Max Karlin - Existential Therapy & Counselling

Max Karlin - Existential Therapy & Counselling I’m a psychologist, counsellor and trainee existential therapist. I’m both with you and for you: walking alongside and focusing on what’s important to you.

I work with individuals experiencing personal crises, major life transitions, and emotional challenges—including anxiety, grief, stress, depression, anger, relationship struggles, and questions of meaning and self-worth. I work face-to-face and online under supervision with people who are facing difficulties and challenges arising from significant life events and changes. These include issues such as loss of meaning, anxiety, stress, depression, anger, relationship difficulties and questions of self-esteem and self-worth. I help clients deal with difficult family relationships, partnership tensions and break-ups, personal difficulties in finding a more ‘stable’ life, and the conflicts and anxieties that accompany these challenges. Before focusing on psychotherapy, I spent over two decades in the commercial field involved with sales and marketing, eventually launching and managing my own enterprise in the food-processing technology. This long chapter of entrepreneurial and business engagements inform my perspective, that helps me understand the intense pressures, diverse challenges, and inner struggles that people grapple with when navigating high-demand workplaces or coming from different cultural and personal backgrounds. I am interested in how existential movement and psychotherapy can contribute to meaningful social change. I’m passionate about researching how psychotherapy can contribute to social change and foster a better world. I’m a founder and co-editor of the Journal of Integrative Psychotherapy and Systemic Analysis, an associate member of the Federation for Existential Therapy in Europe (FETE), and a student member of The Society for Existential Analysis (SEA) in London. My Approach
My practice is grounded in the existential approach, helping individuals to navigate life’s challenges creatively, actively and reflectively and to rediscover their sense of meaning and purpose. I intend to support them in experiencing a renewed sense of aliveness, whether for the first time or once again. My approach is caring, supportive, empathic and collaborative, with an emphasis on what I call authentic presence, emotional resonance. Personally, I do not consider therapy a kind of mystic process; it is an open and honest conversation about life. We will then work together to explore your situation and contradictions in search of clarity and solutions that align with your true self and your values. The life transitions, whether personal, relational, or emotional, quite often constitute a category of events that often make people feel ungrounded, anxious, and sometimes even overwhelmed. These feelings emerge through anxiety, depression, or confusion. Instead of focusing solely on symptoms, I see them as indicators of one’s disconnection or distorted perception of reality. We will explore these feelings to find not only alleviation but a deepening of insights and new ways to approach life. Throughout our conversations, I will encourage you to focus as much on the present and future as on the past. Even a deep understanding of the past doesn’t always tell us how we want to live now, or what we may desire for our future—often central questions we’ll explore in therapy. This is an opportunity for you to understand better what you really want from life, while at the same time accepting both the limitations and possibilities it has to offer. A process that will help you live more intentionally, taking responsibility for choices and finding deep satisfaction in these very day-to-day moments. While the foundation of my practice is existential psychotherapy, I incorporate other modalities of practice, informed by my academic background and a host of professional experiences. This enables me to formulate an individualised, client-centered approach that will uniquely meet the needs and issues for each person. My goal is to help you sort through personal difficulties, improve your relationships, and effectively manage stress and anxiety. My Practice
I work with issues and challenges arising from significant life events and changes. These include issues such as loss of meaning, anxiety, stress, depression, anger, relationship difficulties and issues of self-esteem and self-worth. I work in accordance with the UKCP Code of Ethics and under the supervision of experienced colleagues. Themes and issues I typically work with:

Addictions
Anger management
Anxiety
Bereavement and grief
Bullying
Career counselling
Cheating and betrayal
Depression
Divorce and separation
Eating disorders
Life purpose and meaning
Low self-esteem
Panic attacks
Problems at work
Relationship counselling
Sexuality and identity. issues
Stress

Existential counselling for business

In today’s fast-moving business environment, it takes more than hitting targets or changing behaviors. Deeper questions of meaning and authenticity arise, reflecting how personal values and professional roles intertwine. My existential approach creates a safe, reflective space for exploring these challenges. Rather than quick fixes, we’ll uncover the “why” behind each decision, the responsibilities that follow, and a sense of clarity so your work aligns with who you truly are. Lecture, Training, and Experiential Workshops

I offer lectures, seminars, and experiential workshops to increase understanding, facilitate growth, and offer pragmatic tools for professional and personal development. These sessions will be specifically crafted for professionals and organisations looking to cultivate a deeper connection, meaning, and purpose in how one engages in his or her life and work.

