Zoe Plant - Counselling, Coaching & Supervision, Maidstone

24/11/2025

This afternoon's client decided to nap.

24/11/2025

ADHD coaching for women is not about “fixing” you or turning you into a perfectly organised robot.

It is about understanding how your brain actually works – and then building a life that fits that, instead of constantly trying to squeeze yourself into everyone else’s mould.

For many women, ADHD doesn’t look like the stereotype. It can look like:

Overthinking and anxiety that never switch off
Being “the responsible one” on the outside and burnt out on the inside
Emotional overwhelm, shame and people-pleasing
Cycles of hyperfocus → exhaustion → shutdown
Impulse spending, overcommitting, then feeling like you’ve let everyone down

Add hormones, perimenopause or menopause into the mix, and the volume often gets turned up even higher. Brain fog, memory issues, mood swings and sensory overload can suddenly feel unmanageable.

This is where ADHD coaching can help.

In my work as a counsellor, somatic coach and ADHD Coachellor, I support women to:

Make sense of their patterns without shame
Understand how ADHD and hormones interact for them
Work with their nervous system, not against it
Create small, realistic changes that fit their actual life
Build self-compassion instead of constant self-criticism

It’s not about another planner, another system, or “trying harder”. It’s about designing support, routines and expectations that are actually sustainable for your brain and body.

If you’re a woman who suspects ADHD, is waiting for assessment, or already has a diagnosis and feels like things are getting harder (especially around perimenopause or menopause), ADHD coaching can give you a space to be fully yourself, be believed, and start again from a kinder place.

If this resonates, feel free to connect or message me, I’m always happy to talk about what support could look like for you.

21/11/2025

Is this my intuition… or just my ADHD brain being dramatic again?

If you’ve ever asked yourself that, you’re not alone.

Intrusive thoughts are:

Unwanted, random, often upsetting thoughts or images
Loud, urgent and sticky
Fuelled by anxiety, shame and “what if…?”

They can sound like:

“What if I mess everything up?”
“They definitely hate me now.”
“What if I lose control and do something awful?”

They feel intense in the body (racing heart, tight chest, knot in the stomach). They push you to react quickly, fix, apologise, over-explain, or avoid.

Intuition is different. It’s usually:

Quieter and more grounded
A gentle sense of “this feels right/wrong for me”
Less dramatic, more steady

It might show up as:

A calm knowing that a situation isn’t safe or aligned
A soft pull towards or away from something
A sense of “this doesn’t sit well with me”, without panic

A quick check-in you can use:

Does this feel like a scream or a whisper?
Is my body in full alarm (panic, urgency), or is this a calmer, deeper sense?
Am I reacting from fear and old wounds, or from a place that feels more solid?

If it’s loud, catastrophic and urgent, it’s more likely an intrusive thought / anxiety / RSD.

If it’s quieter, consistent and not fuelled by panic, it’s more likely intuition.

You are not a bad person for having intrusive thoughts. They are a brain glitch, not a moral verdict.

If any of this resonates and you want someone to speak to to decipher the messages, then contact me for an informal conversation.

21/11/2025

21/11/2025

Are any other ADHD’ers struggling with impulse buying right now? I'm the main gift buyer of our house and this time of year especially… people ask what you’d like, I open my phone to “have a quick look” and suddenly I’m scrolling, hyperfocused, lost in a sea of tabs and “must haves”.

Before I know it, I’ve convinced myself I need that thing right now. Not next month. Not “after I’ve thought about it”. Not as a lovely gift from so and so. Now.

For many of us with ADHD, it is not about being careless or greedy. It is:
- dopamine hunting
- decision fatigue
- overwhelm from too much choice
- the pressure of “picking the right thing” when people are asking what we want

I’m starting to:
- add everything to a 24 hour “cool off” basket/list instead of buying
- ask for experiences or vouchers rather than specific items
- notice the urge and name it: “this is my brain looking for relief, not a real emergency Zoe”

If you’re an ADHD’er who impulse buys, you’re not alone. Your brain is doing its best to cope in a very noisy, very sales driven season.

What (if anything) helps you pause before you click “buy now”?

20/11/2025

18/11/2025

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18/11/2025

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18/11/2025

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17/11/2025