggers, calming strategies that work, safe adult(s) to go to, and contact info for the parent.
- Ask for consistent language and signals (a simple check-in phrase or gesture) so the child experiences predictability.
- Request reasonable accommodations: access to a quiet space, sensory breaks, shortened assignments when needed, or scheduled check-ins. Consider formal plans (504/IEP) if behavior significantly affects learning.
- Role-play school scenarios at home so the child knows what to expect.

Practical tools to start using today
- Calm‑down box: fidgets, small stuffed toy, squeeze ball, picture book.
- Visual schedule & timers: show transitions and how long activities will last.
- Feelings chart or thermometer: helps children label intensity.
- Noise‑reduction headphones & dimmable lamp.
- Grounding cards or scripts for pocket use.
- Simple communication card for school with: child name, triggers, what helps, safe adult, emergency contact.

Quick phrases that help
- “I’m here with you.”
- “You’re safe right now.”
- “Tell me what you need.”
- “We can try a deep breath together.”

When to get professional help
- If symptoms are persistent/worsening or interfere with school, sleep, or safety, contact a pediatrician or trauma‑informed mental health
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21/10/2025

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