When Pop Psychology Flattens Our WordsYou’ve probably heard it:“Gaslighting just means lying.”“Triggered means annoyed.”...
12/09/2025

When Pop Psychology Flattens Our Words

You’ve probably heard it:
“Gaslighting just means lying.”
“Triggered means annoyed.”
“Everyone’s a narcissist.”
“Trauma is anything painful.”

This is the voice of pop psychology - fast, catchy, and shareable. But something gets lost. These words weren’t meant to be slogans. They were born from lived suffering.

In reality:

Gaslighting erodes trust in your own reality.

A trigger can feel like reliving the past, not mild discomfort.

Narcissism is a complex personality pattern that goes far beyond simple selfishness.

Trauma is not just pain, it unsettles our capacity to cope and can alter the way we move through life.

As philosopher Wittgenstein wrote: “The limits of my language mean the limits of my world.” When words are diluted, so is our capacity to name and meet what we’re going through.

Phenomenology teaches us that language is not just a label , it is how reality appears to us. If “trauma” comes to mean “everything hard,” then true trauma disappears from sight. If “gaslighting” is just “lying,” we miss the violence of having our reality systematically dismantled.

Existential therapy pays attention to words for this reason. Language can blur suffering and actual experience, or it can reveal it. When we speak with care, we open space for recognition, truth, and healing.

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Kad pop-psiholoģija saplacina mūsu vārdus

“Gazlaitings vienkārši nozīmē melošanu.”
“Triggered nozīmē nokaitināts.”
“Visi ir narcisi.”
“Trauma ir jebkas, kas sāp.”

Droši vien šos esi dzirdējis.
Tie ir visur. Īsi. Ērti. Dalāmi.
Bet kaut kas būtisks šeit pazūd.

Šie vārdi nav radušies no mirkļa mirkļbirkām.
Tie nāk no piedzīvotām sāpēm, klīniskas izpratnes un vajadzības saprast ciešanas.

➤ Gaslighting nav tikai meli – tas grauj un sašķeļ tavas realitātes sajūtu.
➤ Triggers nav tikai kairinājums – tas var vilkt tevi atpakaļ pagātnē.
➤ Narcisms nav vienkārša egoisma izpausme – tā ir dziļa un sarežģīta personības struktūra.
➤ Trauma nav tikai sāpes – tā izjauc spēju dzīvot, veidot attiecības un tikt galā ar ikdienu.

Filozofs Vītggenšteins reiz teica:
“Manas valodas robežas nozīmē manas pasaules robežas.”
Kad vārdi tiek atšķaidīti, tiek vājināta arī mūsu spēja nosaukt un sastapt to, ko piedzīvojam.

Eksistenciālajā terapijā valoda ir svarīga.
Tā nav tikai saziņas forma tā ir mūsu sastapšanās ar pasauli un veids, kā mēs nosaucam to, kas sāp.

Tāpēc runāsim apdomīgi.
Neļausim, lai sarežģītība kļūst par upuri ērtumam.

Are we becoming more like machines  or can we choose to live more deeply human lives?Recently at the 6th European Confer...
02/09/2025

Are we becoming more like machines or can we choose to live more deeply human lives?

Recently at the 6th European Conference for Existential Therapy in Rome (Federation for Existential Therapy in Europe (FETE)), I had the privilege of speaking with Dr. Kirk J. Schneider, a psychologist, therapist, bestselling author, and a leading spokesperson for existential-humanistic and existential-integrative psychology today.

Our conversation touched on themes that feel urgent today:

- anxiety as a life-enhancing force
- the risks of becoming machine-like in a world of quick fixes and AI, questioning whether we lose something essential — as life gets faster, more reactive, more… automatic?
- political and polarisation of minds and society
- staying present in relationships, communities, and within ourselves
- the role of therapy not just as a technique, but as a human encounter

This was more than an interview. It was an encounter , one of those conversations that lingers, that shifts something inside you and stays with you long after the cameras stopped.
A reminder of why I’m on this path.

Dr. Schneider not only advances the theory and practice of existential perspective; he has also done enormous work bringing these ideas beyond the therapy room — into education, politics, and dialogue across divided communities.

