Celebrant Marc Lemezma - Funeral & LIfe Celebrant

24/10/2025

Feeling forgetful? Chaotic? Like your brain is in a fog? 🌫️ You're not losing your mind. It's "Grief Brain," and it's real.

This phase is a mix of intense, restless pining for the person you've lost and the total disorganisation of your life and thoughts. Your brain is overworked and your life's structure has collapsed.

In this video, I explain why it happens and how to be kind to your brain as it heals. Based on my work with hundreds of bereaved families. ❤️‍🩹

Let's talk in the comments. What did "Grief Brain" feel like for you?

Follow for the next video: Acceptance & Reorganisation.

23/10/2025

Amazing News!

You may remember a few weeks ago I mentioned I was nominated for the Debbie Brooke Award by the Association of Independent Celebrants (AOIC).

I’m delighted to share that I was recently named Runner-Up. This award goes beyond simply recognising excellence as a celebrant. It celebrates those who help to push the boundaries of our profession through creativity, innovation and care.

For me, that includes the unique services I design in collaboration with funeral directors and different venues, the work I do on my YouTube channel to support families through grief, and the poetry I write to bring comfort and reflection.

I’m deeply touched that so many people took the time to nominate and vote for me, and above all, I’m truly grateful to every family who places their trust in my work each day.

Thank you all for being part of this journey.

20/10/2025

It's always touching when I hear that my poems have been read in tribute to others.

Today I learned that some lines from my Biker's Blessing poem had been read in the Canadian parliament in honour of a much respected member of the community in

16/10/2025

The heavy, grey blanket. The "black dog" of grief. 🖤 That profound emptiness isn't a sign of weakness; it's a necessary phase of your journey.

It's your mind's way of slowing you down to do the deep, quiet work of healing. The goal isn't to "snap out of it," but to gently step through it.

In this video, I explain the purpose of this despair and how to be kind to yourself while you're in it. Based on my work with hundreds of bereaved families. ❤️‍🩹

If you've been here, you are not alone. Let's support each other in the comments.

Follow for the next video in this series: Yearning & Disorganisation.

13/10/2025

Just a quick personal message to say a huge thank you for the incredible support on the grief series. You're all amazing! And yes, I'll finally answer the Robbie Williams question... sort of 😉.

Our goal: 1000 subscribers by Christmas! 🎄

11/10/2025

The endless loop of "what ifs" and "if onlys"... 🔄 It's one of the most painful parts of grieving.

This is the Bargaining phase. It’s your brain’s desperate attempt to find control when you feel powerless. You are not to blame. You are grieving.

In this video, I explain the psychology behind this and how to navigate these feelings of guilt and regret with compassion. Based on my work with hundreds of bereaved families. ❤️‍🩹

It's okay to have these thoughts. Let's talk about them in the comments.

Follow for the next video in this series, where we’ll explore the heavy weight of Depression & Despair.

06/10/2025

Grief isn't just sadness. It's also a deep, burning anger. 😡

That feeling of being furious at the world? It's a normal, valid, and necessary part of grieving. It's a protest against unfairness and an anchor when you feel lost in despair.

In this video, I explain the hidden purpose of your anger and share safe ways to let it out. Based on my work with hundreds of bereaved families. ❤️‍🩹

It's okay to be angry. You are not alone in this feeling.

Follow for the next video in this series, where we'll explore the "what ifs" and "if onlys" of Bargaining.

01/10/2025

Ever reach for your phone to call them, and then remember? 💔 That painful moment is a deep and natural part of grief called Denial & Searching.

It's not a refusal to accept facts; it's a primal instinct to search for someone you love. Your heart is protesting the loss.

In this video, I explain the psychology behind this and how to navigate these jarring moments with compassion. Based on my work with hundreds of bereaved families. ❤️‍🩹

What has this "searching" phase felt like for you? Let's talk in the comments.

Follow for the next video in this series, where we'll tackle the powerful emotion of Anger.

27/09/2025

That strange, empty feeling after a loss? You’re not broken, and you're not cold. You're experiencing the first, protective phase of grief: Shock and Numbness. In this video, we explore the hidden psychological reasons why your brain enters this survival mode.

This is the first part of a series on the dynamics of grief. I’ll explain how this numb feeling is a powerful and necessary defence mechanism, and share gentle, practical advice on how to support yourself, or someone you love, through this confusing and disorienting time. Everything is based on established psychological models and my personal experience working with hundreds of bereaved families as a funeral celebrant.

If this video helps you, please consider subscribing for the rest of the series. Sharing your own experience in the comments can also be a powerful way to help others feel less alone on their journey.

That strange, empty feeling after a loss? You’re not broken, and you're not cold. You're experiencing the first, protective phase of grief: Shock and Numbnes...

22/09/2025

It was an absolute honour to conduct a beautiful Celebration of Life service the other day at the amazing

Working alongside my wonderful friends at we helped a family create a personal and meaningful farewell for over 80 guests in the heart of the stunning Kent countryside.

It was a powerful reminder that a funeral or celebration doesn't have to take place at a crematorium. The right venue is one that truly fits your wishes, the character of the person you are remembering, and your budget. From elegant hotels to peaceful woodlands or even your own garden, there are so many options.

If you'd like to explore what's possible in our area, please feel free to ask me, or have a chat with your local funeral director. We can help you find the perfect setting for a truly personal goodbye.

19/07/2025

Privileged to be a part of this service with my friends at Angels Funerals Maidstone

10/07/2025

The Funeral Finished. I Stayed Behind… Here’s Why.

Today is my son’s birthday. He would have been 32 if he were still alive.
After leading a funeral at the crematorium where he rests, I came to sit beside him.
There is something about having a place. A grave. A vault. A bench.
Or even a secret spot only the two of you knew.
Somewhere you can go to remember, to speak, to be.
It doesn’t fix grief. But it helps.
Where do you go when you need to remember?

The Funeral Finished. I Stayed Behind… Here’s Why.Today is my son’s birthday. He would have been 32 if he were still alive.After leading a funeral at the cre...