As someone still shaping my voice in this profession, this dialogue reminded me why existential therapy matters , not just for clients, but for how we live and relate in an increasingly complex world.

To share space with someone so thoughtful, so grounded and human, which is so rare.

I hope you can feel a bit of that too , at least through the screen.

Federation for Existential Therapy in Europe: FETE Existential Humanistic Institute

What does it mean to be human in a world of uncertainty, anxiety, and change? In this interview, I speak with Dr. Kirk J. Schneider — a leading voice in exis...

Pastaiga ar terapeitu: kur satiekas prāts, ķermenis un dabaKad iedomājamies psihoterapiju, vairumam prātā nāk četru sien...
27/08/2025

Pastaiga ar terapeitu: kur satiekas prāts, ķermenis un daba

Kad iedomājamies psihoterapiju, vairumam prātā nāk četru sienu telpa, divi krēsli un klusums. Un šai telpai tiešām ir nozīme, taču dažkārt dziedināšanai nav nepieciešamas sienas. Tā var notikt soli pa solim — ārā, ar zemi zem kājām, debesīm virs galvas un dabu līdzās.

Kaut kas mainās, kad mēs kustamies. Domām, kas iepriekš šķita smagas, rodas plūdums. Lēns pastaigas ritms var mazināt trauksmi, atraisīt to, kas bija iestrēdzis, un atvērt maigāku telpu pārdomām.

Kāpēc pamēģināt?

Brīvība no “karstā krēsla” sajūtas — ejot blakus, nevis sēžot pretī, saruna notiek dabiski un bez spriedzes
Pastaiga palīdz izkustēties no “iestrēgušām” sajūtām
Daba kļūst par mierinošu un iedvesmojošu līdzgaitnieci
Saruna šķiet vienkāršāka, brīvāka un tuvāka dzīvei
Eksistenciālajā terapijā bieži runājam par būt tapšanā, drosmi dzīvot ar neziņu un tomēr spert nākamo soli. Pastaiga kļūst par dzīvu metaforu šim ceļam. Katrs solis atgādina par mūsu izturību un brīvību izvēlēties. Mēs joprojām ejam, joprojām izvēlamies, joprojām esam brīvi.

Savā praksē esmu pamanījis, cik citādi jūtas saruna brīvā dabā — vieglāka, skaidrāka, atvērtāka. Arī pats ceļš kļūst par terapijas daļu.

Ja vēlies izmēģināt pastaigu terapiju, droši sazinies.

Neatkarīgi no tā, vai dzīvo tuvumā vai esi vienkārši garāmbraucējs, mēs varam atrast tādu tempu, kas jūtas dabisks, un ceļu, kurā ir vieta arī Tavam stāstam.

📞 Lai pieteiktu sesiju vai uzdotu jautājumu, droši zvani, raksti WhatsApp vai SMS uz 20482662. Atbildēšu, cik drīz spēšu.

Adolescence... how often adults see it as a transitional problem to be solved, instead of seeing this stage as a distinc...
10/08/2025

Adolescence... how often adults see it as a transitional problem to be solved, instead of seeing this stage as a distinct mode of human existence in itself. What if our task isn’t to fix adolescence, but to remain present and holding space for ambiguity and uncertainty without interference?

A few months ago, I was in Yorkshire and, unexpectedly, found myself walking the same streets where Netflix filmed Adolescence — the UK’s most-watched streaming series in a single week.

On screen, those streets seem expansive; in reality, they are smaller. Almost silent. Yet standing there brought into focus what the series captures so well: the fragile, complex territory between childhood and adulthood.

Adolescence follows a boy accused of murder, but its deeper story is about how teenagers live in a state of constant becoming — neither protected children nor fully formed adults. It shows how technology, online influence, and the “manosphere” shape identity in ways we rarely notice. Philosopher Martin Heidegger called this “enframing” — when technology turns people into things to be managed. In this series, you can see that process unfolding in real time.

Working with young people, I often see how quickly we adults try to fix, solve, and provide answers before the questions themselves have fully formed. What I find valuable is that we can begin not by offering a solution, but a simple presence - a space for uncertainty, allowing things to happen at its own pace.

In this article, I reflect on Adolescence, what it reveals about growing up in a digital age, and what it challenges us to do differently as parents, educators, and therapists.

Reflections on Netflix’s Adolescence, technology and the manosphere—why presence, not fixing, helps teens navigate identity, online influence & growing up.

Kad darbs vairs nešķiet kā tava daļa -  kas tad notiek?Daudziem no mums darbs ir vairāk nekā tikai darbs.Tas kļūst par d...
04/08/2025

Kad darbs vairs nešķiet kā tava daļa - kas tad notiek?

Daudziem no mums darbs ir vairāk nekā tikai darbs.
Tas kļūst par daļu no tā, kas mēs esam. Par virzienu, par veidu, kā piešķiram nozīmi.

Taču dažkārt šī saikne klusi izzūd.

Tu to nejūti dramatiskos veidos, bet gan smalkās zīmēs:
Brīvdienu traukums, ikdienas rutīnas vai jautājums: "Vai tas vēl esmu es?"

Tā nav vienkārši spriedze. Tas ir dziļāks atslēgums — no savām vērtībām, mērķiem, no sevis paša.

Konsultāciju laikā es bieži dzirdu cilvēkus sakām:
“Es daru to, ko domāju, ka gribu, bet jūtos tukšs.”, “Šī dzīve vairs nešķiet kā manējā.” vai “Es eju uz priekšu, bet iekšēji jūtos iestrēdzis”...

Pētījumi apstiprina šo. Piemēram tika pierādīts, ka 70% cilvēku savu galveno dzīves jēgu rod darbā (McKinsey).
Kad šī nozīme zūd, bieži seko izdegšana un ne tikai kā nogurums, bet kā eksistenciāla migla.

Te sākas dziļāki jautājumi:

– Vai tavs darbs atbilst tam, par ko tu kļūsti?
– Kura tava daļa klusē katru dienu?
– Ja tava loma vai amats pazustu , kas paliktu?

Tas ne vienmēr nozīmē aiziešanu. Dažkārt tas nozīmē pārorientēšanos, ļaut dzīvei atspoguļot to, kas patiesi svarīgs.

Jo izdegšana nav tikai fiziska. Tā ir eksistenciāla.

Un jēga nav kas tāds, ko mēs vienkārši atrodam.
Tā ir kas tāds, ko veidojam ar apzinātību, drosmi un nodomu.

Ja tu esi punktā, kur kaut kas vairs nešķiet īsti savā vietā un tu neesi viens. Tas var nebūt pat krīze, bet signāls.

Why do we lie  not just to others, but to ourselves?We like to think and to believe we know who we are. But often, benea...
18/07/2025

Why do we lie not just to others, but to ourselves?

We like to think and to believe we know who we are. But often, beneath the surface, we’re living out stories we never chose shaped by fear, expectation, or long-standing habit.

In this article, I explore the quiet mechanics of self-deception through psychology, philosophy, and lived experience. Why we cling to comforting illusions. How they protect us. And what it really costs to keep believing them.

This isn’t a comfortable journey.
But it is a profoundly human one.

We all lie, but the deepest lies are the ones we tell ourselves. An article on how self-deception shapes identity, limits growth, and how truth can set us free, if we’re ready to face it.

While in Rome this spring for the Federation for Existential Therapy in Europe: FETE "Wisdom in Practice" conference, I ...
12/07/2025

While in Rome this spring for the Federation for Existential Therapy in Europe: FETE "Wisdom in Practice" conference, I had the chance to sit down with Paola Pomponi — existential therapist, coach, writer, and someone whose presence brings both depth and humour into the room.

We didn’t script anything. We just talked.
Something meaningful, as it sometimes does, unfolded while we shared the moment.

In our dialoge, we explored what it actually means to show up as ourselves, whether in life, in therapy session, or in leadership.
We spoke about burnout, uncertainty, the weight of responsibility, and how laughter, absurdity, and how even small talk can connect us in unexpected ways.

If you’re navigating change, asking deeper questions, or simply curious what therapy looks like beyond techniques — I hope this speaks to you.

Let me know what resonates — I’d love to hear from you.

Watch the full video here:

What happens when two existential practitioners meet — not to debate technique, but to reflect on being human together?Filmed during the “Wisdom in Practice”...

🖥️ Online Therapy: Real Connection, Wherever You AreCan therapy through a screen really feel meaningful?As someone who w...
08/07/2025

🖥️ Online Therapy: Real Connection, Wherever You Are

Can therapy through a screen really feel meaningful?

As someone who works from an existential perspective, I believe it can — and often does.
When you feel safe in your own space, it may become easier to open up, reflect, and speak freely.
And with today's secure, high-quality technology, online sessions can offer presence, trust, and depth — even across distance.

In this article, I share:
• How online therapy can feel personal and grounded
• What to expect from virtual sessions
• Tips for creating a safe and supportive environment
• Why emotional depth is possible — and sometimes enhanced — online
• How to know if it’s right for you

Whether you live far from a therapy practice, have a tight schedule, or simply feel more at ease at home — online therapy may be a way to begin (or continue) your journey toward emotional clarity and resilience.

📖 Read the full article here: https://maxkarlin.com/online-therapy-how-to-find-personal-and-supportive-ways-to-emotional-equilibrium/

💬 If you're curious but unsure, I offer a short free first call — to see if this format and my style feel right for you.

25/06/2025

Starting therapy is rarely a light decision and can be a big step.

If you are feeling anxious, lost, overwhelmed, or perhaps stuck in patterns that no longer serve you - this could be a moment to pause. To reflect and to begin.

In my work as a counsellor and existential therapist I work with people navigating significant life transitions: grief, anxiety, relationship shifts, identity, self-worth, career dilemmas—and the quiet inner discontent that says: something’s not right.

I don’t offer quick solutions and I don’t promise instant fixes.
What I offer is presence.
Curiosity.
And a space where your story matters and honest conversation about what truly matters to you.

Existential therapy isn’t about pathologising your experience.
It listens to it.
Stays with it.
And asks— what does this say about your longings, your values, your way of being in the world?

Together, we explore your story, your emotions and we look at what’s underneath:

• What truly matters to me ?
• What do I really want from life?
• How do I want to live, and what gets in the way?
• Who am I becoming — and what do I need to let go of?
• Why me? Why now?

Psychotherapy, when rooted in real connection and existential depth, isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about meeting you. Fully.

You don’t have to have it all figured out before starting therapy.
You just need a willingness and openess to speak honestly about life.

If you’ve ever wondered what therapy might feel like or whether it could be for you - reach out.

And if this resonates - save it. Share it.
Someone you know might need this today.

I work with individuals experiencing personal crises, major life transitions, and emotional challenges—including anxiety, grief, stress, depression, anger, relationship struggles, and questions of meaning and self-worth.

Psihoterapija kā satikšanās: Eksistenciāls ceļvedis, kā gūt maksimālu ieguvumu no procesaTerapija nav par to, lai tevi “...
17/06/2025

Psihoterapija kā satikšanās: Eksistenciāls ceļvedis, kā gūt maksimālu ieguvumu no procesa

Terapija nav par to, lai tevi “salabotu.”
Tā ir par to, lai tevi patiesi satiktu — cilvēcīgi, godīgi — tieši tajā, ko šobrīd nes sev līdzi.

Šis īsais raksts ir ceļvedis, kas piedāvā veidus, kā padziļināt savu pieredzi terapijā — neatkarīgi no tā, vai jūs tikai sākat vai jau esat procesā.

Iekļauts:
• Pārdomu jautājumi, ko ņemt līdzi uz sesiju vai pārdomāt pēc tās
• Ieteikumi, kā būt klātesošam — klātienē vai attālināti
• Kā attiecības ar terapeitu kļūst par kopīgi veidotu telpu ar jēgu, ne tikai analīzi

Pilns raksts

Eksistenciālā pieeja terapijā un konsultēšanā uzsver jūsu brīvību izvēlēties, kad iesaistīties terapijā. Tā uzsver arī personīgo atbildību.

Therapy as Encounter: An Existential Guide to Getting the Most from the ProcessTherapy isn’t about being “fixed.”It’s ab...
17/06/2025

Therapy as Encounter: An Existential Guide to Getting the Most from the Process

Therapy isn’t about being “fixed.”
It’s about being met — honestly, humanly — in the midst of whatever you're carrying.

My short article offers ways to deepen your engagement with therapy, whether you're just beginning or already in the thick of it.

Inside:
• Reflective prompts to bring into or out of session
• Thoughts on showing up — in-person or online
• How the client–therapist relationship becomes a space of shared meaning, not just analysis

Full article here: https://maxkarlin.com/how-to-get-the-most-from-therapy-an-existential-perspective/

If you've ever had a moment in therapy where something quietly shifted — you're welcome to share.

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